tiffany.

emotional abuse is the hardest type of abuse to pinpoint tbh. it’s extremely difficult to know what to do when u are being emotionally abused and u don’t have the financial means to cut off ties with ur abuser. it’s even harder when others enable the abuse to continue. it’s hard not mentally repeating those same harmful things that ur abuser has told u. u feel helpless and small. a lot of people tell u ‘get out of that relationship. cut ties off with them’ but it’s not that easy. especially if they are a parent or a family member. u constantly question if there is something wrong with u. if u are making this up or overreacting. u don’t want to use the term emotional abuse because it sounds too ‘harsh’. u look for ways to justify their behavior. u tell urself that if u fix ur behavior, maybe the abuse will stop. maybe things will get better. u start to sympathize with the abuser and rationalize the abuse and it becomes normalized. u even defend the abuser when others try to call them out on their abuse. you’ve learned not to speak up or express ur thoughts and opinions because to ur abuser, they don’t matter. you’ve learned not to show emotion because if u show emotion or tears, ur overreacting, ur irrational, ur crazy, ur ‘too emotional’. u cope with the abuse in other ways. u shut down emotionally. u isolate urself from others. u are so criticized by ur abuser that u start to question whether u can do anything right at all. symptoms of depression and anxiety start to show. ur body is showing the signs of emotional abuse. u either eat too much or too little. for some, there are irregular bowel movements. u feel out of control because u are under constant control by ur abuser. u are constantly manipulated. there is something wrong with YOU. that’s the recurrent theme. u ask urself over and over ‘what do i need to do to stop being treated this way?’ if u are reading this right now and ur a victim of emotional abuse please listen to me when i tell u this……THERE IS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING WRONG WITH U BABY. PLEASE SEEK HELP AS SOON AS U CAN. DON’T LET THIS DESTROY U. 

Fuck you

Thanks to Rachel Dolezal actual mixed race Black people out here have to pull out birth certificates, high school yearbook photos, witness accounts, and documented journal entries just to keep from being excluded from their own community. That’s one of the many reasons why I said that what that woman did would have serious consequences for all of us who *are* Black.