8) Most guys will cum fast and hard the first round and it can cause some embarrassment and disappointment (premature ejaculation). It may take anywhere from 5 minutes to 15 minutes, to a few hours to get hard again and go for round two. So, you want to time things like this: first, guy gets a blow job/hand job and he cums. Then, he enters into his refractory period. Meanwhile he reciprocates by going down on the woman. This is a perfect method and time to get her all warmed up for sex. After sheâs satisfied (she should tell you), you should be ready for intercourse. Since the guy (you) has recently busted his nut, round two will take much longer to reach orgasm (depending on the guy, the pace, and how well he can monitor and control his body). 9) Just a few things to add to #3: Itâs all about the clit. For some women, their clit will be extra sensitive until theyâve warmed up a bit more. Direct touch may be painful! So, assume every womanâs clit is really sensitive at first and slowly work your way to it through foreplay, light massage/kisses/licks everywhere but on her clit. As you home in on her clit, pay attention to how sheâs responding (vocally & through body language). Youâre going to want to master the âteaseâ with her: âYou giveth, and you taketh away.â Women are better at enduring the teasing, but it *really* gets them worked up and ready. Each woman is different in how much she can handle, how much teasing she likes, and how much she needs to get worked up to the point of insatiability. When sheâs fully ready to go, use two fingers to spread apart the folds hiding the clit and directly give it a few light licks, a few light sucks, and whatever else you come up with. If youâre a good multitasker, you should be able to finger her g-spot at the same time with medium upward pressure (short, clean fingernails are extremely important!!!!). 10) Communication IS important, but talking isnât the only way your woman will communicate with you. If youâre in the middle of going down on a woman, stopping to talk is the last thing you want to do (it stops the pleasure and at worst, may cause a regress). Pay attention to what sheâs saying (âoh god, oh yes! right there!â), how sheâs breathing (what causes her to gasp? take sharp intakes? etc), how her body is reacting (tensing of body, legs shaking uncontrollably, clenching legs, clenching vaginal muscles, vaginal lubrication levels, what her hands are doing, etc). If you know what to look for, you can read her like a book without stopping to talk, but talking is good if you and your partner are new/inexperienced with each other. 11) Most women actually like to be dominated/controlled a bit. It seems to be a psychological turn on for them when you assert your power over them. The amount and levels of dominance/control varies, so take it slow and easy to test the waters! Start simple by pinning a hand down so she canât move it. Pull her hair lightly to control where you want her head positioned (itâs a great way to expose her neck, ear and collar bone, ripe for kissing). Use your hand under her chin to lightly tilt her chin up as you go in for a kiss. Ultimately, you are communicating to her âYou are mine, Iâm going to take you, and youâre going to love it whether you can admit it or not.â You can get more dominantly aggressive by pinning them up against a wall, tree, bed, or other furniture as youâre doing foreplay (Donât try this on random strangers in the street though). Some women like a light choking, some like a bit more roughness and power, etc. You donât have to be into BDSM to be dominating :) 12) The most powerful sex organ is the brain (a few subtle suggestions can marinate nicely). The largest sex organ is the skin. Donât forget this! sex isnât solely about vaginas, breasts, butts and penises. 13) If youâre reasonably attractive, nice, interesting, and confident, every man/woman will want to have sex with you. Itâs just human nature. But even if all the criteria are met, there are a lot of reasons they may not have sex with you: -No opportunity -Pride/ego and/or âsaving faceâ -Cultural values cock block -Fears for safety So, a big part of sex is compensating for these possible issues. Donât gossip/brag about exploits, present a pretext (âwant to come up for some coffee? want to see my book collection?â), and try to avoid embarrassing anyone. As for fears for safety, donât cause your partner to lose control of the situation (they should be able to cancel/escape at any time with no objections from you), and practice safe sex. Being considerate really makes you a much better sex partner and you get sex more often!
