love languages x the boyz
felt like writing about love again. i believe in it.
other love languages: day6
at first, it’s wordless. just the happenstance that he remembers that you do your laundry every thursday evening and shows up at your doorstep with extra fabric softener. just the coincidence that he brought over that comfort food you mentioned craving a day or two ago.
but then, it becomes a welcomed understanding. he is going out of his way to pick you up from your late shift, even though he’s got practice in the next two hours. he is carrying that extra heavy delivery the postman left three doors down.
“i’m doing this because i chose to. i’m doing this because i am accommodating and compromising and sacrificing and even hindering myself knowingly for you. without annoyance, without the idea that you owe me anything in return.”
sangyeon is extremely bond orientated - once he’s with you, he’s with you. in many ways, you come before he does.
you try to assure him that you can clean that up later or grab those groceries after work, but why should you? he’ll do it.
“you live in the opposite direction of where i’m going.”
“won’t it be annoying to drive back and forth twice?”
“no, because while i’m driving you there - we’ll be together. how could that ever be annoying?”
sangyeon moves you closer to him, puts his hands on yours and then wraps them around his torso so that you can press as close as possible to his chest
you never tell him when you need a hug like this, he just knows to do it
simplicity is his favorite thing in the world, and there isn’t anything more simple then showing up
it can be a soft and comfortable silence, you sit against the pillows on his bed and read, the bookmark he brought you back from tour waiting for you to pick a spot to pause. jacob sits at his desk, tuning his guitar and scrolling through samples of songs the company sent over. halfway through the list he notices you humming that one tune in particular and a smile curls at his lips.
it can be a get together with everyone, almost rehearsed in the energy of the room. you and jacob where you both belong, enveloped in your bubble. he pats his knee and you lean against it as you watch the chaos of his members unfold around you. his hand is around your waist, you press a small kiss into his hair every now and then between laughs.
jacob just wants you around
he wants your presence, the shift of the air in the room when you move around, the smell of your body wash on his clothes, the comfort in knowing he can reach out into a direction and touch your warm skin
although he’s a homebody who likes his alone time
he’s come to love you so much that being alone together is the only option he even considers anymore
it doesn’t matter that his job comes with the perk of being showered in constant comments and screams and declarations, both digital and inperson, of love.
younghoon needs to hear you say it everyday.
it can be any form of “i love you”, it can be “i’m proud of you.” or “i care about you.” or “i see how hard you’re working, i see how much you try.”
it has to come from you and you have to be clear about it.
either in a whisper against the shell of his ear right after you two wake up or a bright exclamation when you return home and he rushes to gather you in his arms
younghoon can sometimes fall into the hole of equating his worth to the praise that he hears from others, and you gently try to coax him out of this, but you still understand that it’s who he is - so you’ll remind him as much as he needs that you love him for him
for the version of him on stage, off stage, in public, in private.
but also, that his worth is his own. you know the work he puts in.
your voice calms him down, it centers him, and sometimes he can get a little too head over heels with his emotions so having you talk him through it helps a lot
younghoon falls asleep on the phone with you almost every night that you two aren’t together, “say it again please….” his voice dips an octave as he floats between consciousness and sleep, “we’ll see each other soon, you know i like you, but you know i love you too.”
surprise, surprise - but no really, it is physical touch
there is a longing inside of hyunjae that feels a little like grasping, he’s always reaching out to be held. that grasping finally finds a purpose when he meets you.
kissing you is natural, having you run your hands down his back is natural, pressing his face into the crook of your neck is natural.
and when he isn’t close to you, he feels like a part of him is unnatural. kind of like a phantom limb.
there’s a reassurance in his heart that everything will be ok, but it’s only true when you’re holding each other - and hyunjae isn’t the type to shy away from that. no hyunjae tells you this, tells you that the skin to skin contact is that important to him.
you are that important to him.
yes it can be a little clingy, but there’s something so endearing of having to use both your hands to do the dishes and hyunjae offers his help but you wave him off and yet he insists on sticking onto you, happy to watch the repetitions of your hands
there’s something endearing about his body even seeking you out in its sleep, wrapping you up - regardless of how sticky and sweaty you two get - hyunjae kicks the blankets off and pulls you close, eyes still shut
to be more precise, it’s more like acts of gratitude….acts of an answer. juyeon always wants to repay your choice of loving him with an action, something tangible that isn’t just a physical gift
he’s like a cat in the sense that he could bring you twigs and scraps but instead he chooses to do something more, well, helpful
nothing makes him happier than spending a night out with you, blissful happiness, then making sure to wake up earlier so he can make you your favorite kind of breakfast - or get an early start on your cleaning - or even just fix that loose screw on your bathroom’s mirror
because when you notice the little act, you thank him with a small surprised but beautiful happiness that makes him feel like you can understand just how much he adores you
showing the well of his love can be hard, doing these little things makes it easier
sometimes when you don’t even really notice the little things he’s done (brought your slippers in closer from where you kicked them off in the other room, wiped the table down before you set dinner)
he still feels that swell in his heart
“i’ll do it because i love you.”
