Tie me down... if you can

just a brat and her knife

As a dom(me), I absolutely do not care if I'm choking my sub and I am deep in a dominant character in roleplay and I do not care if it "ruins the mood" or "breaks character" - I am going to ask my sub:

if they can breathe as well as they want to,

what (traffic light) colour the scene is right then and

if their tears are good tears or bad tears.

Why? Why do I do this, when we both love roleplay so much?

Well, because - although it seems pretty mainstream - choking and some other actions can be seriously dangerous for your sub's physical and mental health if you do it wrong and you don't know how your sub is feeling.

And because I find that you both can slip straight back into roleplay immediately as long as the answers are positive.

"Breaking character" is not permanent, disastrous or a mood-killer when it's to confirm safety and enjoyment.