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Would you like to know the secrets of how to be a high value woman, and what high value woman traits are?

You’ve come to the right place.

The information in this article is based on research we have done over many years into mating psychology and evolutionary psychology.

Here’s what we’ll do in this article:

Learn what a high value woman is

Learn the general traits of a high value woman

Learn what traits to avoid

And then learn the 3 key areas that make you a high value woman to men (these are important! So stick around til the end)

The reason you want to exhibit the traits of a high value woman is that women who perpetually show up low value will receive crumbs in life, as well as repel high value men.

Women who tend to show up high value will easily stand out from the crowd and attract good quality men into their lives.

What Is A High-Value Woman?

A high-value woman is someone who has intrinsic value, rather than being that person who is trying to trick others into thinking she has value.

Intrinsic value means that she is naturally valuable in all the three areas that are typical for a high value woman.

What Are The Traits Of A High Value Woman?

There are 6 general traits of a high value woman.

1. She seeks understanding of men rather than defaulting to judgment

2. She’s comfortable in her own skin – in all different parts of herself, (dark and light feminine personalities).

3. She has multiple ways in her life through which to feel like she is ‘enough’.

4. She is generous – thus she invests in relationships.

5. She seeks to take responsibility for her life and her relationships.

6 She seeks to add value.

Humans Are Sensitive To Where The Value Is…

The reason that women who show up high value will stand out easily from the crowd is that humans are sensitive to where value is – as well as who has the real value.

So when we wonder “what is a high value woman?” the easiest answer is that she is a woman of value.

In the context of dating, it means she’s a woman of value to men.

Here’s why this is important:

It’s because in dating and relationships, it doesn’t matter how we feel inside (whether we are confident or lacking in self esteem), if we show up with value, men will gravitate towards us.

This is where your answers lie.

If you allow yourself to present with value, you’ll make your dating life easier.

How To Be A High Value Woman In Dating

To be a high value woman in dating, you need to:

•Lead with value, rather than leading with your desire to ‘take’; and

•Be willing to show high value vulnerability.

For women, this act of leading with a desire to ‘take’ usually means she wants to ‘take’ a man’s commitment and ‘take’ a relationship.

Conversely, for men, they tend to look to take female attention and sex.

So always remember to lead with value, because ultimately this is what is going to make you fascinating and emotionally attractive to men.

Plenty of women have told me that leading with value has completely changed their dating life.

This is because in any social interaction as well as in any intimate relationship, we want to secure the best deal we can get in return for our own effort, investment and time.

If we didn’t protect our own effort, investment and time when finding a potential mate or lover, then we’d be wasting our own mating resources.

It doesn’t matter who you are, the only people who want to be with someone who shows up low value are the ones who are willing to tolerate it.

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Being feminine can mean different things to different people because each culture has its own notion of what it means to be female.

In the west, the concept of femininity is tied heavily to gender norms.

Traditionally, being feminine or girly means being gentle, nurturing, sensitive, sweet, passive, empathetic, or devoted — to name a few traits.

As people continue to realize that gender norms are a little outdated, we now think that being feminine is more of a style choice (although positive feminine traits are still good to emulate).

So how do you become more feminine?

Achieving a girly “look”, adopting ladylike mannerisms, and getting in touch with the female mindset can help you take on a more feminine image.

In this article, you’ll learn how to embody the grace, politeness, and competence which define the female attitude.

Appearing more feminine

Achieving a girly look takes so much more than wearing pink. Let’s break down what it takes to appear more feminine:

1) Take care of your hygiene

The first step to becoming more feminine is proper hygiene. After all, you’re more likely to associate slobbish behaviors like unkempt hair and muddy clothes with younger boys.

Ladies are expected to look clean and smell nice. And whether you’re male or female, good hygiene is essential to keeping yourself healthy and attractive.

Your hygiene habits don’t have to be excessive; you simply have to make an effort to take care of yourself.

Here are a few feminine hygiene tips to take note of:

Set aside time for grooming: You don’t really need to take three hours in the shower but setting aside 15 – 20 minutes per day to shower is important to keeping up a ladylike appearance.

