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Stuffie giveaway!

So I bought this little fluff for a friend but we stopped talking soon after and I think he would be appreciated much more by one of you little floofs! He is very soft!!

I will randomly pick someone who has reblogged as the winner! Only reblogs will count! You don’t have to be following me. You will have to give me your address so keep that in mind! I will ship internationally!

ENDS 24th October at 17:00 GMT!

Ridiculously small kitten: “Myam myam myam. Njam njam njam njam njam njam njam! Myam myam myam nyam nyam myam. Mmmam. Mrrrrram. Meep!”

Scared of the dark?🌙  This Stuffie lights up! 🐶Use the code “Kitt5″ for 10% off.

1.) Your little is adorable. No matter what. They can wear a plastic bag, and they’ll still be adorable to you.

2.) Your little seems to want a lot of stuffies, but you’re their ULTIMATE (aka favorite) stuffie.

3.) LITTLE VOICES. THEY’RE IRRESISTIBLE.

4.) You aren’t always immune to those puppy dog eyes.

5.) Your little thinks you’re the coolest person in the whole universe. They’re right.

6.) A small 8-pack of crayons is almost never enough. A 96-pack will do, though.

a “baby did you eat today?” kind of love.

a “you’re the first person I told” kind of love.

an “I gotta kiss you before you leave” kind of love

an “I love you” before we say bye kind of love.

an “I noticed that you need this so I got it for you” kind of love.

a “we’re not going to bed til we’ve made up” kind of love.

a wipe my tears away kind of love.

a nonstop joke fest until I smile again kind of love.

a goofy smile when I walk in the room kind of love.

a hold me until my panic attack passes kind of love.

a rub my back after work kind of love.

Thank you! Lol, I’ll try! Long distance is always hard!

♦Skype dates! In which you could watch movies together! Or play a board game! (Like Candyland, if you both have one!) Or, just sit together doing your own thing. You can do grown up stuff, and they can just color and show you when they’re done! ♥ That’s pretty much how things go IRL anyway!

♦Bedtime stories! Like, this is something you can do just as well as any CG! You can do recordings or read to them on Skype and show them the pictures in the book! Goodnights are so important when you’re long distance!

♦So are good mornings! Check on them every morning! Remind them to brush their teeth, eat, and take their vitamins! If they’re going out, remind them to put on sunscreen! Just be totally over protective, and I promise, they’ll feel little! Send each other pictures all the time while! Throughout your day! You can never send to many pictures!

♦Couple! This app! Just trust me! There’s thumb print kisses!

♦Tumblr, lol. It sounds vain and lame, but since you two can’t show each other off IRL, tumblr is the next best thing! Reblogs! Tag each other! Be totally obnoxious and in love! ♥ Like you would be IRL. Don’t worry about what anyone else thinks. There’s nothing wrong with being happy and in love. If you’re so happy you want to shout from the roof tops, do it! Just, you know, in blog form! (;

♦Communication. Communication. Communication. Talk. All the time. Throughout the day. You’re long distance; so, talking is all you have. Make the most of it. Send them into little space randomly throughout the day with a, “Who’s my good little boy/girl/one!” If they’re walking somewhere, tell them to look both ways before crossing the street! Twice! Haha! If it feels like it’s too much, ask them. But it probably won’t be! ♥ Also, extra reassurance is needed with a long distance littles. Remind them regularly that they are your little, you love that they’re little, they aren’t a burden, that you’re proud of them, that they’re lovely, protected, and safe! ♥

♦Rules, chores, rewards! Set a few tasks for your little to do every day! I personally am so shitty with rules! So, I go with a few basic rules, but put more emphasis on the daily tasks! Five is a good number! This app is also really chill! I used it when I was a foster mommy! It’s called Chore Monster! Rewards depend on your circumstances, maybe said little can go a small, teenie, tiny shopping while talking to you on the phone! It’ll be almost like you’re there! Or you can buy them a small gift and put together a care package! Or if you’re broke like most of us, a later bed time, extra night night stories, extra sweets, a chore deferment, ect! ♥

Recently I’ve come across blogs whom are purposefully targeting the DDLG and CGL community, making crude blogs around hating and judging the community as a whole.

This is not only very misinformed, harsh, and dangerous to our community, but it’s spreading such false information and hatred.

This is not ok.

DDLG and the CGL community are not at all pedophilia; most of the time, it’s a coping mechanism.

A specific blog I found, where you can find and report them here, is especially rude and totally against DDLG in general.

For everyone whom it may concern: Let me break down their FAQ’s and explain why they are totally wrong, and why DDLG and CGL are totally NORMAL and HEALTHY ways to cope, and are not invalid or otherwise promoting pedophilia.

Here is their FAQ:

+But it’s not real children!

