https://www.tumblr.com/toyhou-se-drama/815068432758341633/my-oomf-guesticides-is-getting-cancelled-but-a
i enjoy the concept of just receiving a bomb in my inbox. i did comment on that post but i didnt rlly say anything of note. and there IS more to go thru so i guess i will give an extensive thought about it. as the op didn't link any context, i will. idk if @toyhousearchiver wants to archive it or not bc it isn't rlly anything important but just tagging in case its of interest ig
contextual links:
edm's bulletin: here. (rook, they/them)
guesticide's followup bulletin: here. (brody, it/its)
trigger warnings: grooming (alleged), abuse, self harm, eating disorders, cnc, incest.. and then proship discourse, darkfic discourse, general dead dove discourse, because you cant have a toyhouse callout without that ofc....
so here's edm's main claims bc i can not for the life of me try to re explain this word salad and thats coming from... well, u dont need details, just know i know my shit lol:
and yea, from an outside perspective, of course youre sitting here thinking damn that sounds awful. it sounds like this brody person is a manipulator and has harmed this person fully intentionally. but then you look at the screenshots - and im not gonna be posting those, you can look into the bulletin urself for them, bc i frankly feel like i need a shower after that - and it feels like... two mentally ill people who are really co dependent, feeding into each other, got into a dangerous kink relationship bc they both had similar issues and trauma bonded. and i mean its hard to actually glean a lot from the screenshots bc theyre so cherry picked and read like two people sexting if you dont have context behind it, but having my context and also the context of my own personal past and things like that, that was my general takeaway. so, my initial thought was this... felt very wrong to post publicly. there were very little screenshots, a weird focus on "icky proshipping" that amounted to homestuck incest?????????, showing all this relapsing stuff. and then a contrast between "dont harass brody" with rook's own comment section saying a lot of, well, harassment things, and them condoning it completely. so, to me without seeing brody's side, this just felt a little too one sided for me. figured i would just wait to see the other side like the ghostly drama vampire i am. lo and behold we have an update
so, here's brody's response. im not about to pick apart every single bit of it im just going to highlight bits that specifically interested me.
brody's context alone confirms exactly what i had been thinking, that this entire thing was two mentally ill people who became very codependent fed into each others bad behaviour etc etc other things i said before and some such. i mean think about it, give both of them grace - DID is a disorder caused by intense and repeated childhood trauma and is exacerbated further by even further trauma. they were and are both adults during this situation, but that shit will stick with you, and thats not even going into any other disorders that either of the two could have. according to brody's document in particular, it suffers from NPD and BPD, both classified as cluster b personality disorders and are extremely difficult to live with. i'd also just as an aside like to say i find it incredibly irritating that this genre of person likes to tell everyone not to demonise cluster b personality disorders as inherently dangerous or evil and yet here we are... many such cases im afraid
i think it is also important to note brody's accountability and intent in regards to this situation. according to comments on rook's bulletin, allegedly it has posted other vague apologies / bulletins feeling badly towards its behaviour / seeking help for its mental health, but i didnt seek those out personally.
so, yeah heres my final thoughts basically. i think that, above all, this situation absolutely did not need to be made public and spread around like this. you can not say "dont harass this person" while publicly posting an entire callout about a mentally ill persons "evil behaviour" and allowing everyone to spread it, say vile things about this person based on your small out of context outtakes from your skewed perspective, while taking zero accountability for your own role in the relationship. this callout was clearly set up to make one person "objectively bad", that much is undeniable - anyone with no context (or no ability to think about other people, maybe) would instantly see this as a black and white situation with one clear "correct side" to be on. but it is absolutely not that.
both of these people were intensely traumatised before meeting, then they met, had similar traumas, traumabonded, fed into each others bad coping mechanisms and became codependent as a result, and just altogether had an incredibly rough - uh, almost two months, because it was only a couple months of a relationship (july 3rd - august 23rd in 2025)... and the intent here is so incredibly important because we're talking about such a sensitive relationship. brody, despite being painted as this manipulative abuser, actually had the perspective that this was a consensual kink due to rook's responses. neither of them discussed safety. it became normalised. both of them believed different things about their relationship and neither of them brought it up because neither of them realised it. and most importantly, in that relationship, neither of them are in the wrong, because it is not that simple. that said, when it comes to the matter of publicising it? rook is absolutely in the wrong, and i hope they see that. this never needed to be public, and absolutely never needed friends being forced to pick sides. both brody and rook clearly need support with their mental health, but i feel by making this public rook has put brody in a dangerous situation, in my personal opinion.
i didnt mean to type this much but i am a bit passionate about psychological situations like this and ive been in a looooooooooot of different friend groups so... hopefully my wide variety of knowledge was some kind of insight to anyone curious about this.
