Notes

“You’re right. You do take up more space now. Today, your laughter fills the whole room. Today, you play a bigger role than just “sick”. Yes. Your body takes up more space now. And look how much it can do. Look how much it has struggled through. The healing is big. So yes, my sweet warrior. You take up more space now. Thank God.”

This is a thing many people outside your grief cannot understand: that you have not simply lost one person, at one point in time. You have lost their presence in every aspect of your life. Your future has changed as well as your “now”.

“The more you love your own decisions the less you need others to love them.”

“I think you are having a different sort of heartbreak. Maybe a kind of heartbreak of being in the world when you don’t know how to be. If that makes any sense?”