You’ll look, smell, and feel much fresher after using soap, shampoo, and toothpaste. Don’t forget to comb your hair before leaving home as well.

K eep your body hairless: One traditional sign of femininity is hairlessness.

Even though it can be impractical to pay attention to the hair on your eyebrows, upper lip, underarms, and legs, most women do everything they can to keep their body hair invisible.

You can employ various techniques like tweezing, waxing, threading, or shaving but don’t force yourself if you don’t want to.

Spritz on perfume: Smelling great is a feminine characteristic. Spray on light, flowery, or fruity fragrances before you leave home for an extra girly feel.

2) Dress in a girly style

Clothes play a big part in how we present ourselves to the world. More importantly, clothing can help us embody who we want to be.

2) Dress in a girly style

Clothes play a big part in how we present ourselves to the world. More importantly, clothing can help us embody who we want to be.

If you want to “cast” yourself as a girly person, wearing appropriate clothes can help you become more graceful and ladylike.

Some ways you can style yourself in a feminine way are:

Dress for a feminine silhouette: When you take the time to dress in a feminine way, you’re more likely to carry yourself accordingly.

Dresses and skirts are the most universal signals of femininity so fill your wardrobe with well-fitting and flattering pieces.

Plus, these clothes can also help you move in a ladylike way; you’re less likely to stomp around if you’re wearing a delicate outfit, after all.

Girly Makeup

It’s best to wear more shades of pink, lavender, blue, teal, green, yellow, or red for a girly feel.

Experiment

Wear appropriate accessories:

Girly girls typically have a wide range of fashion accessories available to them, in addition to the clothes they wear.

Heeled shoes, scarves, handbags, hair accessories, and jewelry are some key items which can tie your look together, bring out your personality, and boost your overall feminine look.

3) Wear makeup

While popular culture is slowly steering men towards using makeup, it is still largely a female-dominated territory.

Most women never leave home without completing their look with makeup. Aside from adjusting your appearance, makeup is a great way to enhance attractiveness and boost your confidence.

Basic cosmetics like foundation, lip gloss, eyeliner, mascara, and powder can easily take you from barefaced to beauty.

You can also utilize neutral eyeshadows, concealer, nail polish, and red or pink lipstick to take the feminine look to the next level. Makeup is really an art form so you have fun while trying it out.

Most women never leave home without completing their look with makeup. Aside from adjusting your appearance, makeup is a great way to enhance attractiveness and boost your confidence.

Basic cosmetics like foundation, lip gloss, eyeliner, mascara, and powder can easily take you from barefaced to beauty.

You can also utilize neutral eyeshadows, concealer, nail polish, and red or pink lipstick to take the feminine look to the next level. Makeup is really an art form so you have fun while trying it out.

4) Try “feminine” hairstyles

Although long hair isn’t necessary to being feminine, women have traditionally grown hair past the shoulders. Hairstyles like ponytails, braids, and long, romantic waves are difficult to achieve with shorter hair.

Aside from brushing and conditioning your hair, you can care for your hair by consuming a healthy diet.

Fatty fish, lean meats, seafood, leafy greens, and fruits rich in vitamin C can give your hair strength and a mirror-like shine.

5) Embrace your sexy side

If you’re struggling to feel and act feminine, then it’s time to embrace your sexy side and unleash it onto the world.

Many women get scared off at this stage, worried about being seen as promiscuous. It’s all about finding that balance.

Women can be many things. They can be sexy, smart, funny, cute, charming and so much more.

Don’t let the world define how you see yourself. Instead, show them how you want to be seen.

Being feminine is sexy, so embrace it. Get a little bit flirty with the men in your life. There’s something so feminine and attractive about a woman you can’t have. Have a little fun with it.

Do what feels good and enjoy each step of the way.

Acting More Feminine

Once you’ve mastered presenting yourself in a feminine way, you need to learn how to carry yourself in a ladylike way as well.

Cultivating habits, mannerisms, and behaviors can greatly help you embody girl traits.

