It'd be nice if the "sex positivity" was about like...women demanding orgasms and pleasurable sex with their partners with the threat of kicking them to the curb if the don't deliver. Instead it shames women to accept whatever kink their partner has in the name of being "open-minded" and that they shouldn't prioritize having an orgasm anyway because "sex isn't all about orgasms". A woman wanting to have "vanilla" sex with her partner and still climax is viewed as boring. Like, if your male partner consistently gets off each time and you never do, why would you stay with that person if you're "sex positive"? Sure seems unfair to the woman in that situation, almost like it's just another way to get women to do only what men want in bed 🤔.
This is specifically about that post that's been circulating radblr about the woman who broke her neck getting her hair pulled. She described their relationship sensually, called his penis a goddamn treasure, and then concluded the post saying he never made her cum once. So she was letting a man roughhouse her body for no pleasure in return and nobody seems to find that weird. Why was she with him at all? Why is her only comment on this situation to pull hair "safely"? He was hurting her and she admitted that she didn't even enjoy sex with him and nobody cares because they're "sex-positive". The sex positivity movement is fucking cancer.
I'm bringing this back because it still pisses me off and I feel it's relevant. This is how she starts out talking about sex with this guy:
One part that I didn't include was how she talked about greeting him at the door and he pretty much instantly initiated sex. The whole story makes her sound like a MRA's dream girl: she greets him in her own home wearing high heels and stylish clothes and makeup, has sex with him immediately without complaint, lets him do whatever he wants to get off, and barely even complains about the grievous injury she receives at his hands or the fact that she didn't orgasm once during her entire relationship with him. She mentions that he never thought of her pleasure like it was an afterthought to her, an additional strike against him but not enough on its own to be brought up. And despite that, despite her being a "cool girl" who he apparently said was "marriage material", he still drops her like she's nothing to him the moment she was injured because he obviously couldn't be bothered.
Even to the very end of her story, she doesn't think he did anything wrong by pulling her hair like that nor does she denounce "rough sex". All she talks about is how to pull hair "safely". Like....this is fucked up. How could you read this and not see that man as anything but a self-obsessed, misogynistic, abusive asshole despite all her attempts to paint him to the contrary? He literally fucked her when he felt like it, broke her neck, then left like it was none of his business.
This is what porn culture does to women: it makes them rationalize their own abuse because they and everyone around them continually justify it as normal and any serious incidents that occur because of "rough sex"/BDSM/etc are waved off as "dumb, badly-executed moves". This isn't healthy, you shouldn't wave off this kind of shit as just a mistake. I doubt this man was unaware of the amount of force he was pulling her hair with. Acting like it was completely unintentional is disingenuous. If it was really a mistake, if this dude had felt any remorse for what he did, he wouldn't have left her immediately after. This was a man who used a woman and then threw her away and he should be villified for that.




















