whimsy wizard

"just go to a food pantry"

no one ever talks about how isolating being transmasc is. you're not "one of the girls and the gays" because you're not a girl and not seen as a guy enough to be gay. you kill the mood when you bring up how men Can get pregnant in real life when people make mpreg jokes. your old friends talk about how "nasty" men are and how they want to "kill all men". your queer acquaintance tells you that fujoshis are just perverts trying to fetishise gay men. cishetallo guys talk over you. cisgay guys talk over you. you go home and your parents toss out your masculine attires for you "daring to be a man".

This is literally what people are talking about when they say AI will be used to mainstream widely held bigotry. LLMs are trained on frequency and probability -> straight relationships are more well represented in the dataset -> straight pronouns and terms become the "correct" normal.

Idk where people get the idea that ‘erasure’ is like, a preferable alternative to violence. Erasure is not the absence of violence, it is the systematic refusal to acknowledge violence. It’s watching a drowning man and refusing to help. It’s turning your back on the sick, the starving, and the imprisoned.

Conversation openers for starting a conversation with a random person next to you:

when avoiding the task doesn’t even free you from the obligation of it because youll still be thinking about it fucking constantly

“It just means you have to work double as hard as most people!”

“The LEGO Movie was my favorite movie of 2014, but it strikes me that the main character was male, because I feel like in our current culture, he HAD to be. The whole point of Emmett is that he’s the most boring average person in the world. It’s impossible to imagine a female character playing that role, because according to our pop culture, if she’s female she’s already SOMEthing, because she’s not male. The baseline is male. The average person is male. You can see this all over but it’s weirdly prevalent in children’s entertainment. Why are almost all of the muppets dudes, except for Miss Piggy, who’s a parody of femininity? Why do all of the Despicable Me minions, genderless blobs, have boy names? I love the story (which I read on Wikipedia) that when the director of The Brave Little Toaster cast a woman to play the toaster, one of the guys on the crew was so mad he stormed out of the room. Because he thought the toaster was a man. A TOASTER. The character is a toaster. I try to think about that when writing new characters— is there anything inherently gendered about what this character is doing? Or is it a toaster?”