6) Practice proper posture

Countless movies that include feminine makeovers often include a scene where a tomboyish character has to practice walking with a book on their head.

While this is an exaggeration and most women don’t actually do this, it shows you how important good posture is to femininity.

You have to keep your spine straight with your shoulders directly above your hips and your chin parallel to the ground.

When sitting, women have to keep their legs crossed to avoid exposing themselves when they’re wearing short skirts or dresses.

Additionally, sitting with your legs wide apart has a masculine feel to it.

To sit like a lady, plant both of your feet on the ground and cross them at the ankles, then bring your knees tight together for a prim, feminine way of sitting.

There is also a way of walking that accentuates the feminine figure and shows off the curves.

The trick is to pull yourself forward using the lower half of the body, rather than having your torso fall forward and letting your feet catch up.

Toss your shoulders back and elevate your chest while swinging your hips slightly at each step. As much as possible, walk slowly and gracefully by taking lighter steps.

If you are in a hurry, aim to look composed as you walk with quick, short steps to reach your destination.

7) Cultivate good manners

Good manners matter. Proper etiquette guides us as we interact with people and navigate society.

More than being mindless pleasantries, good manners and proper etiquette help us show our respect towards others and make them feel appreciated. And treating people well often means being treated well in return.

Ladies are expected to cultivate basic manners and etiquette as a model for others, especially young children.

Practicing the basic rules of etiquette you learned as a child is a simple way of being more feminine and elegant.

Try to incorporate simple manners in your daily habits such as:

Smiling genuinely at people

Eating with your elbows off the table

Saying “Excuse me” when you burp in public

Using “Please” or “May I”

Sneezing into a tissue rather than your hands

Finding a kinder way to give negative feedback

Greeting people kindly even if you’re in a bad mood

Chewing your food properly, with your mouth closed

Knocking on doors and waiting for a response before entering a room

Not interrupting people or rolling your eyes when they are speaking

Asking people to pass dishes to you during a meal rather than reaching for it yourself (and invading their space)

Keeping negative opinions to yourself but sharing positive comments and compliments to others

8) Speak like a lady

You don’t really have to change the way you think or ordinarily talk to be perceived as feminine as a big part of femininity relies on confidence.

Swear words and crude language, however, are generally frowned upon in society.

Men and women alike need to think twice when cussing in front of others, especially in a formal environment like the workplace.

The difference is that men get a bit more leeway for cuss words and vulgar jokes because being provocative is seen as a masculine trait.

On the other hand, women are expected to speak politely most of the time so femininity is closely associated with polished language.

At best, being feminine means finding the balance between polite speech and asserting yourself.

You can still raise your voice (sometimes) and curse (very quietly) but overall, you need to speak politely.

Speaking like a lady means speaking clearly, knowing what you want to say, and being considerate towards others.

A ladylike person isn’t rude, hostile, or mean to the people around them, even if they’re with someone they dislike.

If you’re dealing with a rude person, it’s best to smile and limit your contact with them.

To be a feminine speaker also means reducing the number of vulgar or inappropriate conversation topics you bring up.

9) Avoid masculine behaviors

Being “one of the boys” can take a toll on the feminine image you’re trying hard to construct.

Some behaviors like booing, shouting, giving high fives, chugging beer, showing off, or chomping on food can undermine your femininity.

Unlike the subtle, coy, and graceful behaviors expected in femininity, male behaviors are very “in your face”.

Having a girly image doesn’t mean you can’t drink beer or enjoy sports; you’re just encouraged to do all these things with more style and grace.

Moving in a more feminine way means being smoother and more in control.

Of course, this all depends on the context.

Feel free to act tough or aggressive while playing sports or participating in other activities. Having fun and being carefree is all part of the feminine charm.

10) Spend more time with women

Having male friends is great but in order to learn what it takes to be feminine, it helps if you are surrounded by women — especially if you are in a male-dominated environment.

Being around other women allows you to learn what people consider as “feminine” and what is not.