Listen dude if your partner gets off on pretend child abuse I don’t see how that’s separate from them being into actual child abuse. Roleplaying child abuse is gross

My Response: 

Nobody “gets off” on child abuse. DDLG and CGL are NOT about ‘child abuse’. It’s about age regressing into an age different than their own. This type of roleplay or relationship is used as a coping mechanism in most cases. It’s a very deep mental space (we call it Little Space) where participants are able to forget about their problems in the ‘adult (big) world’ and not have to worry about responsibilities. It’s a very loving and consensual relationship/roleplay between participants. It’s never about child abuse - it’s about being able to nurture and be nurtured. It’s a soft dynamic and play for others who suffer from things like anxiety, mental disabilities or disorders, personality disorders, PTSD, and survivors of sexual assault, rape, and other forms of trauma. Participants act like a child in order to help cope with their adult responsibilities, life, and trauma. It’s also not sexual for everyone in the community; and even if it is sexual, nobody gets off in the community from children. They ‘get off’ on the fact that they get to take care of their partner in such an intimate and loving way. This is in no way pedophilia. Pedophilia is between an adult and a child; this relationship and roleplay is done between two consenting adults; it is not pedophilia and never will be.

+It’s not sexual for me! is it okay to like cute stuff?

Okay cool! you do whatever you want, I don’t care either way about sfw stuff tbh. I love pink and girly cute stuff. I’m concerned with people dressing up as children for sexual reasons.

My Response:

Whether it’s sexual or not does not matter. If someone likes to have sex while calling their partner “Daddy”, it’s the same thing as another calling their partner “baby”. Are you promoting pedophilia by calling your partner a baby? No. It’s the same thing; and just because it’s sexual means nothing. It’s not your right to judge what others do in their own private bedrooms, and it’s not right to kink-shame another. That’s like trying to shame another for having sexual preferences for the same sex; we all have sexual preferences. You don’t have a right to discriminate and wrongly accuse another of pedophilia. Sexual or not, DDLG is never about pedophilia. DDLG is an intimate relationship between two consenting partners, who love and cherish another in a way that goes beyond the ‘vanilla’ mindset.

+Do not judge what you don’t understand

I’m pretty sure I get it, it’s literally not that deep; and I’m pretty sure sexualizing and pretending to abuse a child is gross

My Response:

DDLG and CGL are VERY deep and intimate relationships. It deals with mental head spaces. It’s a very emotional and deep relationship, which can help so many people heal from past trauma, or help them cope with adult responsibilities and life. You are NOT sexualizing child abuse and pedophilia while participating in DDLG, CGL, or age play/regression. Acting an age different than your own does not somehow sexualize child abuse and pedophilia; this is a relationship and roleplay done between two consenting adults; they are not children, they are not adults having sex with babies. Participants age regress in order to cope, heal, and add something much more intimate and loving in their relationship. It deals with your mentality, and it’s very much a soft and loving relationship and play. Some prefer the sexual side of DDLG; they are still valid. They are adults participating in kink; it’s not illegal, it’s not promoting child abuse or pedophilia. But the majority of the DDLG and CGL community are in it for non-sexual and non-kink purposes. Everyone who participates, whether sexual or not, are valid. You have no right to invalidate someone’s sexual preferences, relationship, or lifestyle.

+Im an abuse survivor and this is how i cope

thats terrible. you and your partner are pretending you’re a child and getting off on it how does that make any sense

My Response:

It makes sense because it’s between two consenting adults. We age regress in order to cope and heal from trauma and adult responsibilities. You don’t have a right to tell an adult what is right and what is wrong on how to cope, so as long as it’s not harming another. No adult is doing any wrong by age regressing;    age regressing sometimes isn’t even a choice; it’s a natural psychological and mental reaction to trauma, which sometimes isn’t even a choice. You’re invalidating someone who may not even have a choice.

+But my therapist

Bud if your therapist says you should be pretending to sexually assault someone that seems messed up. “age regression therapy” isn’t an excuse to promote pedophilia omg

My Response:

Age regression therapy is real, and professionals use it as a way to help victims of severe trauma. Nobody in DDLG or CGL ‘pretends to sexually assault someone’. DDLG and CGL is about age regressing; which is no way synonymous with sexual assault. You can read more about Age Regression Therapy here.

+Why are you so stupid/uneducated/judgmental about what two adults do in private

It’s not in private, its being posted on a public forum. also you’re using the same tags kids do/people who don’t want to be involved in your gross obsession. Also why are you tagging porn as “little girl/little boy”? wtf

My Response:

No kid should be using tags such as “ddlg” and “cgl”. There are plenty of public forums about other kinks. There is pornography all across the web. You can’t dictate what adults choose to put on the Internet. If you don’t want to see this stuff on Tumblr, block them by turning on the NSFW Block Button, or simply blacklist certain tags, such as DDLG and CGL tags. DDLG and CGL is not ‘gross’. It’s a very tender, soft, loving, and consenting relationship and roleplay between two consenting adults, and you have no right to tell someone how to cope and how to live.

Don’t invalidate someone else’s kinks or lifestyle choices. The DDLG and CGL communities are very safe and secure places, and our spaces are meant to help us cope and heal. You have no right to take that away from us, or invalidate our decisions.