before we start posting that july is gay wrath month letâs consider that july is disability pride month first and foremost. the âbe gay do crimesâ memes can wait
before this post breaches containment and people start going âwhy not both heheheâ i want you to seriously consider the very long history of disabled peopleâs existence being pushed aside and/or seen as secondary. i promise you itâs not going to hurt to hold onto the memes and give disabled people space for visibility and celebration.
i say this as a disabled trans person whose trans identity is made front-and-center to the (mainly cis) people who know iâm trans but my identity as a disabled person is brushed off by the very same people.
the us govt is poised to strip disabled people of every right we have gained in the past 27 years as we speak. not theoretically. right now. the DOJ put out a memo that says that states do not have an obligation to give us the services we need to survive unless we are institutionalized. they are trying to resegregate disabled people. they want us either dead or detained in for-profit institutions. ask yourself: have any of the pride celebrations youâve attended this past month addressed this? made any meaningful effort to stand in solidarity with the disabled community while our rights to exist in public are being specifically targeted and systematically dismantled? have they offered any action items? words of encouragement? anything at all?
the nazis gassed disabled people first (look up aktion t-4 or watch the documentary disposable humanity.) the leftâs deliberate ignorance to our plight in favor of doing molly at the physically inaccessible corporate-sponsored pride parade is not unnoticed and will not save you from meeting the same fate we are headed for. fighting for us before we are gone is your best chance for survival.
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It's impressive how many ways this intersects and overlaps with bigoted ideas about most other marginalized groups. To act like those different from you by some arbitrary uncontrollable circumstance are lacking in skills that disability, economic status, etc. can impact and to then make that a point of contention is quite messed up. But I get the sense that the response to pointing this out will be quoting the "how dare you say we piss on the poor!" meme.
If you want to support intersex people, stop using the TMA/TME binary.
Iâm saying this as an intersex person.
The general consensus (from what Iâve seen) is that TMA means âtransmisogyny affectedâ and TME means âtransmisogyny exemptâ. At first it sounds like a good binary, but quickly falls apart once you see its flaws.
In usage, TMA refers exclusively to transfeminine or âAMABâ people. It does not acknowledge the transmisogyny faced by those who would be exempt from it.
For example, a gender-nonforming cis woman would face transmisogyny for looking like a transgender woman. Would she still be TME, despite being a target?
An intersex man would be considered TME, but if he goes through an estrogenising puberty that makes him look feminine and become a target of transmisogyny, would he become TMA or stay TME?
Is a non-binary person TME or TMA? I know it depends on their assigned gender at birth, which makes the whole point of this flawed system completely moot.
And ignoring all those said flaws, what is the point of inventing entirely new binaries just to show who is âexemptâ from bigotry, when everyone can face it one way or another?
What about the entire intersex community, who canât neatly fit into every single binary you make? What about those who canât be categorised as âTMEâ, nor âTMAâ?
It is simply intersexist in almost every way. There is no point of showing who can be and canât be affected by transmisogyny when you refuse to acknowledge the millions of people who donât neatly fit in a binary.
And if your first thought is some form of âI donât careâ or âtheyâre TME by defaultâ then you are the problem. This sort of binary is actively harming the community and only putting everybody in a divide.
Stop making useless binaries and actually focus on the real problems that plague the world!
Focus on the transgender men who are being silenced because of their assigned sex at birth!
Focus on the intersex babies being forcibly mutilated before they can even crawl!
Focus on the transgender people facing execution, possibly being stoned or flogged for the mere act of being transgender!
Focus on SOMETHING ELSE! Do a change in the world! Advocate for your community! Protest transphobic laws, regulations and policies!
Stop focusing on the West where you are (rightly) valued and help the people who are being actively kicked out of their homes, killed, and mutilated against their will for being queer!
And most importantly, stop referring to yourself as âTMEâ or âTMAâ. It helps no one and only signals to the wrong people. It actively divides the community and harms everybody.
My own country has me banned from a normal life for being queer. I face a potential death penalty for being gay. I wonât even be able to go on Hajj if anyone finds out Iâm transgender. I wonât even be able to practice my culture!
I am forced to stay in a shell that isnât mine.
And Iâm supposed to care about being âTMEâ and respecting every single order from radfems who live on the opposite side of the globe, who have never faced the possibility of being murdered by their own parents.
I am supposed to respect the same people who hate my mere existence, who want me dead for the mistake of being a man, while my parents actively talk about the âdiseaseâ that is queerness and how they want to protect me from it.
I am supposed to shut my mouth and let the people who mutter âtheyfabâ, âtransandrobroâ, and every single other slur under the sun at me speak for the entire community.
While my own people are ACTIVELY being shunned out of society for acting gay. For crossdressing. For having a face that looks even slightly feminine.
While my own people are being forced to âget fixedâ. To undergo genital surgery for being intersex. While they are being actively murdered for having ambiguous genitalia.
And you care about me not being your model view of a good trans man?