“won’t it be hard to do?”
changmin’s own pride has everything to do with his body. his dancing makes up a part of his life that he would be lost without, so having you get to experience this body he has put so much work into really couldn’t be more of an authentic way of showing his love
and sure, intimacy and touching and caressing, but more than that it’s the attention and care
you massage his shoulders absentmindedly, trace lines on the lean muscle of his forearm, press yourself comfortably in-between his legs as the warmth wraps you two up closer
changmin takes great pleasure in knowing that you trust how strong he is, how lithe he can be in his movements, how that’s a trait of his that gets you going
even little squeezes of his palm in yours are enough to get you a little bit excited - it electrifies changmin’s heart even more
“do you want to hold my hand?”
“we’re in line at the grocery store.”
“still, it feels nice to hold it right?”
yes, in part the expensive and flashy and finer things in life are just chanhee’s preference but it’s not the act of spending money that’s the love language
it’s the proof that you know him so well. that you pay attention.
because chanhee is hard to actually shop for, he has always assumed he knows himself best and something can cost a lot but not be in his taste at all (this has been a common occurrence over his past relationships)
but you just get it. you get him. you get his tastes and his preferences and sometimes it’s almost like you can read what he needs before he really even knows it himself
so even if it’s something small and cheap or big and fancy - chanhee cherishes each and every one - because when you give it to him it reminds him:
this person really understands me, they listen, they love me.
and chanhee spoils you in return
he will never admit it, but part of him is playing catch up to just how amazing you are at giving him gifts
he hopes he can read you like you can read him, because apparently he’s been an open book ever since you two got together
quality time + physical touch
his language is here’s this experience i want to do, but we have to do it together or else it isn’t worth it
most of the times - this experience is outdoorsy, sporty, and most of all - fun
kevin’s love of live music events means he’s willing to splurge big on your favorite artists and then hold you close the entire time you’re both there - singing at each other and kissing and grabbing your hands like you’re kids again and this is your first concert ever
it’s also sometimes just a fancy rock climbing gym where kevin gets to hoist you up on his shoulders
or a all day pass at some new resort or theme park where kevin is happy to indulge in all the thrilling rides and yummy treats and matching souvenirs with the agreed upon “never let go of my hand or you might get lost” and water breaks that end with kisses
it’s the constant need to make memories, but kevin loves you so he wants those memories to always have you front and center
naturally extroverted, his love is big and proud and jumping into something new with the person you trust the most just seems to be the best way to prove that
similar to jacob, he enjoys his time alone and is a bit more of a homebody but the one thing about haknyeon is that he is very precise in the people he allows close to him
and by close, i mean exactly that, who gets his time is very important and he doesn’t just give it out without meaning
so the fact that he can justify spending all 24 hours, all seven days a week with you is a testament to just how much he loves you
haknyeon is quick to shut down situations he doesn’t want to be in. he doesn’t compromise just to make others in the room feel like he isn’t being rude.
he has lots of hobbies and he has passions that he’d rather devote himself to
but you - you are the exception. you are allowed everywhere, all the time, all at once.
and haknyeon wants to share what he does with you. he picks you over his solitude without question. it nearly shocks the rest of tbz just how much haknyeon goes out of his way to include you in his time.
“every minute is precious to me, my life is so busy i feel like i barely get to live it sometimes - but if doing nothing meant i could do it with you forever, i would.”
idol or not, sunwoo has a bad habit of finding the negatives - so sometimes all he really craves is someone who can tell him the truth without fail. that truth is a fact he sometimes forgets: sunwoo, you are always worth it and you are always loved.
eric calls him gloomy when he gets like this, but one phone call from you or even a text can change sunwoo’s whole day around
his heart grows three sizes when you pat his cheek and tell him he’s the cutest boy you’ve ever seen
in a funny way, sunwoo gets embarrassed when you’re too straightforward about it
he gets all hot at the neck and tries to stutter out a “d-don’t say that.” when you get really impassioned, proclaiming that he’s the one you want to be with forever and there isn’t anyone else on this planet that could the one for you but him
but it makes his head spin with that feeling - that feeling of love, a love that is almost on par with godly infatuation because how is it real that you, you - YOU!!! feel that way about him!!! the way he feels about you!!!
sunwoo is still pretty young, but he can’t help it - declaration like that make him believe that that love he watched on tv or read about in comics, it’s real.
acts of service + physical touch
so for eric, the above two are the same thing
smothering you with love, with his hands in your hair and his lips on yours and the entire world melting away into nothingness - that’s touching, yes, but that’s also a service
making you feel appreciated and loved makes eric feel appreciated and loved
the best way to do that is to be physical, everything must be tangible to eric for him to really feel it at full force
of course, he can be a little overwhelming sometimes, but it comes with being with him
the answer to any of your lifes problems (in eric’s opinion) is having him show up at your front door with whatever you need, but more importantly with himself and his pretty face and strong hands and dedicated on track state of mind
you sometimes assume this honeymoon need will fade as you are together longer, but it never does
eric’s energy is poured into actions and transferred from his palms onto your skin
eric describes it to people like this:
“my love for them is crazy, if they turned into the sun i would burn myself everyday just to try and catch them.”