You’ll also be able to appreciate femininity more as you find women to uplift you and show you ladylike values, such as compassion, sensitivity, and strength.

It’s important to note that hanging out with women requires you to act ladylike, whether online or offline.

When it comes to drama and gossip, you should stand up for yourself if something is wrong — but never try to tear someone else down.

11) Read women’s magazines

Media plays a large role in shaping what is feminine and what is not.

Women’s magazines, talk shows, and social media content can all give you a clue on what typical women are supposed to look like and how they should act.

For example, the media is always trying to uplift empowered women who are polished and successful in their own ways. This is the current brand of femininity they want to explore.

Tuning into style, fashion, and relationship trends provides you an idea of how women are expected to behave in today’s society.

Do be cautious and take everything with a grain of salt; most of the content you see is designed to advertise rather than to give advice.

Embracing A Feminine Mindset

You may look, smell, walk, and talk like a lady but it can only go so far if you don’t have the right mindset.

Attitude and confidence have a large impact on what people recognize as feminine; feeling at home in your own skin, extending love to yourself and others, and enjoying life will allow you to express femininity and help others see it in you too.

12) Own your confidence and unique charm

No one has a monopoly on what it means to be feminine. You can absolutely define what femininity is for you.

Of course, you need to own your definition of femininity and not be afraid to show it to the world.

Rather than conforming to traditional roles of femininity, you should focus on how to make yourself happy first.

Building confidence in your body is about being comfortable in your own skin, regardless of your shape and size.

It’s easy to be more confident when you take care of yourself so don’t be afraid to eat healthily, sleep a lot, and exercise when you can.

Growing your own brand of charm requires you to accept and take pride in your unique personality.

In order to charm someone, you have to showcase your incredible sense of self. You’re not bragging about who you are or what you’ve done; you’re simply staying attuned to who you are.

13) Empathize with others

Historically, femininity has been rooted in empathy and compassion. Female figures are often perceived as wise and nurturing rather than combative and competent.

Sometimes, empathy can be misconstrued as a weakness because typical female behavior isn’t aggressive at all.

Women try to solve problems by fostering community and togetherness. A great lady would always recognize other peoples’ feelings and make an offer to help them feel better.

What does feminine compassion mean today?

Some compassionate behaviors include:

Avoiding unnecessary conflicts with others

Being respectful and polite even if you are road

Considering how the other person feels before getting upset

Thinking of how a problem affects others and not just yourself

Using your power to speak up for those who are unable to speak for themselves

Comforting others in their time of need with kindness

Withholding judgment until you hear the whole story

Recognizing that when someone does something bad, there are usually other factors at play

14) Be more expressive

Compared to men, women tend to be more expressive with how they act, talk, and dress. After all, it’s more acceptable for women to display emotions.

When you feel like there isn’t much to be said, utilize your body language and show people how you feel through your eyes or your smile.

In some cases, body language doesn’t work and you will need to use your words to avoid miscommunication.

Femininity is also about being open, vulnerable, and available to others.

You aren’t building walls around yourself to block people out nor are you pretending to be something you’re not.

15) Complement yourself

Stand in front of the mirror and start showering the compliments on yourself.

This type of self-love will help you feel good about yourself, which will then show outwardly to those you come into contact with that day.

We are always our toughest critics. The first to find faults in ourselves and to talk ourselves down. This isn’t feminine at all.

If you’re going to start convincing others of your feminine side, then you have to start by making an effort to convince yourself.

Stand in front of that mirror each morning before you leave the house for the day. Find three things to compliment yourself on. Try and mix it up each morning so you aren’t reusing the same compliments.

Here are some perfect examples:

You look fab in that dress!

Your hair looks amazing today.

I love that color on you.

You look happy.

Your eyes shine when you smile.

You paired your dress well with your handbag.

The options are endless. You just have to be brave enough to see the best in yourself. This should also flow into the way you talk about yourself in front of others.

No one is going to see you as feminine if you’re constantly criticizing the way you look and act.

When you talk about the negative things in your life, you’re going to be seen as much less attractive.

