In Love With Women… Afraid Of Women

My boss’s wife, who is my gym coach and an amazing woman, dm’ed me on insta saying (my boss) he’s been cheating on her for two years. That is what the preview of the message says. I haven’t clicked it because I’m hoping she’ll delete it.

I feel like a shit person because I knew he was cheating. I found out accidentally by hitting paste on the phone. The Apple bullshit has the feature where if you copy on the computer and you hit paste on the phone it will show up. My job is to post on insta and TikTok so I copy and paste the captions to both platforms. So in my pasting I got a giant ass message that seemed to be from the wife’s perspective of his cheating. I didn’t read any of it on purpose, I was trying to delete it and just caught stuff. I had read “I can’t stop thinking about if he’s thinking about her” and shit like that. It’s even worse because the woman he was cheating with is the masseuse in the gym. And apparently she had a kid with her husband and got cheated on really badly and was traumatized so why the fuck would you do that to someone years later?!

I had also found he used websites that are like live chat rooms with girls. Cam girls I think. I found this out maybe around January or a little before. And I told my mom and she told me to pretend I know nothing and not to tell my dad. My dad and boss are very close friends. I never planned on telling my dad anyways because I didn’t want to put him in a hard position.

I’ve been having to act normal with him and his wife for months on end pretending I know nothing because I need this job. I haven’t been successful in getting a new job or even interviews at all so I really need this. And I feel guilty for thinking about myself in this moment but it’s hard not to. I love his wife and would choose her side in a heartbeat because she does deserve so much better. Since the moment I met her i questioned why she would choose him because she’s so hot and he’s a gross ass man. But again I need this job so I feel like I can’t choose her side and now that she sent this dm I feel like I can’t be on either side or pretend I know nothing. I feel backed into a corner.

Apparently his wife messaged like 10 people that he cheated and because this is a jiu jitsu gym and community is everything, the men brought beer to the gym and hung out with him. And that is why men fucking suck. Even my dad is still like going to the gym and only has disappointment. Like I’m fucking angry for his wife, who is an amazing woman. And I’ve been able to not have as much anger because I came across that message accidentally so I’ve had time to have my feelings. Which helps in this case because now I can just be disappointed in him too.

I’m going to be professional because I need this job until I can find another and the job search has been shit. I have been applying since I started this one because this was given to me to help me out kind of because he’s friends with my dad.

My boss’s wife, who is my gym coach and an amazing woman, dm’ed me on insta saying (my boss) he’s been cheating on her for two years. That is what the preview of the message says. I haven’t clicked it because I’m hoping she’ll delete it.

I feel like a shit person because I knew he was cheating. I found out accidentally by hitting paste on the phone. The Apple bullshit has the feature where if you copy on the computer and you hit paste on the phone it will show up. My job is to post on insta and TikTok so I copy and paste the captions to both platforms. So in my pasting I got a giant ass message that seemed to be from the wife’s perspective of his cheating. I didn’t read any of it on purpose, I was trying to delete it and just caught stuff. I had read “I can’t stop thinking about if he’s thinking about her” and shit like that. It’s even worse because the woman he was cheating with is the masseuse in the gym. And apparently she had a kid with her husband and got cheated on really badly and was traumatized so why the fuck would you do that to someone years later?!

I had also found he used websites that are like live chat rooms with girls. Cam girls I think. I found this out maybe around January or a little before. And I told my mom and she told me to pretend I know nothing and not to tell my dad. My dad and boss are very close friends. I never planned on telling my dad anyways because I didn’t want to put him in a hard position.

I’ve been having to act normal with him and his wife for months on end pretending I know nothing because I need this job. I haven’t been successful in getting a new job or even interviews at all so I really need this. And I feel guilty for thinking about myself in this moment but it’s hard not to. I love his wife and would choose her side in a heartbeat because she does deserve so much better. Since the moment I met her i questioned why she would choose him because she’s so hot and he’s a gross ass man. But again I need this job so I feel like I can’t choose her side and now that she sent this dm I feel like I can’t be on either side or pretend I know nothing. I feel backed into a corner.