iām really amazed at all the ace people that continue to assume aspec = repulsed/averse
and by āamazedā i mean ātired ofā
We all see what we want to see, and I guess their view is /specifically/ exclusionist. Important thing to remember:
Your identity is not tarnished by someone elseās identity or expression. If gatekeeping and shading people from your own spectrum gives you a kick thereās something really wrong.
Itās almost like in their mind thereās only one flavor of aroace that people should see, and if anyone dares to stray from what they consider as palletable/acceptable theyāre APHOBIC.
Ok, to me itās pretty aphobic that they try to police ppl from their own spectrum and cover their ears whenever they encounter a perspective that doesnāt match their own. This is just such a tired topic, whenever I see any aroace char the Fandom is always split into peeps who donāt mind shipping and peeps who are offended and vehemently go after others; I get 2nd hand embarrassment every time. Kindergarten level of behaviour.
Whenever they get back to their malignant moaning on the topic of shipping Valdemar, they act like itās inherently offensive. Itās not. I keep seeing one person in particular going āYes I know aroace people can have sex and relationships, BUT THEY WERE SPECIFICALLY-ā SPECIFICALLY IN YOUR INTERPRETATION. You donāt get to decide shit or put constraints on anyone or anything. Especially other aspec people. Weāre all random tumblr users. Settle down Boo Boo the clown.
I just really wish they would try to understand what the word āambiguityā means. Because thatās what devs have been giving us always! Doubt they will ever agree bcs, among their piles of āCANON INFORMATIONā there is no place for that time devs talked abt Val in a spouse scenario :ā( or all the times they shared Valdemar shipping art :ā( or u know just the fact that Arcanas narratives, character behaviour and the canon itself vary route to route. I find it doubtful theyāll ever consider the aforementioned ambiguity. They always seem to know best and have the facts :) discounting the bits of āCANONā that donāt fit their agenda/wont justify them demeaning and mocking people.
Itās pretty sad imho. Railing oneself up into such bitterness. A word that always comes to mind is Selvsving:
Applies to both sides in a way, but only one side is screaming at people, telling them to āstopā.
Iām not obligated to play into whatever other peoples take on aroaceness is, iām not an employee, this is not my job. Iām a casual blogger and if i want to go off my own hcs and experiences i can do that. If you see this as somehow problematique, then its your personal grievance. I will not be sorry for having fun with a character that is supposed to represent my orientation.