When you talk about the positive things, your face automatically shines with a spark and you become much more attractive to those around you.

Self-confidence is a powerful tool, so don’t underestimate it. Both when you’re alone and when you’re around others.

Femininity comes naturally to some lucky women, while for others, it has to be practiced with a conscious effort.

Being feminine is both nature and nurture. If you didn't naturally gravitate towards playing with dolls, or you weren't encouraged to be girly, soft, and gentle as a young girl, chances are, you were probably more comfortable operating from your masculine energy growing up.

Many women went through a tomboy phase, and it wasn't until they reached puberty that they started experimenting with being more girly and feminine. This can sometimes stick with us or fade once real life starts to kick in for us as young adults.

The good news is it's easy to tap into your divine feminine power with a few daily rituals. But, like any habit, it takes a bit of discipline, patience, and consistency.

Aim to incorporate a few of the below into your daily routine, and watch your feminine energy start to flow more naturally.

1. Take Good Care of Yourself

The best and quickest way to connect to your femininity is by taking good care of yourself. Make a conscious effort to nurture your beauty, your physical and mental health, and your environment. Take action by doing at least one good thing for yourself every day. It also helps to add it to your to-do list, so you're motivated to do it.

“When you take care of yourself, you subconsciously tell yourself that you deserve to be treated well.”

Do you want to feel more healthy? If so, perhaps one of your goals could be to drink more water and do hip stretches, so you feel hydrated and relaxed. Or what about going for a 20-minute walk every day to clear your mind? Maybe try buying a bunch of your favorite flowers to lift your mood and brighten up your home.

When you take better care of your needs and wants, you're subconsciously telling yourself that you deserve to be treated well.

2. Hair and Makeup

One of the foundations of being a feminine woman is looking your best, starting with simple hair and makeup.

You don't have to wear a full face of makeup every day, but taking the time to apply your makeup correctly and brushing your hair so you look well-groomed is critical. Have some fun with it and try out different hairstyles. You could put your hair up in a bun, or sweep it to one side, or try on a hairpiece. Explore with hair and makeup, and take the time to feel beautiful with different looks.

3. Dress Up around the House

If t here’s one thing that makes a woman feel alive, it's dressing up in a gorgeous outfit.

Instead of throwing on your everyday pair of jeans and top, grab something more interesting from the closet. Most women have loads of clothes they've only worn once or twice. For example, what about all those cute outfits you bought for your honeymoon that you haven’t worn since? Pull them out and wear them again! Or what about that stunning dress you bought for your cousin's wedding last summer?

“Add accessories and heels to your outfit to feel more feminine.”

If you feel like you don't have anything to wear, maybe it's time to update your wardrobe. Clothes are so cheap nowadays you can buy an entire wardrobe for just a few hundred dollars.

Pair your outfits with accessories and some nice heels to transform your look to feel more feminine.

4. Wear Perfume

Spraying on a bit of perfume can instantly make you feel like a feminine woman.

Again, most women have many perfume bottles that they hardly wear because they associate perfume with going out or for special occasions. Get into the habit of spraying perfume when you're getting ready. Not only will you smell good, but it will put you in the mindset that today is a special day and that you deserve to look, smell, and feel special.

5. Wear the Color Red

Wearing the color red can instantly make you look and feel more feminine, and science backs this up. Research at Glasgow University shows that the skin on women's faces becomes redder before she ovulates, which could be the reason why women appear healthier and more attractive when they're blushing.

“Men find the color red magnetic and attractive.”

It's also the reason why men are drawn to women who wear red lipstick or a red dress. They find the color red magnetic and attractive because it sends a biological signal to their brains that you're at your most fertile and more likely to be "in the mood."

6. Wear Silk Pajamas

Don't go to bed in any old pair of sweats and t-shirt. Treat yourself and invest in a beautiful pair of satin pajamas. Silk is more expensive, but synthetic satin feels just as lovely and is a fraction of the price. You could go for a cami nightdress, a short sleeve and boxer shorts set, or the classic blouse and trousers PJ set.