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*taps mic* the queer community needs to make more effort to make pride events accessible despite corporate influence on pride and structural inaccessibility.
the queer community needs to hype up disability pride month (july btw) while queer pride month is happening. the queer community needs to amplify disabled queer experiences.
the queer community needs to recognize intersex people and how many of us have disabilities related to our intersex variation - and this Still Does Not Prove Eugenicists Right.
the queer community needs to fight ableism and love disabled people. queer or not. also quick question. why do you think the right paints us as insane predators.
hey party people, Iâm here to talk about my experience with transmisandryâ
âyou canât call it transmisandry, misandry isnât real and is an MRA talking pointâ
ok, my experience with transandrophobiaâ
âyouâre not experiencing oppression for being a man, youâre just experiencing misogyny and transphobia (but you canât call it transmisogyny, that doesnât apply to you)â
ok, my experience with isomisogynyâ
âyou donât experience misogyny, youâre a man, and you canât call it your own special brand of misogyny anyways, you donât have it worse than anyone elseâ
ok, my experience with anti-transmasculinityâ
âtransmasculinity is rewarded, as is all expressions of masculinity in this society. Youâre transitioning into privilegeâ
ok, my experience with transandromisiaâ
âyou donât experience oppression, look at all these stupid words you made up to make yourself feel special you little birthday boy tMRAâ
ok, how about we talk about your experience with shutting the fuck up and not taking others talking about their own oppression personally, since clearly you canât stand hearing about us for even one second.
Pride month is almost over, and in this unfortunate moment where transmascs and non binary people are the current target of internet queer exclusionism, i hope all my transmasc siblings know that
you're not betraying women and femininity by transitioning
there's nothing inherently evil about masculinity
you're not going to become a bigot just because you transition
there's nothing ugly about masculinity and you deserve to celebrate getting more masculine without feeling bad about it
there's no one way to be trans masc, and regardless of your gender presentation, your identity is valid
ah yes because once you transition into a man you also end up harassing women as a side effect. especially trans women. yep. and ofc its always cis women feeling afraid of trans men and their manhood and never trans men literally loosing access to hrt bc some radfem cis women try to "protect their bodies from t".
masculinspirit: Get off that âtrans- Tripâ - The sooner, the better. YOUâre on a fast lane to suicide. https://www.bbc.co.uk/sn/tvradio/programmes/horizon/dr_money_prog_summary.shtml
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bdbdbdbdmn: all that the moral of the story you sent proves is that you can't change someone's gender identity or how they wish to express themselves by forcing them to follow gender roles [<-aligning it with the values of the trans community]; that the mutilation of infant's (inherently unable to consent as they are babies) privates- both for religious purposes (circumcision) and/or due to intersexism (chopping up an intersex baby's bits to make them look less ambiguous/more like either a penis or vagina)- is wrong [<-aligning it with the values of the trans community]; and in my opinion, it also proves that gendered upbringing in general is unethical, sexist, and abusive [<-once again, aligning the conclusions you should have gotten from the article with the values of the trans community]. David's horrific experience is very similar to how trans men are raised, especially intersex trans men. trans people do not start feeling their gender after bottom surgery, so religious infant genital mutilation that accidentally results in penis loss would not disprove trans people if that penis amputee kid grew up to not want to get a vagina surgically attached. also, the brother that killed himself was the one that wasn't forcefully raised as a girl. are you stupid, or do you think i'm stupid?
i thought it was too good to only be seen by this loser, so here. but yeah, he's just going around commenting shit like this on posts in the transandrophobia tag, so block him before he gets ya.
still though, i never get the point of this one. "you claim i shouldn't force people born with penises to live how i consider masculine, so i forced someone who's penis was cut off to live as a girl and tried to get him to agree to childhood vagina surgery, and you're still mad??? you must just be a hypocrite!" there is no help for you at this point, i fear.
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ik we're trying to be 'the better person' and not stoop to the same lows as the people discriminating against us, but I kinda wonder if we made our own quippy catch phrases and mean names to mock them with, if it would change the culture war about it all. people seem to just go with whatever seems cool and start naturally avoiding anything they see other people call lame or rude. we're trapped in a situation where the most effective way out is to mildly roast them until people agree with us because nobody actually gaf about arguments and evidence at the end of the day. or at least that's how it feels. like we've gotta give a taste of their own medicine a little bit. not too much. not crossing any lines. but like yknow how the most effective thing to do with some conservatives is to just give a pause after they say something weird and then switch subject? subconsciously queueing them to recognize that they've made a social faux pas? the internet does that, too. familiarity bias. if we make fun of them a little bit I think it'll help idk.
because appealing to people's better morals really doesn't seem like it's working very well for all of us, given how many people have literally died in the last few months.
YES EXACTLY iâve been saying this !!!! they donât care how we justify protection/love of trans men/mascs so itâs wasted effort to keep playing defense. that being said, that taste of their own medicine really needs to come with a healthy dose of trans men/mascs uplifting each other - not simply reblogging each otherâs discourse posts, but celebrating our triumphs together, taking care of each other through hardships, connecting each other to our dreams, etc. we need to let go of the bizarre sense of competition that comes with clamoring for support in increasingly hostile environments where trans men/mascs are hyperinvisible and cast aside, and instead find home in each other. the support we need will be there if we create it!!
you know how we all recognize that when conservatives use âprotect the kidsâ rhetoric it actually has nothing to do with protecting kids and is actually just a cover to remove queer people from the public eye while privately abusing any child who shows an inclination towards queerness?
can we please get that same energy about âprotect little girlsâ in reference to trans men being a social contagion spreading ROGD? itâs not about protecting anyone, itâs about the violent and targeted erasure of transmasculinity which makes it easier to abuse little kids who might be transmasculine.
i canât even decipher the point sheâs trying to make. this is complete gibberish. these ppl are fucking losing it. absolutely lost in the buzzword sauce
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Sometimes, when someone says âandrophobia doesnât existâ I think about how in many domestic violence shelters, they donât allow teenage boys to stay with their mothers.
