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FlRE (1996)

Ligy J. Pullappally commenting on comparisons between her film, Sancharram (2004) and Deepa Mehta’s Fire (1996):

“I made this film for a number of reasons, among them is to respond to the Indian film Fire. I enjoyed that film, but found the idea of the women choosing to be with each other because they weren’t satisfied with their male relationships, unconvincing. There appears to be a common misconception that women become gay because of a lack of suitable men. My personal belief is that homosexuality has little to do with either the actions or inactions of the opposite gender. In addition, Fire is an English language film in an urban setting. I made my film to reflect the more traditional gay experience in India. My characters are unapologetically gay and speak a regional South Indian language.

…I made this film in Kerala in the Malayalam language because it is very much a Kerala story. Circumstances, like the one described in the story have happened time and time again in Kerala. In another such story, two young women tied themselves together with a dupatta and threw themselves, together, into a rock quarry. These desperate stories are frighteningly abundant in Kerala. The stories are sometimes reported in newspapers, but most go unreported, as the surviving family members have an interest in keeping the shame and scandal fallout to a minimum. There is a watchdog organization in Kerala keeping track of the incidents, they are that frequent.” [x]

|Yuki - Evening Star

This is one of the few times where the Kibbe discussion about a celebrity is mostly right. Bella is usually typed as a Soft Dramatic and I agree with this typing!!

TW: mention of body dysmorphia, eating disorders etc

Bella, unlike most supermodels who tend to be Flamboyant Naturals, is a Soft Dramatic and I think this has caused her to have an identity crisis/body dysmorphia on top of growing up with Yolanda Hadid as her mother. Both Yolanda & Gigi are FNs with a typical lean, athletic build. Bella, being an SD has a fleshier, softer body.

when she gains weight, she gains it in her arms, thighs, hips, bust etc. She has broad shoulders, a small well defined waist and full hips. She has a natural hourglass body which most models don't.

I think many of her struggles with body image arise from the fact she does not have a typical rectangular model build and that she naturally has soft flesh.

i feel weird calling it "soft flesh" but this is a picture of karlie kloss on the left and bella on the right. Karlie has a typical model build, strong shoulders, a wide square torso, her arms and thighs all have some muscle definition. She's in a sense kind of "strong looking".

Bella has soft thighs and arms, a very defined waist and in general she looks more "curvy" and "soft". The thing about being an SD is that working out and hitting the gym regularly will not give you muscle definition, with weight gain and weight loss, your body just shrinks or expands, instead of looking ripped.

This is something many SDs have spoken about and feel conflicted about; their body is not the kind that can build muscle or be "toned". That's how Naturals are build not SDs.

Just look at Bella next to Gigi and you can tell how differently they are built and how different their essences are. Coloring also plays a huge role in determining someone's essence. Dramatic essence relates to someone of high contrast coloring.

While Gigi has Natural, Classic & Ingenue essence

Bella has Romantic, Dramatic & Ethereal essence

As far as I know, Bella has only had a nose job in this picture. She naturally has full cheeks and a softer face. The sharpness comes primarily from her eyes and eyebrows. Also, remember that plastic surgery cannot really change your essence. In this and her early photos, it's obvious that Bella has Romantic/Dramatic/Ethereal essence.

This is just speculation but its likely that Bella felt the need to get buccal fat removal because even with weight loss, SDs tend to still have softer faces with full cheeks.

It can be really hard to grow up consuming media where no one looks like you or has your body type and there's immense pressure to be skinny. Its even worse when you come from a family of models who you don't look like and work in the fashion industry.

Despite her weight loss over the years, before she underwent cosmetic surgery, she still retained softness to her face and body due to her SD build; this must have been hard for her to endure as she felt as though losing weight/working out wasn't making much of a difference to her, i.e, she wasn't getting those hollow cheekbones, skinny arms and legs and abs.

Again. This is not her fault. She is just a Soft Dramatic.

Now look at Bella in these outfits. They honour her SD lines but also emphasize her Romantic/Dramatic essence. She looks like a Goddess.

Compare those looks to these looks. None of these outfits make her shine. They don't bring out any of her essences and she looks kind of out of place and washed out in them.

Compare these two looks.

High necks are not suitable for SDs because it emphasizes their shoulders and makes their upper body look wide and short. The length of the dress is also very awkward.