Not only does silk feel luxurious and delicate against your skin, but it will make you feel prettier and elevated as a woman.

7. Get a Manicure

Your nails look so much prettier when they’re done, so embrace your femininity by getting a manicure. Or if the budget is tight, do them yourself.

You could get gels, extensions, a classic French polish, or try a completely brand new color. Having manicured nails can feel like a treat and makes you look more put together.

8. Dance

Dancing is a great way to get out of your head and more in touch with your body. Set aside at least 10 minutes to dance to your favorite songs or playlist. You may want to do this in privacy so you can completely let yourself go.

“Set aside at least 10 minutes to dance to your favorite songs or playlist.”

Start by closing your eyes and taking a deep breath to ground yourself. Then start moving your body slowly to the rhythm of the beat. Move your arms, torso, and hips in sensual motions to feel in the flow. Once you're done, notice how much softer and grounded you feel.

9. Create

The essence of being feminine is all about creation; even our bodies can create another human being! So take some time to work on a creative project. You could try painting, knitting, cooking, decorating, gardening, pottery, or singing. Being creative is fun, freeing, feminine, and gives you a feeling of satisfaction.

10. Connect with Other Women

Sometimes the best way to connect with feminine energy is by being around other women. Call up that girlfriend who is always positive and uplifting, or have lunch with that friend you haven’t seen in ages, or reach out to a woman you look up to for inspiration and guidance.

We women can have a profound influence on one another. We also have a unique capacity to understand each other's feelings and emotions on a much deeper level, which can leave you feeling rejuvenated and powerful.

Closing Thoughts

Being a woman is truly amazing, and embracing your feminine energy can be a beautiful thing. Practice some of these action steps to transform your life and watch your confidence grow.

Today’s topic I’ll be discussing Feminine Energy, or specifically ways to be more feminine. So if you’re female & would like advice on how to become a confident feminine high class woman.

What Is Feminine Energy? 6 Ways To Be More Feminine

Most of us probably have some sense of what it's like to be around someone with a lot of feminine energy. But what exactly is feminine energy, and what does being feminine really mean?

Here's what you need to know about how to be more feminine and get in touch with your feminine side.

What is feminine energy

Feminine energy refers to a specific set of traits, considered to be the opposite of traits associated with masculine energy.

Your masculine side gets expressed when you're working toward a goal, making progress, getting things done, and pushing forward.

Your feminine side gets expressed when you move with the flow of life, embrace your creative energy, dance, play, and attune to your internal process.

Importantly, these traits are not associated with gender. The set of traits we've come to define as "feminine" do stem from the expectations we used to place on women throughout history to behave a certain way.

Likewise, the traits associated with being "masculine" are traits we used to expect from men. Today we know people of all genders can have any combination of any of these traits, and no traits are inherent to any gender or should be expected of any gender.

That said, the words "feminine" and "masculine" can still be helpful in describing two different and opposing ways of being.

F or people of all genders, both feminine energy and masculine energy are necessary to embody in order to feel like a complete person. Men are usually encouraged to identify more with masculine energy, but there's great joy in being able to let go and be flexible. (In fact, it's more important than ever to raise boys without gender stereotypes!)

Likewise, many women are still raised with expectations to be feminine, but there are many benefits to being clear, directive, and progressive. It's satisfying for all of us to have outlets for both our masculine and feminine energies.

Why so many of us are out of touch with our feminine energy traits

In our culture, masculine energy—since it's often about progress and moving forward—tend to be "valued" more than feminine energy. This creates a feeling of being off-balance, both individually and culturally.

When we overvalue masculinity, we spend most of our time working and very little time resting, taking vacation, and spontaneously connecting with others.

Overvaluing masculinity also leads us to become dependent on man-made things, such as our smartphones and laptops, and spend less time in nature or expressing our creative selves.

Being overly masculine and under-feminine leaves many of us longing for something else—something rejuvenating, something wild, something resourceful, something spontaneous. It's the feminine!

How to be more feminine:

1.Reflect

Many of us are so busy that we rarely take time to listen to what's going on inside of us. If we're always acting in an extroverted way, it creates a schism within. We lose touch with our deeper selves.

