1. He declines being called Sir, Master or any other grandiose title from the start. Until a relationship has been agreed he knows heโs a human being just like you, on the same level as you. He will owe you that respect and courtesy from the beginning. He declines being called ego-inflating names unless a dynamic has been explicitly agreed by both parties.
2. He looks after your interests. He will be on your side and will want you to be fulfilled in a relationship. He will be prepared to walk away from a relationship, if he believes your needs will be better met by somebody else. In fact he will be more than happy to introduce you to somebody else who will meet your needs better than him, even if that means he will lose you.
3. He doesnโt criticise other people, particularly other doms, behind their backs. He doesnโt feel threatened by other doms and doesnโt see them as competition. He doesnโt belittle or talk bad about other doms or tries to eliminate or undermine โcompetitorsโ.
4. He doesnโt try to dominate the conversation or gratuitously lead a group onto something just to prove to everyone and himself how domly he is. He will let other people have their say, without trying to hoard the limelight. He is a true team player who puts the needs and interests of the group before himself. He is interested in the team winning, not him winning.
5. He doesnโt prey on the vulnerable. He doesnโt hang around the entrance of munches or clubs looking for โfresh meatโ. He doesnโt try to take advantage of inexperienced submissives and use their lack of knowledge to his advantage. On the contrary, he will protect those new and vulnerable and do what he can to guide them in the right direction.
6. He doesnโt instigate politics, bitching and division between camps. He is not prepared to partake in them and will try to minimise conflict whenever possible. He has a conciliatory tone and tries to build bridges, not burn them, whilst still defending what is right.
7. Heโs approachable. Heโs friendly and welcoming and accepts everybody as they are. He keeps his ego in check and doesnโt carry himself with a swagger or in a threatening or arrogant manner. Heโs not in possession of the truth. He knows an รผberdom is quite the opposite of a true dom.
8. He admits to his mistakes. Heโs happy to say sorry. He knows that being a dom doesnโt mean heโs perfect. He will own up to his errors and will make reparation whenever possible. If he makes a mistake during play heโll apologise sincerely and make sure it doesnโt happen again.
9. Heโs comfortable with a sub who is more intelligent, skilled and capable than him. He knows that being a dom doesnโt mean he has to be the best at everything. Heโs quite happy to take instruction from her submissive and let her teach him what he doesnโt know. As an example, heโs happy to take directions from her when heโs driving.
10. He has nothing to prove. Heโs comfortable in his own skin and doesnโt need to prove to anybody how โdominantโ he is. He doesnโt try to live up to some expectation of what a dom should be. Heโs confident and sure of himself and is untroubled by others disagreeing with him and having a different approach to dominance than his. He knows who he is and he doesnโt need to justify himself to anybody.
11. He doesnโt take liberties. He will not boss around a person just because sheโs submissive. Nor will he grope her either. He will be clear, transparent and specific about how he wants to play, before anything happens. He will not take advantage of someone being in subspace and therefore more vulnerable. He is polite to waiters, clerks and those in serving professions.
12. Heโs trustworthy. He has a strong sense of integrity, responsibility and compassion. He will stick to his agreements and fulfil his end of the bargain. He will tell the truth and behave with honesty, even if that means he loses out. Heโs honourable and his word is his bond.
(source: Fetlife/DominantMan78)
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