Compare that to the nude gown on the right. This is something more suited for Classics but she still looks faaaaar better although it does not make her "pop". The open neck, the waist emphasis, the floor length gown are all flattering on her.

All of these are outfits that honour her Romantic/Dramatic essence however she looks incredible in the white one and less so in the others. WHY?

The yellow outfit has a high closed neck. This is an absolutely NO-NO for SDs. The fabric is not clinging to her body or revealing her shape. Since she's not frame dominant, she kind of looks engulfed in that dress. The black plunging neck with the waist cut outs and thigh slit dysmorphs the natural lines of her body. You cannot tell that Bella is an hourglass in this black dress, it emphasizes all the wrong places.

in the picture on the left its apparent that Bella's bust breaks the lines of her frame and she has obvious "double curve".

Over the last few years, Bella has embraced a y2k style and also lost a significant amount of weight. This is a very sensitive topic and I don't want to trigger anybody but its clear that Bella hesitates to embrace her natural body type and styles that would flatter it.

SDs are prone to feeling like they're "too much". Ofc narrowing down all of Bella's struggles to her being a Soft Dramatic is silly and oversimplifying things but its important to understand that who you are, how you look, how you present yourself are all interrelated.

People who have a Dramatic essence are often described as intimidating (regardless of ID).

"Reels of Bella on the runway, staring lethally down her long nose and vamping to an ominous overlaid beat. She is steely, dead-serious, maybe a bit—and she knows this—scary."

this is an excerpt from Bella's Vogue interview and this is how the interviewer describes her.

People pick up on your energy regardless of whether or not they know about Essences or Kibbe or whatever; its an intuitive thing. People read your energy and your energy is connected to your appearance in some ways.

“The majority of the time when I meet people, they say, I just didn’t think you were going to be nice, that you were going to be this mean, scary dragon lady, or some kind of a sexbot,” she says. “That’s just not me, and if people have a better understanding of who I am, then I feel less alone within myself.”

This is what Bella says during the interview 😔.

She has always had a Romantic/Dramatic/Ethereal essence but over the course of several years worth of enhancements, her Dramatic essence became far more pronounced.

Many SDs feel conflicted about embracing the kind of exaggerated, over-the-top styles that are standard SD recommendations. It takes a lot of time and inner work to accept that this is what works for you best. Many women are afraid of dressing according to their type, esp if said type is R/TR/SD because of how much attention they draw or how it looks like they're "trying too hard". You're either stuck between looking washed out or looking over the top. There's no in-between.

Part of the journey is accepting the attention and understanding it and learning to feel comfortable with being "looked at" instead of hiding in your clothes. This requires a certain acceptance of one's own femininity in a culture that likes to put femininity into little boxes of shame ("trad wives", "bimbocore", "divine feminine"). this is obviously difficult because nobody wants to be perceived as thoughtless or unintelligent.

Like Jennie embracing a Gamine style, Bella too, has adopted a more androgynous style as of late.

“I dress like a little boy,” she suggests. “You couldn’t catch me in a dress willingly at this point in my life.”- Bella Hadid

It's not unsurprising that the last few years have witnessed Bella at the peak of her career and is now considered a bonafide supermodel who is greatly respected in the fashion circles. Its no coincidence that this has also been a time when her personal style underwent a major shift.

Earlier, say between 2015-2019, Bella dressed in ways that specifically suited her (more or less). It wasn't a style you could imitate for yourself unless you shared her ID.

Bella is credited with popularizing y2k style and was at the head of the y2k boom. This is largely a Natural style that would flatter most people (most people being Natural types). This has meant that her style is widely imitated these days.

Honouring your ID & essence means you stand out and are distinct. This means you're perceived as mean, intimidating, too sexy, over the top, bitchy etc etc

It does not make sense to walk around dressed like Vivien Leigh or Jennie Kim (during her 2016-2019 era) or Sofia Vergara or Christina Hendricks. Its not a style everybody can imitate.

Embracing a more androgynous style that largely caters to Naturals means everybody can relate to you, imitate you and connect to you. You don't stand out as much and certainly don't seem "over the top" or "intimidating".

compare these two looks.

the one on the left is something that would suit an SD and the one on the right is a typical y2k fit

the fur coat and boots is not something most people can imitate but the tight top from the kids section with those low rise pants are.