warning signs of toxic, abusive friends
given events in my personal life, I made a list of red flags showing that one of your friends or several might be manipulative and abusive.
when you express the ways in which they have hurt you, they blame you, yell at you, and make you out to be the āproblemā
they get upset for things you do but do those same things themselves, ie: hypocrisy
they treat you differently than other friends, ie: theyāre meaner
if youāre always the one that reaches out to them and they tell you that you arenāt trying hard enough if you ever stop
they bail, ditch, or ignore events that are important to you
and get mad at you if you call them out on it
they use you to get things (money, gifts, attention) but never return the favour
they knit pick the smallest of issues and blow them out of proportion
they twist situations where they wronged you into you wronging them
they āteam upā with other people against you, meaning they turn others against you
when other people in your life donāt understand why they are angry with you, or actively tell you that youāre not doing anything wrong, ie: only the toxic friends are the ones that have these issues with you
they use your weaknesses to their advantage to harm you or win a fight
I know itās hard, but run. they are not worthy of you, no matter what they trick you into believing.
you are not a broken mistake. you are not unworthy. other people will love you. they have convinced you of otherwise.