Like - did the guy hurt you?? Why did he even start doing this, I am so sorry you had to go through that!!! 😭😭😭 I hope I'm not pushing any buttons for being too curious!
No no thats okay you're allowed to ask dear!! You're such a sweetheart though!! Thank you for your concern 🥺🥺💖
I'll try to hit every point, so:
(This is very long btw)
- I go to the same cafe nearly every day because they make the most banging milkshakes and there's a girl in there that I absolutely adore and we chat all the time and i make her laugh and she makes me lovely drinks, one day I go in there and I look around and I see this guy looking at me literally like a deer in headlights and I was like weird whatever and then got my drink and left
- later that evening I get a message from a guy I went to school with just over 10 years ago (we were not friends in school we genuinely never even exchanged words I just knew of him but didn't actually know him if that makes sense) and I engage, he's like "oh were you in ______ earlier today?" And I was like yeah I was and realised the guy gawping at me was him and I just didn't recognise him
- the conversation quickly turns to him telling me how much he wants to kill himself and talking to me about the girl in the cafe and how he really likes her but he's not confident and he's too useless to do anything about his crush so until like 1am I'm telling him to give it time and basically telling him not to die, he then tells me I'm his favourite person now and I'm like 😀 huh?
- the conversation kinda dies down bc I fall asleep and then he continues to message me every single day saying the same stuff about how he's crushing on the girl in the cafe and how he wants to kill himself and how he's baffled that I'm not in a relationship and I tell him I have 0 interest in romance and he just doesn't get it, I keep giving him advice and then he starts asking if we can meet for coffee and im like probs not I just got promoted so I'm working a lot more hours which again prompts him to start saying how he wants to die again
- the conversation stays that way for a while, him talking for a long time about how he wants to die and then again asking why I'm single and me reminding him I'm not interested in romance and it goes like that for another 2 days
- he asks me again why I'm never free for a coffee with him and I was like "nothing has changed in 2 days I'm still very busy" which again prompts him to talk about killing himself and AGAIN a few days later asking to meet me, I take too long to answer him because I'm WORKING and he starts pretending to have a conversation with me, as in answering things I have not said which was bizarre
- days later after the same conversation every day about him wanting to die, and telling me I'm pretty and wise, he asks where I work so I just tell him I work in the area bc I didn't want to tell him which store, he tells me where he works (I didnt ask) and then still keeps messaging me even when I'm not answering bc im busy
- I also found out in the middle of all of this that he visits that cafe 3-4 times a day to creep on that other girl that I chat to and he just watches her for hours and only wants her to make his orders and to serve him and come to his table, he doesn't want to talk to any of the other staff and she was saying how he scares her which later made me realise I wasn't crazy he was really being a freak, I also later found out he told this girl then he and I are childhood friends and we're close???
-he FOUND where I work bc he was in the shopping centre first thing in the morning watching me open the shutter not knowing he was somewhere, and messages me later saying "I saw you in _____" and I was like fuck he knows where I work now
- THE NEXT DAY, he walks past the store staring into it the whole time and spots me and we made eye contact and I'm like SHIT, he turns around after 10 seconds of being out of sight and miraculously comes into the store so I'm like fuck fuck fuck, I run to the back room to take out our delivery and wait him out but in out back office we can see the whole store on the camera and he's just waiting at the back door (literally 4 inches away) I've just gone into and I wait a few minutes but I have to go back out eventually, when I do he says to me "Oh, I didn't know you work here!" And I was thinking...yes you did know bc you told me yesterday you watched me open the store??
- so I have to serve him on the till and he tells me I'm sweet 🤮🤮, after he's gone he messages me asking if we sell gift cards and then telling me again to come and meet him for coffee but of course I'm still working so I'm not gonna go and meet him, a little while later I go on my break and my colleague tells me he has now repeatedly been walking but the store in both directions looking in to see if im there which makes me feel sick to my stomach
- that evening he messages me asking when I'm on shift so he can buy more things and I point him to other stores to get stuff or try the other branch of our store that is bigger bc they have more stuff, he says "why would I got to ____ if you're not there? Okay sorry that was me flirting" and then tells me if I were available he would be all over me, I remind him I'm not interested and he's telling me that flirting is flattering and I should be happy about it and how nice romance is and I was like but I've told you I don't want it?? So why?? You guessed it, he starts saying that he wants to kill himself again
- he keeps sending messages like that and security by this point is aware that he shouldn't be anywhere near our store, I tell one of my other girl friends in the cafe about him and she confronts him telling him to leave me alone and that me and her are dating, 20 MINUTES LATER he is in the store opposite mine watching me and pretending to buy shoes bc the girl that told him off was actually watching him when he left and spotted him watching me
- so security get rid of him and I think okay this is fine he's gonna stop now, a few days later when I'm working on my own HE COMES BACK TO THE STORE and I hide, he heads to the back door again I'm guessing bc he didn't see me so he assumed I was out the back, security come over and tell me it's fine they've already spotted him and I'm safe and they're gonna handle him and they do, he leaves and then that night my dad messages the guys mum on Facebook and says "here's my number, can you give me a call please?"
- she calls my dad and goes "which one of my kids is it now?" So he tells her it's her son and she goes "Oh god what has he done now??" WHICH IS VERY TELLING, he tells her about how he's been watching me at work and messaging me past midnight every day and flirting with me when I told him repeatedly I wasn't interested and trying to find out when/where I work so he can coincidentally shop there (this store is a little girls store its pink and purple and hair bows and jewellery he has no reason to shop there especially not multiple times in the same week as soon as you find out I work there) and this lady is so apologetic and my dad was like "i mean this sincerely im giving you one chance to deal with him before I do" and she was like I promise I'll talk to him
- THE GUY THEN MESSAGES MY DAD saying "I'm so sorry she got the wrong impression I was never flirting with her I was never interested in her im so so sorry I promise I'm so sorry she took it that way she interpreted everything wrong"
- at this point I'm shaking in anger bc im like how dare you try to put this on me, so the next day my dad and his friend go to the cafe that this guy works in and basically tells him to stay the fuck away from me and making it very clear that if he ever comes near me again there will be a fuck ton of trouble and he was saying "fella I've seen the messages you've been sending her why are you trying to pin this on her?" So yeah nothing has happened since and the lovely security guys keep an eye out for me all the time and come to check on me
Here's some screenshots so y'all know im not crazy:
He hasn't been in the cafe since and I feel a lot better knowing I won't see him anymore!
