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“Women are not objects.”

Yes, I agree. No one should objectify women.

It is worth pointing out, however, that some women “self-objectify” and/or explicitly allow others (likely someone they trust) to objectify them, maybe as a kink. In these cases, it is done with consent from all parties involved. Most importantly, there is aftercare. And even then, I would further note, they are a minority. Objectifying the self as a woman, whatever her reasons may be, is a privilege that not all women could do or want to do.

Women should have complete autonomy over their own bodies.

“People who sexualize women have no right to be called human beings…”

I could only imagine the emotions that would spur a woman to write such generalization. Women has to endure daily hardships brought by patriarchy we all live and take part in. I know from personal experience how machismo corrodes women’s welfare.

Although a minority, it is worth noting that even women and other non-men can be misogynistic. Patriarchy is affects everyone’s behavior, no matter the sex and gender. This open letter by Yannah Angela comes to mind as an example, in which the author writes about (trigger warning) sexual assault and child abuse as a direct consequence of patriarchy.

Also, are women who sexualize—maybe even objectify—themselves for whatever reason (e.g., for sex work) included in this reduction?

Now, I—as a cis-hetero male, apparently non-human being—wish to argue for whatever is left of my personhood by saying: it is normal to be physically attracted to, to sexualize even, the opposite sex (women) and other femme-presenting folks (if you get what I mean). It is the following actions and inactions that matter more, in my humble opinion. Any actions that lead to, or any inactions that neither prevent nor stop, violence against women (online or in meatspace), including sexual harassment, assault, and abuse, should be condemned and be made accountable in any reality.

Some examples:

Masturbating to the thought of some person one has sexualized in their heads is okay, but masturbating to revenge porn is detestable.

Getting turned on by the idea of having sex with some stranger on the internet is okay, but sliding in their DMs unprompted to let them know of the fact is creepy.

Consensual freaky and nasty sex is great, but if the safeword is uttered, stop immediately and proceed to aftercare.

But what about writing smut on the internet for fun?

does she really need to complete the sentence for u to understand the context? ofc, what she meant was people who sexualize women WITHOUT CONSENT have no right to be called human beings. the post was obviously about women whose photos are stolen, shared, reposted on adult sites & sexualized without their permission, not about consensual kinks, sex work, or women who willingly express their sexuality. idk why u interpreted it that way.

being physically attracted to someone is normal. respecting people’s boundaries should be normal too. but once u reduce someone to a sexual object without their consent, that’s no longer just attraction.

you even started defending ur “personhood” as if the post was personally attacking every cis-hetero man. if ur first reaction to a post condemning non-consensual sexualization is to defend the word “sexualize” instead of condemning the people who actually do it without consent, then maybe u completely missed the point there.

kaya pag may victims, “ano bang suot niya?” “bat kasi nag-post siya ng ganyang picture?” “bat pa kasi siya nagpa-picture?” instead of asking, “bat may mga taong gumagawa non?” the focus is always on the victim instead of the person who actually crossed the line.

when will people realize that we don't dress up or make ourselves look sexy for u to sexualize or disrespect us? the way we dress, the photos we post or the confidence we have in ourselves is not an invitation for harassment, objectification or exploitation. it is never consent!!

& y is the blame still always placed on women instead of holding the people who committed the wrongdoing accountable? bakit laging advice “mag-ingat ka” “wag kang mag-post” instead of teaching people not to harass, not to steal someone’s photos & not to sexualize people without their consent.

“Women are not objects.”

Yes, I agree. No one should objectify women.

It is worth pointing out, however, that some women “self-objectify” and/or explicitly allow others (likely someone they trust) to objectify them, maybe as a kink. In these cases, it is done with consent from all parties involved. Most importantly, there is aftercare. And even then, I would further note, they are a minority. Objectifying the self as a woman, whatever her reasons may be, is a privilege that not all women could do or want to do.

Women should have complete autonomy over their own bodies.

