“I don’t understand you!”

How many times have you heard that? Or felt that way?

Clear up the cobwebs of confusion with this in-depth look at the sixteen distinct personalities. Learn the crazy and fascinating ways you differ from those around you… and how to better understand not only yourself, but them!

Why does this person grieve alone and that one wants support? How come some people learn things instantly, but others can’t grasp how to do something “basic”? Why do some people see the forest and not the trees, or the branches and not the forest?

Glimpse inside each type’s head through profiles written based on over a decade of research, interaction with those types, and personal stories. Now, you don’t need to call your cousin “crazy.” You’ll understand what motivates them. If you want to, that is.

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(Here it is on Goodreads.)

Excerpts are now available in the MBTI Section.

Introduction:

The incident seared into my brain. I can’t forget it, despite wishing I could. A friend invited me to her house for lunch. After the first bite, her dad said, “Yum! This is so delicious!” followed by all their kids saying, “It’s amazing, Mom! So good!”

I looked around the table, but said nothing. Not because it wasn’t good but my crazy brain thought, “If I say it’s good with the rest of them, she’ll think I said it just to be polite.”

I almost got away with it.

The dad looked at me, having noticed my silence. He wasn’t about to ignore it. “Charity, aren’t you enjoying your food?”

Cue everyone looking at me. My face switched into fire engine mode. I swallowed a mouthful of spaghetti. “Yes. It’s delicious.” I tried to smile as I said it, but knew it was coming out flat. I didn’t like being made to say it, but didn’t want to hurt her feelings. It was nothing against the family or the food, but I wanted to tell her face to face later, so she would know I meant it. So it would be genuine and private.

Sometimes people don’t understand how I see things. Some might even call me crazy. I know, I’ve looked at others before and thought, “That’s a weird way to look at things.” I never understood other people until I discovered personality types. This book will look at the sixteen different ways people think, which causes their behavior. It will show you no one way of processing information is “right.” Maybe you’ll read it and recognize yourself, but if you take a while, that’s okay. It’s a journey of discovery. I hope what I share makes it easier for you to know yourself and those around you.

Carl Jung came up with the sixteen types and the lettering that catalogs them. I’ve studied his theories for over a decade and gathered information from years of research and discussion with individuals who are aware of their type and knowledgeable about their daily thought processes (and able to admit to their strengths and weaknesses). As you read, you will learn how each type thinks. Hopefully, this will make you more understanding of them when you disagree on things. You will think some types are crazy, but remember, no type is the “right” type.

After all, we’re all a little “crazy” in each other’s eyes!

Watching him be himself over several months on the new show has been very helpful to disentangle his real personality from his previous persona. Perhaps contrasting Stephen Colbert and Ellen Degeneres will make the analysis easier to follow:

Stephen entertains to soothe his own loneliness and detachment (I); Ellen entertains to lift people’s spirits (E).

Stephen has a tendency to not-so-subtly push his own opinion/values when interviewing, his argumentativeness is genuine and personal (less flexible Fi-Si, seeks inferior Te validation); Ellen has a few causes she’s passionate about but does not really talk about them unless pushed to, opting instead to give the other person a chance to say whatever so that she can riff, her argumentativeness is playful and impersonal (flexible Ne-Te, seeks novelty to alleviate inferior Si boredom)

Stephen uses Ne silliness to camouflage what he really wants to say, meaning that his underlying motive is often to persuade (Ne is limited in scope and only used to service Fi); Ellen uses Ne silliness to elicit laughter regardless of substance, freely jumping from topic to topic with no need for a destination, completely ok with being silly for silly’s sake and not feeling self-conscious about it (Ne is loud and proud)

MBTI Types As Writers:

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INFP: predominantly poetry, or at least poetic prose. Lots of individualistic thought.

ENFP: deep thematic writing full of interesting unexpected metaphors as well as unusual plotlines.