This can be easily modified. All you have to do is internally connect to who you are. An excellent way to do this is to start therapy. When you work with a therapist to explore your thoughts and feelings, you're essentially diving into your deeper, internal, feminine side.

2.Go into Nature

Places can be characterized as either masculine or feminine, depending on their overarching characteristics. The feminine is life force energy. Places like the forest, jungle, parks, and the ocean are abundant with natural feminine energy. Go there when you're feeling out of sync and in need of revitalization.

3.Get Creative

The feminine is the creative force. Femininity historically described women, and, of course, many women have bodies that are designed to create life. But creation can occur in many ways—artistic expression, writing, dance, painting, or dreaming up new ideas. Envision what you want to create. Anything that expresses your flow is considered feminine.

4.Hone Your emotional expression

While the masculine is defined by logic, the feminine is expressed through emotions. We all have emotional selves, but many of us haven't been taught how to understand our feelings.

If you're confused about your emotional process, don't worry; you can learn to be more attuned to yourself. You do this by listening to how you feel and boosting your emotional intelligence. As you get to know your feeling states, you'll automatically begin to feel more whole.

5.Value Spontaneity and play

Let's be honest: We don't value vacation, connection, downtime, or rest as much as we should! We're overworked (over-masculinized), and therefore don't often experience the spontaneous joys of life.

Too many of us wait until our next vacation to feel relaxed and playful again. Don't wait that long! You can have mini-vacations every day. Prioritize downtime and time for relaxation. Read books, listen to music, do yoga, and simply enjoy the moment. When you get out of your overworked state, you'll feel more like yourself again.

6. Force Yourself to Transform

Some of us think of the feminine as being quiet and rejuvenating, but that's only half the story. Feminine energy is bold as well—it's the force of transformation.

If things in your life are no longer working for you, it is feminine energy that surges to make a change. This can be dramatic! Destruction comes before creation; we must say goodbye to the old to welcome the new.

While this process of transformation can feel unruly and scary at times, it is necessary. After all, we're changing all the time.

Without the powerful movement of feminine energy, both soothing and unnerving, we would remain stagnant. And nobody wants that.

The Takeaway

It's easy to lose touch with your feminine side, but as you can see, it's a necessary aspect of who you are.

If you feel burned out, overworked, fragmented, or exhausted, you're in desperate need of feminine energy to restore, inspire, and enliven you.

Implement these practices, and the feminine will bring you back to life. If you're wanting to get spiritual with it, consider exploring your connection to the Divine Feminine.

Why you should Embrace your feminine side

Young women are no longer being taught how to be more feminine. And it’s because of one of the most glaring problems I see in our culture today. A complete lack of appreciation for femininity. Instead; being loud, aggressive, unkempt, and promiscuous are traits that seem to get praised. We are being told that behaving this way is what will make you a strong woman. Behave this way and you can have it all.

What if I told you that you could be feminine and still be considered strong? And that having it all shouldn’t really be something a lady would even want to aspire to. Being a feminine woman is about not needing to constantly be the center of attention. It’s more about thinking about other peoples’ comfort in any situation. To live the motto of hospitality in all parts of your life.

Traits of Femininity

I think before we continue we should probably define the traits of a feminine woman. These are just the basics as there are many traits a feminine woman can have. Also, every woman is so unique and may embody different aspects of being feminine. But I think these are a good foundation to start with.

•Practices Politeness

•Does not engage in promiscuous behavior

•Modest in manner and dress

¥Nurtures her family and home

•Cares about the comfort of those around her (hospitality)

•Continually strives to better herself

•Refrains from gossip and malicious activities

•Strives to be gentle and kind

•Makes a conscious effort to not argue with or demean her husband

•Uses reason to make her point, not emotion or a shrill voice

•Understands that being a lady means giving men a reason to strive to be gentlemen

These are just a few of the key traits of what it means to be feminine. I can assure you by no means do I live up to all of these. But I strive every day to practice more of these traits in my own life. This is where grace comes in. But I truly believe that if more women practiced even a few of these traits the world would be a much better place.

