beautiful blur

i really dont care at all that my ex is engaged because the girl is also a piece of shit pathological liar and deserves whatever is coming her way. but it is driving me crazy that she has a daughter & refuses to acknowledge the extent of his abuse.

i told her. the girl before me told her. the girl before that told her. this isnt "crazy, toxic ex". this is telling the girl that thinks because she now has a ring on her finger that she's immune to it. a boy (cause that sure af isnt a man) like that doesnt change. he's cheated on & abused every girl he's been with.

he's lied about his entire life to all of us. he did not cut his family off, they cut him off, for good reason. when this girl flew him out to abet in the cheating? the lie he told me? his sister's husband was abusing her & she was in the hospital. not true! when he got back & he finally got kicked out, the lie he used about why he was struggling to get out right away? his uncle had a heart attack & and was undergoing open heart surgery. this did happen. 2 years ago. his aunt said she hadnt spoken to him in 3 years. even when she tried to tell him about his uncle.

i watched him punch his laptop & have no memory of doing it. at one point he got into an argument with my parents when i was not home, & somehow ended up pushing my disabled mom. i didnt find out about this until we broke up. he said awful, horrible things about my parents to me. then about me & my family to the girl & her family & they were all lies. we let him live here rent free for over 2 years (no job!) because none of us wanted to see him on the street.

& this is after the fact that our first 2 years together were great. i loved him. my family loved him. my friends loved him. he still went off & did all this. so to watch this girl & her family act like he is the best thing to ever happen to her... yeah, we thought so too.

she also didnt tell her family or daughter's father about how she actually met him. thru instagram. moved him straight into the house around her five year old daughter without any form of vetting or making sure he was who he said he was, that he wasn't some creep, etc. put her daughter at risk & lied about it to everyone.

and how do i know he's not who he said he is? immediately after he moved out (when i no longer had to worry about any form of danger), i confronted him with evidence of everything. i am talking actual photos of him with her. i sent him a screenshot that she posted on halloween of them together (he was still trying to lie & say he was with his aunt & uncle)... then they blocked me. the first time he flew out i saw him in the back of one of her videos & asked. he said it wasnt him. when he flew back, she started wearing my shirts that he had taken with him. i told both of them that's sick af & to send them back. she thought i was the crazy ex & was stalking her. i sent her pictures of him still in my bed. so she blocked me. again.

i wont even begin to go into detail about the car he totaled & how he told me it was his dead dad's & the only thing he had left from him. it wasn't. it was from the ex before me. the same ex that saw him committing identity theft when he was in insurance by stealing clients information & applying for payday loans.

he's never had money. he grifted every place he's ever lived in. he cant hold a job. he's the absolute biggest piece of shit i have ever encountered. & this is from someone that stayed with him for 5 years. 2 years longer than i ever should have. but holy fuck, at least i never got stuck with a ring. or a kid.