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MONOGAMY … . BUT MORE??????. (this is a title one has to think about)

“ … . why is it we are all taught that right living means we have to be a "one man woman” when we meet and get to know so many to find that one … “

Are we all conditioned to only experience one man or one woman? I have to ask myself that question after receiving questions about that which, at first, I felt was more of a joke but soon realized the question was a serious one. Why is it we focus on monogamous relationships when the reality is we aren’t monogamous, that our very being is such that we are attracted all the time to others of the opposite sex, etc yet we are told we are expected to find Mr. Right? The question hasn’t been put to me where I am expected to share that monogamy is wrong or some such result which allows one to indulge in things sensual and sexual with whoever. We do that already. The truth is we women can and do engage in things sensual and sexual in all manner of ways and to whatever degree we wish or how far we are willing or want to go all the time, often as part of that expected journey where seek our Mr. Right (or Ms. Right). We hop from relationship to relationship on that journey … And, again, the reality is that when a divorce or death happens it isn’t wrong and is often expected for the spouses(s) to seek another monogamous relationship or remarry. Then there are women who go from man to man. From this perspecctive, women aren’t made for one man when it comes to sex and similar relationships. We don’t want to admit it because that would be considered "immoral” . It isn’t. That is one of the reasons I am a follower of the Dark Lord. I’m not burdened by the idea that its wrong to think about other men much less get with them, a cornerstone of xian morality.

As a follower I can smile, realize this is a part of “being me”, and decide how I’m going to respond, if any is required. I may simply be momentarily attracted to someone at a distance and walk off having said to myself “I wish”. Or smile when i listen and watch others like my daughter who admits she has the hots for one of her girlfriend’s boyfriend.

I’m not saying that marriage is wrong, out of date, ancient, etc. What I am compelled to ask myself is this: Is the reason I am focused on finding my Mr. Right because of the way I have been raised and conditioned by the society in which I live? Certainly I am attracted to other men and them to me. We see that all the time in our life experiences. I will admit there is a problem with a two or more woman household. That problem is we women and how we relate to each other. If I want a biblical example, I consider the old patriarch Jacob … I find I return to his dilemma all the time. The biblical Almighty doesn’t seem to condemn what happened. Rather we find Jacob has his hands full because of all the sensual and relationship conflicts and contests going on in and around him. He was to marry the younger sister and he ended up marrying the older sister and then had to work seven more years to get the younger (he got her then, by the way, while having to work the additional time-he didn’t pine for her over the fence). So, the old patriarch has two wives and they are sisters at that. Then theres the issue about issue. I again call them the “fertility wars”. Consider this also: Jacob had twelve sons (we don’t know about daughters) who became the progenitors of the Twelve tribes of Isreal. We need to realize that not all of the twelve were born to his wives. In fact, the younger daughter, Rachel, the one he truly loved, gave him only two. (We aren’t made aware of girls or stillbirths, etc).

What happened was each of his wives sent their “handmaiden” into Jacob’s bed (just as Sarah did for Abraham i.e. Jacob and Esau). So there was this constant travel in and out of the old patriarch’s bed while Jacob had four women on his hands, all mothers of his children and all who, like any mom, expected only the best or a fair share, etc, … . you catch my drift. I have to wonder about how it was with four sometimes if not often catty bitches at each other behind the scenes when it came to “who’s first in the pecking order?”, “Who’s in bed with him now?” . Think about it . We women can be competitive and we have periods so think about what it was like especially when one or more of them was pregnant and had a bone to pick with him because this one over here received the gift or the dress or the whatever that the other wanted.

Then, again, getting back to being able to frequently engage more than one man, consider the prevalence of affairs and women who do just that even if they are married and espouse monogamy as the way to go. If there is one point porn proclaims, that is that a woman can experience more than one man if she wants and more than one man at a time because it’s there for anyone to see in the numerous multiple partner clips and pics. And the current cuckold and cuckquean craze is certainly indicative of this.

I am reminded about when i was in college. There were several girls who had a calendar in their dorm room where they kept up with how many dates each had during any giving month. It wasn’t uncommon for a girl to go almost the whole week, every night, out with some guy and even twice in one day and night … . And there was a pecking order: “Im serious about Sam but the others are cute, nice, hot, you name it. Why? Because they could, we could if we wanted to. We weren’t married to them … .yet. There was Angie, I remember her because she was dating the guy she married while she was seeing a married professor and fucking another. Then there is the current practice of living with your boyfriend if you want to do so "to see if you’re compatible”. BS. I know girls who have gone from relationship to relationship, moving out from one into the place of another. Recently there have been a plethora of these situations shared with me by women in our church where sis or daughter is doing just that and then there is divorced moms or grandmom’s who have “lodgers” or live in boyfriends. No one talks about it but everyone is aware. The truth is a woman can be there for more than one man even at the same time.

Of course, there is the emotional aspect in all this …and I haven’t addressed that aspect and won’t because, well, I have been reared to see monogamy as the norm. So i have to come to terms with “me” when it comes to what I do when I have to deal with my lust and desires and others.

I have a free mind and free will. I follow the Dark Lord because I am able to exercise these freedoms without fear of divine damnation because He is the one who created me with the senses that I experience. Society and the church may pillory me for this view. However, we women all the time deal with our lusts and desires in what are often seen as harmless ways. Over and over I point to chick flicks and soft porn romance or even romance stories filled with sex between the lines, popular sitcom, you name it, it’s there. Things sensual are always with us, always affects us and for the trying to be perfect xian wife always plagues us. Hell, I looked at the young guy today while out and had to smile while my daughter, doing the same, elbowed me. Lust and desire, even for a moment , is a reality. He’s another man. Again, think about it.

I’m going to stop at this point rather than continue because I feel I’ve made my point by simply pointing to real life. We women are made for more than one man if we want to experience that.

I found the above illustration which, well, illustrates my point. Forgive the flaws. Often xian wives and couples and xians in general don’t really give much thought to this topic. It’s best avoided because monogamy is the rule. But we don’t live by it. Monogamy may be the rule but the truth is we want and do experience more.

I selected the illustration from online,

I know this article is "windy" but these are my thoughts shared with me. I write this, post it here so I and others if they wish can

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