The Single Relationship

It’s sounds like an extremely singular thought if we use this as a meter to define love and a relationship, but it is the most single important question we need to ask ourselves and our partners.

It’s not a matter of trying to live up to the expectations of the person we are with, but a matter of seeing if two individuals can blend seamlessly or not seamlessly together. 

You could be thinking that as long as you try to understand my partner and as long as you listen and communicate with my partner then you can make your partner happy.

False.

People can grow and learn together, but you cannot change who they are as a person. Their values, their approaches, their methods, their ideology, their beliefs, their goals. Granted with every relationship comes compromise, but you cannot compromise everything. You risk losing yourself, and you come out not knowing your partner more so than knowing them.

People need to ask “Will I make you happy” more.

Does my personality fit yours? Do my goals and visions align with you? Can I help your aspirations come to life? Can I support your thoughts and beliefs? Will I be able to understand you or would I need to constantly change how I am to make it work? Will I be able to go through every step and problem with you?

The company of an individual is great, but can the person in front of you yield the maximum utility for your life? 

“Will I make you happy” is such a simple question, but no one seems to ask themselves or the other person it. People seem to always place themselves in the “I can deal with it” box, but that inspires negativity towards the other person because people fail to see that the person in front of them cannot fit them as a whole. They begin to resent each other and blame each other for wrongdoings, but in reality, they were not honest about whether or not they could make the other happy.

Seek God first, and all shall be added onto you.

Maturity is determined by faith in God.

An educated man/woman will push you to be better.

Masturbation/ pornography will take away from your marriage sex life.

If you like someone, don’t lust for them, pray for them.

Looks aren’t enough, ever.

If you need validation for a relationship, seek counsel, not likes.

Forgiveness and prayer solve all misunderstanding.

Enjoy your youth and stop dating around.

Short-lived compliments are just that- short-lived.

Don’t pursue someone who treats you with no respect or regard.

Intimacy is more important than sex. Remember that.

Don’t sweat the petty stuff.

Be with someone who makes you a better Christian and human being.

Grudges weigh down relationships. Avoid them.

Don’t gossip about your partner.

Date, Court, and Marry intentionally.

Friendship is the best foundation for a good marriage.

Talk it out, always.

Flattery doesn’t make up for real communication. 

A husband can not complete you.

Only God can.

A man can not love you more than God loves you right now.

Why You’re Single by Amanda Crute (via juliaaaroseem)

real talk.

Don’t get into a relationship with someone you’ve only known for a short while because they might turn out to be psychotic. 

i know someone that dated a girl he only knew for a month and she turned out to be a crazy, first-rate clinger. She would check his texts, Facebook, Tumblr (pretty much all his social networks) and would try to dig up information about his past (like friend request his exes and other friends on Facebook that she has never met in real life and would ask them about him). The relationship didn’t last very long as a result and he regretted getting in the relationship with her in the first place. I’m guessing he fell for his ideal view of her, and once he got to know her true persona, he realized that he made a pretty huge mistake. He ended it as soon as he could and it broke her heart.

Chinese food in a car with a moon roof under a street light on a nice evening.

on the night of a meteor shower walk for half an hour down the beach then lay down on a blanket and enjoy the show.

a feast at the absolute cheapest restaurant  and that probably means terrible food but you’ll get plenty of it. Order at least three separate things and share.

find out your dates favorite tv show or movie series(gotta be at least 3 in the series) and have an all day marathon. Don’t be annoying and ask about the show all the time though just get into it and watch it them.

wait until a movie has been out for an extremely long time, go to the daytime showing and enjoy what will be a basically private screening.

going to an aquarium is a pretty fun time

rent a movie you have both seen before and just talk to each other with the movie playing in the back ground. It’s nice to sit and talk and whenever there’s a pause in the convo you’ve got a good movie to watch no matter what point its at.

never underestimate your dates willingness to go swinging. Find a local park and go have some fun. It does not matter how old you are(unless the park is age limited like a little kid park or something, don’t be those weirdo’s…)

there are bound to be local events around you at some point so keep an eye on the local scene. (hint: holidays will be extra busy)