Why should you Want to be more feminine

So that brings me to why should I want to be more feminine? The simple answer is by being a woman it is in your biology. Women and men are not only built physically different but their chemical make-up is different as well. As I’ve stated before in my article “How to Survive as a Traditional Homemaker in The Age of Third Wave Feminism”, we are not equals, but rather complementary. How that is controversial is beyond me. A woman should not strive to do everything a man can do, because she was designed to do everything he can’t. That being said, I firmly believe that under the law we should most definitely be treated equally.

There have been some studies done recently that show some interesting trends when it comes to choices the genders make when everything is completely equal. (You can read about these fascinating studies here & here.) In countries where the maximum amount of effort is made to have enforced equality (ie: affirmative action) across the entire culture, the division of the sexes becomes even more pronounced instead of less. Meaning women choose more typically feminine jobs and men stick to more typically male type occupations. It is our biological nature that drives us and to deny that is folly. We were created to fill specific roles and that is where we do best. There are always exceptions to the rule but for the most part, women will almost always voluntarily choose to be nurturers.

A Medieval Example of Why It Pays to be More Feminine

A long time ago when I still did medieval re-enactment (yes, I did that) a female friend of mine asked why the guys always treated me differently then they treated her. I didn’t have the heart to say it was because she acted more like one of the guys. I hadn’t really thought about it. But when I went to events I really played up the role of a lady. And not surprisingly I was treated as such by even the gruffest males in our group. This is one of the benefits of acting like a lady. No matter your social status, looks, age, or intelligence; if you act like a lady you’re more likely to be treated like one.

Don’t like to wear dresses, can I still be feminine?

Yes, yes you can. Even though how you dress does have an impact on your femininity, it is ultimately more about how you present yourself. And even more so about your behavior. I know some very feminine women who wear jeans, t-shirts and work hard on their homesteads. But they still manage to present themselves as very feminine.

One of my all-time favorite examples of true femininity is Audrey Hepburn. That woman was strong, kind, compassionate, elegant, and her beauty came from not only her appearance but from within.

Tips for Being More Ladylike

There are many things you can do to be more feminine. I would try to do one of these things at least once a day. Just like any good habit, it takes time to develop. And before you know it you’ll be a real lady in no time.

•Either take the effort to do your hair, wear a little makeup, or wear a nice outfit every day for a week. You can do one or all depending on your comfort level. I always feel so much more cheerful when I do this.

•Practice doing one kind act a day. Whether that’s volunteering locally in your community, doing something nice for a family or friend, going out of your way to help someone you know who could use help, or saying something kind to a stranger.

•Learn one new thing every day.

•When you find yourself getting frustrated or angry with your spouse or someone close to you, stop yourself and ask is it worth hurting them to be right? Think about how much you love them. And instead of arguing kiss him on the cheek or hug them and tell them how much you value them. And then leave the room before you say something you’ll regret.

•Try to be more aware of your posture. Carry yourself lightly, raise your head, maintain eye contact when you are speaking to people, sit up straight in chairs, and cross your legs at your ankles. Not only will better posture be good for your health it is also a way to project a more feminine demeanor.

•In our modern culture sometimes we forget to use better manners. I know I do on occasion as well. Try using better manners for the day. You should always chew with your mouth closed, say please and thank you, be polite to others in public, and try to refrain from being crass.

Be Feminine and Strong

I truly feel that when we strive to be more feminine our lives as women become more beautiful. We don’t face nearly as much strife as when we are crass and aggressive. It’s like the saying goes,” You attract more bees with honey than vinegar”. Ultimately I have lived two different lives; one where I was progressive and way less feminine. And now, where I aspire to be more ladylike. I can honestly say I have always been treated more fairly and kindly by all when I chose to be more feminine. When people see that you always try to make sure that those around you are comfortable and taken care of, they have more respect for you. They see you as a strong feminine woman. And being more feminine can only be a benefit to you, your family, and your community.