“People who sexualize women have no right to be called human beings…”

I could only imagine the emotions that would spur a woman to write such generalization. Women has to endure daily hardships brought by patriarchy we all live and take part in. I know from personal experience how machismo corrodes women’s welfare.

Although a minority, it is worth noting that even women and other non-men can be misogynistic. Patriarchy is affects everyone’s behavior, no matter the sex and gender. This open letter by Yannah Angela comes to mind as an example, in which the author writes about (trigger warning) sexual assault and child abuse as a direct consequence of patriarchy.

Also, are women who sexualize—maybe even objectify—themselves for whatever reason (e.g., for sex work) included in this reduction?

Now, I—as a cis-hetero male, apparently non-human being—wish to argue for whatever is left of my personhood by saying: it is normal to be physically attracted to, to sexualize even, the opposite sex (women) and other femme-presenting folks (if you get what I mean). It is the following actions and inactions that matter more, in my humble opinion. Any actions that lead to, or any inactions that neither prevent nor stop, violence against women (online or in meatspace), including sexual harassment, assault, and abuse, should be condemned and be made accountable in any reality.

Some examples:

Masturbating to the thought of some person one has sexualized in their heads is okay, but masturbating to revenge porn is detestable.

Getting turned on by the idea of having sex with some stranger on the internet is okay, but sliding in their DMs unprompted to let them know of the fact is creepy.

Consensual freaky and nasty sex is great, but if the safeword is uttered, stop immediately and proceed to aftercare.

But what about writing smut on the internet for fun?

𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘸𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘯 𝘴𝘢𝘺 𝘸𝘦’𝘳𝘦 𝘵𝘪𝘳𝘦𝘥 𝘰𝘧 𝘣𝘦𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘴𝘦𝘹𝘶𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘻𝘦𝘥, 𝘸𝘦’𝘳𝘦 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘵𝘢𝘭𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘵𝘩𝘺, 𝘮𝘶𝘵𝘶𝘢𝘭 𝘢𝘵𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯. 𝘸𝘦’𝘳𝘦 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘵𝘢𝘭𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘦𝘯𝘴𝘶𝘢𝘭 𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘩𝘪𝘱𝘴 𝘰𝘳 𝘴𝘦𝘹 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘬 𝘦𝘪𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳. 𝘸𝘦’𝘳𝘦 𝘵𝘢𝘭𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺𝘥𝘢𝘺 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘣𝘦𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘳𝘦𝘥𝘶𝘤𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘮𝘢𝘭𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘶𝘮𝘱𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯. 𝘰𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘴𝘵𝘳𝘦𝘦𝘵. 𝘢𝘵 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘬. 𝘪𝘯 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘴𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴. 𝘶𝘯𝘥𝘦𝘳 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦𝘭𝘺 𝘪𝘯𝘯𝘰𝘤𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘵𝘴. 𝘪𝘵 𝘯𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘴𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘴.

someone recently reached out to me & informed me that there are people taking my photos from here and posting them on an adult site. this includes not only my old “thirst trap” posts but also my personal selfies.

plsss, if may makita kayong tumblr mutuals ninyo, kindly report those users. i would really appreciate any help in getting these accounts taken down.

i’ve decided to leave tumblr for good. this is not a safe space for me anymore & it honestly no longer feels comfortable staying here. thank uuu tumblr people for the time & connections. we can still be mutual sa ig. pm nyo lang ako for my username para ma-follow natin isa’t isa.

please be careful din sa pagpo-post dito kasi some of my tumblr mutuals are also on that site hindi lang ako. we never really know where our content might end up or who might be affected. mej scary lang kasi even a simple selfie na mukhang sexy, pinopost din sa site na yon.

also, the person who was previously using AI to generate/edit photos is still active sa insta, but it’s a private account. so we don’t really know what she’s uploading there— be careful nalang din & please stay cautious when it comes to accounts like that.

it’s on nsfwph, tho it might be difficult to access. the usernames are kasper_ & eiji.