coffee bitch

anyway! my new personal blog is @lailahel, you are by no means obligated to follow it, obviously. I will probably post about my Heterosexual Relationship a lot so I understand if you don’t wanna hear it lol. I’ll come back to this one eventually but I gotta invest more energy into my improving my situation irl

y’all…this article is seriously so fucking awful. it is basically saying lesbians are regressive and ~~~too exclusionary~~~~ yet again. YET AGAIN never attacking gay men or straight people for “””genital preferences”””…

perhaps the worst quote: “Some lesbians who don’t go full-out TERF are still all too eager to write off dating trans people because of “genital preferences,” which means they have incredibly reductive ideas about gender and bodies.”

did you know you’re an evil terf if you don’t like penis?

this is liberal conversion tactics. penis-centric sexuality is pushed on lesbians in the name of justice.

this is liberal “corrective” rape culture. shaming and guilt tripping lesbians into intimacy they are not interested in so they won’t get the stigma of a “full-out TERF”.

this is the feminist-approved kind of homophobia and misogyny.

The part you quoted really shows how bi women are happily cheerleading the corrective rape of lesbians for male approval. Putting “genital preferences” in scare quotes, wow. And as op said, straight men and women’s and even gay men’s genital preferences are just fine. More quotes from this article:

comparing homophobic straight women trying to push lesbians out of feminism (the Lavender Menace) to lesbians trying to push trans males and bisexual women out of… what exactly, our beds?

the open contempt for lesbians who are rape victims… “TERFs long for the days before the Michigan’s Womyn’s Festival was shut down because it excluded trans people, often citing their past sexual traumas as the reason they’d rather not fraternize with women who have, or may have once had, a penis”

Gaslighting. “Though lesbians are by no means under attack by gains in trans acceptance”

“a binary label like “gay” or “lesbian” starts to feel somewhat stale and stodgy.”

“When there are so many genders out there, is it close-minded — or worse, harmful and exclusionary — if you identify with a label that implies you’re only attracted to one?”

“trans-exclusionary radical feminists (aka lesbians) are an entirely different kind of extremist breed”

Portraying in a positive light a straight man (”trans lesbian”) who wants to rape lesbians (he’s the one who said “not even considering that having my penis inside you is different from having a man’s penis inside you? That hurts” and also this) and quoting him calling lesbians “so boring and close-minded”

Right after quoting the straight man who wants to rape lesbians, this bi woman says “so maybe we can simply continue to challenge the traditional definition of lesbianism” - I’ve never seen a better illustration of what I said above - “bi women are happily cheerleading the corrective rape of lesbians for male approval”. The “we” here really shows how bi women think nothing of allying themselves with homophobic straight men to help them in their fight against lesbian sexual boundaries. But hey, we all have it equally bad in the wlw community because of our same-sex attraction, right?

then there’s the sentence e-h quoted, which translates to “Some lesbians who are willing to be nice and accommodating to men who call themselves lesbians are still all too eager to write off dating these men because of “genital preferences” which means our conversion therapy and corrective rape rhetoric hasn’t completely bullied them into submission yet, we must try harder”

“the word “lesbian” has carried such a deeply uncool connotation for so long — sometimes for terrible reasons (ugly, old-fashioned, essentialist stereotypes) and sometimes for extremely legitimate ones (a history of transmisogyny)” (= misandry)