INTP: usually a bit of a science-fiction edge, with a really interesting arc story and unexpected plot twists.

ENTP: basically their worldview in a fiction book, filled with only things they find interesting, and lots of new, exciting thoughts and connections. includes a twist ending almost always.

INFJ: deeply symbolic, very emotional and personal. goes under the surface of the topic to what it all means. few subplots.

ENFJ: creates very sympathetic characters, lots of analysis of the meaning of the events

INTJ: honest, direct prose, full of interesting plot turns as well as complex implications and criticisms of the real world.

ENTJ: lots of interesting critiques veiled in a complex plot

ISFP: usually poetic, often derived from personal experiences

ESFP: exciting and stimulating book without a lot of deeper analysis, but an extremely fun read

ISTP: action-focused book full of wild card characters and lots of snark and quirky humor

ESTP: action-filled book with sarcastic, fast-talking characters and lots of adventure

ISFJ: based on personal events and experiences, linear plotline with loveable characters

ESFJ: lots of intrigue, plot mostly derived from inter-personal drama

ISTJ: detail-oriented, with lots of world-building so that the reader has a complete understanding of how the world and characters work

Anyways, this is was of these dumb things where everyone loves it because it criticizes America, but nobody actually thinks of what it means. Like really wacanda doesn’t have horror stories? This more of diss towards Wacanda culture than anything. Also, I love the idea that they have access to American media, but they chose to watch Jersey shore over the shining.

I don’t know man! I just think it’s funny how you can create an entire culture that everyone loves, and still make it American obsessed. I mean the implication a culture so barren that American reality shows are considered horror stories. Even if wacanda does have horror stories and she is just being marvel funny, it still makes little sense. Sure Peter made a joke, but it was a serious point about the potential dangers of splitting up. A warrior would have understood his point and taken it seriously, instead of trying to turn it into a media battle between American and walanda. This just makes her look overly sensitive, as if she thinks Peter was mocking wacanda. In fact, even his joke wasn’t very original, so he couldn’t be mocking wacanda itself. Oh and Peter is like 12. What horror movies has even seen, bye bye man?

By the way, I get that this is a joke, but it’s really dumb and people are acting like it’s super clever. This is a middle level joke written by a morally questionable billion dollar company that is probably just bitter that they don’t own the rights to those same reality shows they are making fun of.

Se doms want positivity. They will try to make you feel positive so that they can feel positive, sometimes by telling jokes or funny stories. They observe your behaviors and reactions and respond to them moment to moment. They tend to be real, natural conversationalists, and good cheerleaders.

Ne doms want interesting conversation. They love to bounce ideas with people and go with whatever topic the conversation produces, gaining more energy the more interested/fascinated they are with the subject matter

Te doms want to feel engaged. They tend to have a storytelling style of conversation where they recount things to you, telling you about experiences or things they’re interested in. The more they like you, the more expressive they will be and the more they will humor you

Charles Dickens: Probably a 3w2

George Orwell: 6w5

Dante: either 1w9 or 9w1

Jane Austin: I lean 6w7, but definitely not a 4.

Hemingway: 8w7

Hawthorne: 9w1

Tolkien: either 6 or 9

C S Lewis: either 9 or 1

Terry Pratchett: probably 7, but definitely not a 4

Ray Bradbury: who is either 7 or a 9.

Mark Twain: 6w7

Shakespeare: I’m almost positive that he was a 7 core and I’m not even convinced he had a 4 fix.

Stephen King: I left off 5w4s, but I’m convinced that he’s a 5w6.

This not including writers that have a 4 wing like Fitzgerald (3w4). I also didn’t include writers that I think could be a 4 like Herman Melville (I think 9w8), or Neil Gaiman (who I see as 9w1). I’m also not including writers that I am very unsure about (like Lewis Carroll whom I could see being a 2 or 7).

The point is that all types can be creative and this is a personal pet peeve of mine. Thank you.