slow and steady

when it's framed as a "so just get married for legality reasons" and im like. you mean like how gay people married/marry people of the opposite gender for legality reasons? and that's considered to be a symptom of a problem, not the solution? you want people to "just" get married against their will because it's the only solution this system has available?

if people cannot or will not get married for whatever reason -- not just for being aromantic, but, say, due to inefficient disability support measures within marriage, because of having had bad experiences with marriage in the past, because of being polyamorous, because some element of marriage is ineffective, unwanted, limited, discriminatory, or hell, because you can't find somebody to marry or nobody wants to marry you, or maybe because you just plain don't want to without there being a distinct Reason -- then it's a problem that this is the only framework in place for people to be afforded certain legal and social protections.

i am glad for others that more people can get married, but it's a flawed institution with gaping holes that isn't for everyone and builds social structures that leave so many people behind and unsupported. this is abundantly obvious in the way that we saw why people pushed for the need for equal marriage in the first place.

that's what's said when making a point that it's a social construct. and also what's meant (partially) when pushing against the idea that "love" as concept isn't at the core of queer (amongst others hinted at in this post) activism, because it's about building better structures. if the only people we care about are those we "love" within a family unit, or those who successfully manage to pretend that unit without actually really wanting it, and if not being in that unit for whatever reason means that care isn't going to be/is no longer afforded, then are we really doing any better than heteronormativity?

Mexico amends its constitution to cut the maximum workweek from 48 to 40 hours by 2030 and gives 13.5 million workers the legal right to ignore their boss’s calls, messages, and emails after their shift ends, in the most significant overhaul of Mexican labor law in a generation.

2026, week 23 (june 1st - june 7th)

accomplishments this week:

went through some more training at work. I'm slowly becoming more confident that I know what I'm doing in this new role!

finished ch. 5 of Malware Data Science

started a programming project to practice on some of the data from the book + get back into Rust. I have been humbled by the compiler errors haha

highlights this week:

bought cherries at the farmer's market :D

the new game changer episode was so much fun to watch

hung out with my partner on the weekend & fixed up + homebrewed a wii we got a while back!

I played quite a bit of persona 5 royal

june days of productivity, day 5 (first week at the new job: survived! ✅️)

unlocking more coworker lore bc they're warming up to me. graduation to work on the ground level floor (we're speeding up my onboarding bc I'm That Good, so far). strawberries make the late shift sweet, sharing makes them sweeter. morning iced coffee and cat cuddles in the reading nook my beloved.

activities of today:

cat chores

kitchen chores

work

read ~20 pages

small tasks for both festival & market booth prep for league recruitment committee

currently reading: ich komme nicht zurück - rasha kayat, 4☆ so far (do you wanna be friends on storygraph?)

Book haul, very nice pins and one of the many books I have not bought (yet).

23|05|2026

june days of productivity, day 3

strawberries at work & strawberry delivery. certified clever guy. sunshine during lunch break.

activities of today:

started the redo of the time reality map

small tasks & communication for recruitment committee

cat chores

unloading the dishwasher

prepped my sauce for dinner

work

the keychains we get at work make me feel very cool and dyke-y >:)

plan for the evening: dinner, then book in the reading nook (& no phone!)