tradition with a twist

•drive safe

•text me when you’re home safe

•choke me harder

•I can’t wait to see you

I can handle myself. My life is stressful at times, with competing obligations and never enough time to fulfill them. But I put on my armor, and I do what needs to be done. I kick ass at work. I take charge at home. I am a single mother with multiple degrees who has rebuilt my life from scratch while maintaining a successful career. I don’t need you.

But at the end of the day, it’s hard to find my sanctuary. I still feel ready for battle. I still feel the tension in my shoulders. My brain runs a million miles a minute, ever-vigilant for the next problem to attack. I may be on the ropes some days, but I always keep my gloves up. I’m always ready. Even when I don’t want to be.

I can handle the fight, but I am better when you take it from me. I am better when you remind me that I don’t have to keep my guard up. I don’t have to take control and make decisions. I don’t have to watch out for the next problem on the horizon. You’ve got that. And you’ve got me.

I can quiet my mind and focus on the one thing that fulfills me most: serving you. This is my sanctuary. This is where I can let go and know that I am protected and cared for. This is where I recharge. All couples love and support one another during the busy, stressful times. We just do it a little differently. We do it with your collar around my neck. We do it with your paddle against my ass until the tears flow freely. We do it with rules and permission and denial. This is how I feel loved and how I give love in return. I crave these displays of ownership and opportunities to serve. I don’t need a break at the end of a hard day; I need a hand in my hair reminding me where I belong—that I do belong. Cherished property.

What is the power exchange?

You see it everywhere “the power exchange” what does that mean? What does it look like?

The power exchange is NOT one sided it is equal for both parties, no one holds ANY more power than the other. Both the Submissive and the Dominant in the relationship has an EQUAL share and responsibility.

The underlying desire for both is the happiness and wellbeing of the other person. It is a commitment to do whatever is possible to ensure that either through servitude or leadership.

So much is made of the “demands” from a Dominant, there should be no “demands” there should be no barking of orders, Dominance is loving and a role of support, wanting what is best for a Submissive.

A Dominant hurts just as easily and just as much as a Submissive, a Dominant sacrifices just as much as a Submissive.

A Dominant will put their Submissive before all else, (yes LIFE happens and yes at times this gets in the road) but they never let a Submissive wonder if they are the most important part of their life. If a Submissive needs a Dominant to be there they will be…. NO QUESTION.

A Submissive puts their Dominant before all else, they want nothing more than to please the Dominant, they want them to know and feel their commitment and surrender.

Too often there is a perception that the Dominant holds all the power that a Submissive is a passive and weak person within the relationship.

And although a Submissive doesn’t bare the weight of responsibility for decisions regarding the relationship, they do bare the weight of surrender, to trust their Dominant to do what is right and what they NEED at all times.

A Dominant doesn’t bare the weight of surrender instead the bare the weight of responsibility. Whatever the Submissive needs will be done, regardless of the cost.

The foundation of these relationships is one of Surrender and Responsibility, but also a TRUST that the other person wants the happiness of the other no matter what.