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So nothing can grow in comfort.

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walking listening to podcasts molly shannon reggae music being okay with your longing melancholy feeling because maybe its an old familiar friend taking your anxiety and hugging it and saying “shhhhh shhhhh shhhhhh” to it. cash exact change good night sleep that you don’t have kids amy poehlar when you know what you want to do and you do it biting the bullet seeing someone through their hard time not needing thanks but getting it anyway saying no saying yes when you don’t have to hide your feelings and your feelings are caught in the net that is the face of the person you are expressing them to empathy when you accidentally use a good word and its because you’ve been reading more language body language when you’ve been meditating and you can see someone’s shield or ego a movie that you don’t want to end santa barbara! ucsb “The womb room” in santa barbara drum circles when you do a little jig and you are by yourself sliding down the wall when you cry AA when you hear a love kinda song and you think that maybe someone thinks of you when they hear it potential acting on impulse driving someone else’s car mugs how bubbles in champagne just keep bubbling for infinity when you get stronger and more able than your personal trainer when you meet the one you want to be with the time 11:07 or 7:11 license plates that say things signs from the universe redheads good parenting balconies slick style on guys ken dolls how you don’t have to focus on what you don’t want to (tabloids, reality tv, Facebook, etc.) when you accidentally love nature the moon after a day of yoga or working out dancing on the sidewalk with your friend someone saying what you are to someone else healthy mouths horses being your own fountain of feel good the way dogs walk feeling healthy feeling vitality feeling inspired clay the thought that “everything is working out for you” abraham hicks when you get into the swing of things following your intuition cryotherapy dishwashers naps when you realize you were wrong new projects sentimental songs babies staring at you willpower singing karaoke on youtube alone when you realize you are copying the mannerisms or habits of your friends when your boyfriend likes it when you are your strongest, truest self you have a boyfriend when you wake up with a good song stuck in your head humming families having barbecues in the park cook books the sound when you press send an email from someone who usually doesn’t email someone cheering you on cheering someone else on getting to the root of the matter madonna

matcha green tea following through hemp milk hippy shops that feel like the inside of a bears cave how everyone is obsessed with the warriors kids who dance around as a natural way of movement that feeling when you are around people finally who don’t require you to “hold yourself in place” as if you have made this mold for yourself and you must stay in it. that moment when you ooze out and become a banana. when someone feels your heartbeat and they are resting their head on your heart and they say its nice. and it’s like you didn’t do anything to make your heartbeat that way, it didn’t require any make up or planning. he’s basically saying. you. you being alive. it’s nice. when you know david byrne and that’s who they are playing in the coffee shop the thought that one day you might be a name that someone drops. the fact that you don’t need to wear glasses couch surfers who do it in a sheik way brazillian women who make you mad because they were made to be sexy and then you realize that sexy doesn’t mean winning there is no “human of the year award” (regina spector reference) really live present theatre or people who seem to sizzle the people humming to “talking heads” glamorous women in wheelchairs glamorous bald women tig notaro australian accents when you figure out your neurosis and feel yourself starting to let go of them when you police the police in yourself. when you show this list to the stranger who is couch surfing and she sort of gets it. but not like your friends do. when both choices you could make are good when you have enough money when you have enough time when the things you like to do are free when people cancel on you for something you didn’t want to do mojo austin powers when you can’t put a book down when you are doing things not for the look of them, but for the feel of them when you look so good because you feel so good when you feel so good because your friend feels so good blow jobs when its real. its actually real. you’re actually a real free spirit. not doing the yoga class thats down the street. instead you want to drink the green tea and write. knowing you are so much more than your body knowing you’ve created great work in the past, and it’s like a garden of work, and some of the rose bushes keep growing and some things you wrote as emails were weeds but its okay, it weeded out certain people who you didn’t like anyway. when you laugh out loud at  a book when you think of something and you are alone and you laugh out loud when the kids you babysit are growing up and don’t need a babysitter anymore curly hair kids with their grandpa the way people with down syndrome show all of their emotions skinny men with long hair riding bikes stoned and feeling the air mix cd’s with sharpy words on them when you say something nice to yourself when you look in the mirror comfy soft clothes someone’s last name written in sharpy on the inside of your sweatshirt sharing the duty of folding up something, like a beach blanket. healthy old women exfoliating soap scones and the idea that one day you will eat one being the first one in a cafe real people named juliet maybe one day you will meet a romeo you know an oberon

