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Radblr cares way too much about 'collecting' instances of tims being shitty/predatory. As you can imagine, most of said instances are from right-wing publications. And yet another daily mail article of some guy in a woman's changing room doesn't add to the discussion at all.

Radblr low-key thinks of itself as better than those liberal snowflake sjws with their trigger warnings. As a result, since joining radblr I have seen some traumatising shit shared with no warning (the images of women after acid attacks comes to mind. Deliberately sharing traumatising violent imagery to already traumatised women is just crabs in the bucket shit - same with the point above.

Radblr is, at the very least, centrist in nature and low-key reactionary, often emphasising that what's bad about transactivists, poly people, bdsmers etc. is how cringe, ugly and weird they are.

Radblr has a borderline spiritual belief surrounding sex and love, making sweeping statements about both as if we could ever possibly know that casual sex is universally bad, or you're only supposed to love one person at a time. They'll cite hookup culture's damage to women as some sort of 'proof' that casual sex/polyamory is a uniquely patriarchal invention and therefore damaging the pure, monogamous sex we should be having (well, unless you're heterosexual, in which case you shouldn't be having sex at all) - despite the fact that monogamy has also been very much utilised by patriarchy!

Radblr's single-issue nature places it in a bubble where members are low-key discouraged from engaging with any leftism outside it. Therefore, most radblr members are very quick to tar all leftism with the same brush whilst not knowing even the most basic of right-wing dogwhistles. Leftists get insulted way too much on radblr, and whilst I understand this is done out of frustration/betryal, radblr members are way too keen to boast about how they are super normal and can get along with everyone, and would rather hang out with their 'normie' conservative relatives than the strawman sex-positive transactivists which, as according to my point above, are always painted as cringe, ugly and weird.

Radblr is ableist as fuck, once again keen to boast about just how normal we are and making fun of people for things like 'not being able to answer the phone'. Radblr places itself in a bubble where we never have to be challenged, and then brag about how much more mature we are than those mentally ill freaks who can't hold down a job. Because radblr's fiscally centrist mentality also has this weird obsession with jobs being some metric of what a normal healthy person you are and also what a good feminist you are. I'm constantly on the lookout for radfems who are willing to criticise both the tradwife phenomenon and also recognise that those tradwifes aren't stupid, pathetic and lazy - because maybe they're women who recognise the evils of work under capitalism and have tried to escape that with the only avenue they know.

There's plenty of osa radfems who will dunk on tims for being lesbophobic, only to turn around and be lesbophobic

The treatment of detrans women can be absolutely vile. The treatment of radfem learning trans men can be disgustingly misogynistic. The language some radfems use to describe dysphoric women and their bodies is inexcusable.

There’s a weird balance to it, when one considered the human beings, and oftentimes women, who are at the receiving end of objectification for the camera. The more vulnerable they are, the more abused, the more their body is exposed and the more their “self” or ego is degraded for viewing pleasure, the more anonymous and protected the to the outside world the viewer needs himself to be.

Ahh but porn has always existed!! Look at cave paintings! Okay. Masturbate to cave paintings. I really want you to masturbate to cave paintings. If it's the same thing, you should have no issues masturbating to cave paintings. I'm dead serious when I say I have no issues with anybody masturbating to cave paintings, or even written smut or anything that doesn't rely on the rape of real people and profiting off of it. I'd be fine with hentai if so much of it didn't try to up the shock factor as much as possible to get people hooked on various fetishes.

​The "it’s always existed" argument is such a lazy reach. There is a massive structural chasm between a cave painting and a multi-billion dollar tech industry that uses predatory algorithms to keep people scrolling through increasingly extreme content. One is a human expression; the other is a profit-driven machine that relies on the financial desperation of real people.

​You can be 100% in favor of people having healthy, liberated sex lives while still recognizing that a massive, unregulated industry built on the extraction of labor from vulnerable populations is a net negative for society.