ou don’t care about the calories in creamer anymore your boyfriend is a feminist therapy works you like your sunglasses you’re at the beach jack johnson is an oldie but goodie you don’t feel pressure to take off your shoes when you walk on the beach you realize you don’t need him to be a good conversationalist because he’s a good listener and you are a monologuist. there is a “runa” tea in the glove compartment for you sublime the way the sun sparkles on the water that your friend wanted more of this list of reasons to want to live humming to yourself “staying alive staying alive” as you walk off the beach to the coffee place the girl enjoying her burrito as she gives you your change calm beach couples sea lions when someone says you just need to relax and you can do it tarot cards good shampoo and conditioner dr bronners soap feeling hydrated coconut water you friend has a cloud book and looks up what kind of cloud the clouds are your friend lives on a boat you replaced infatuation with a relationship you don’t fear your “dislike” opinions or negative opinions your mom mediates your sister is getting married to her soul mate you believe in soul mates you feel smart skateboarders your boyfriend riding down your street on a squiggly wiggly skateboard he holds one of his hands in a mudra without noticing it. the “a-ok” sign with the fingers are all together r and b the way the sparkles on the water keep sparkling at the same vibrancy because nature doesn’t run out of battery explaining what the “middle way” is “zen” is in your vocabulary you’re ahead of the trends benches without plaques mornings a rotating bar boardwalks hard cider feeling fine about drinking because you rarely do it feeling fine about drinking loving your boobs small talk when you’re a little bit buzzed mentioning your “boyfriend” at the beginning of small talk about skateboards talking about his squiggly wiggly board skateboarders feeling fine that people are attracted to you, you can still get your point across. walking along with no sex drive at all. feeling like a human slug that simply digests and thinks. cotton candy- it’s so amazing. and forever young. people who wear crosses. socks with sloths on them. not living in new york. tight teeshirts people’s bodies how easy it is to talk to someone with a tattoo THE HORIZON knowing that you hate football and video games and honey bear don’t care. realizing you went so long without even thinking about your boyfriend. you’re so okay without him. how you’re hands get old first. how you aren’t a purell person trust. fading worry the word “embarcaderro” realizing “we are all together” (the beatles) realizing the skater you told you have a boyfriend to in the first few moments of conversations kindof wants you. the way he swings his arms. body language. good dreams. clean dishes other peoples’ stuff. like in their house. like the orbit gum on their counter. people who have done iowaska fucking ketchup and fries god. curly fries. “shimmer” when your best friends are freaking famous and stylish- even if its just on the stupid internet and not in the “big leagues” the way some people’s feet turn out when they walk shallow people who become mammas and then are not so shallow the act of dipping food into something. hummus, or salsa, or guac or ranch they you dip you dip we dip ceiling fans (the one in your brain, too) vape pens “boot cut” salt and pepper. so stupid.

your art gets better. you figure out how to poop right your friendships get deeper your sex gets better you realize confidence is hot and that’s all it takes you realize its not even that “instyle” to be “hot” sunsets are cool books vitamins coffee sushi if u are a little bit spiritual you become more spiritual because there is no explanation. someone might find you attractive you might find them attractive tv shows are so good laughter. laughter created by you because you are so funny wine and a cozy concert when you listen to the lyrics liana glazer pete holmes people you know from college have babies you figure out how to say goodbye on the phone you figure out how to not hang out you feel your body more text messages! kombucha stupid memories fade your conversations are less vague you realize who you are and you have friends that like you when you are that way you still believe in romance massages steam rooms/saunas/hot tubs/heaters/tea/ovens/ summer in new york city your dad who you don’t like might die sleeping bags? whatever! yoga. fucking yoga. jenny slate freckles benches with plaques electric toothbrushes perier holding your own hands together how its cooler to be calm than it is to be amped now adays you’re so cool looking because it might just be blankness on the “other side” you have your own home you might inherit a ton of money comfortable clothes apple cider vinegar sleep overs how your friends say the right thing how “playing games” with potential romantic partners or romantic partners is not in style anymore. folk music libraries pjs beaches dogs new york times working out you finally grow into your “wise” vibe you know how to wash your skin properly you figure out how to actually relax. you are not afraid of being alone you pick up the phone when you are feeling sad because you no longer believe in being “on” your friends say and think all the emotions are good you’re important to society kids look at you and want to be you you look at kids and are glad you had the childhood you had you have hope you trust yourself you no longer care about being famous, its more just about saying and doing what you need to say or do and you know that “need" is changing to “want" and then your life will be more fun and then you will be fun to be around and fun people will want to be around you because you need to see how it ends orgasms because you are strong enough to be embarrassed and strong enough to admit how you feeland sit in itfor a while because you know your friends are right there, not too far away and they are thinking about you and you are thinking about them because you care about the big stuff because you are finding out what the big stuff is toes the belief that one day you might enjoy pasta the understanding you have that you have no control the release of control the power of thought the power of prayer self help books that help quotes character actors the essence of relationships the essence of you candles flowers cacti penises vaginas other languages cracking yourself up stormy weather and you cozy up in a cliche way divine timing pubic hair mochi stars i’m not so into fireworks breathing over a steam pot peppermint

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A recent cartoon for New Scientist.

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Pleasure is just the other side of pain!