they'll either categorize it as a horrific human rights violation and describe it as almost akin to racial segregation and police the language used around those in special ed ("don't call them special ed, they just have different needs!!!") despite never having the experiences of being in special ed

OR they'll think that we're so privileged to have gotten "all the support in the world" and that we're super coddled and always respected because we're special ed

as someone who was in special ed (without a diagnosis at the time, because yes that's possible and even somewhat frequent) i literally didn't even remember being in special ed as a kid because it was utterly unremarkable, just like how being in general education was also pretty unremarkable.

Kikyō, trapped in her tragic fate, needed that instant of affection, not for the man who ever hurt her, but for the injustice of her own end. Her soul had found no rest, and that small gesture, as unexpected as ephemeral, meant more to her than InuYasha could have imagined.

On the other hand, I find it important to mention that in the manga, Kaede cries while asking for his sister's body to be destroyed, a sign of pain that the anime didn't represent.

I would have loved these scenes to stay, not because I want to feed the InuKyō or to generate controversy, but because they better reflect the sadness of Kikyō. She wasn't looking for a loving reunion or immediate justice, but simply a moment of consolation, even if it came from who she believed her murderer, when she still didn't know the truth of her death.

As an autistic person I am still prone to bias have learning issues a direct result of my autism (shitty ass memory and information/sensory overload and other shit that impacts my critical thinking makes absorbing and understanding information hard) which impacts my understanding of certain topics and not all of us are pedantic. I hate this stereotype stop it 'good stereotypes' are still bad. You are an asshole

Wikipedia can be useful for finding sources and shit and to get general rundowns but anyone can edit an article and omg people aren't as educated as they think they are. Plus even then it depends on if the linked their sources correctly.

Also that there is a spaceship buried beneath the Great Sphynx in Egypt.

Hey, so... That conspiracy theory obsessed kid from my childhood ended up being a Conspiracy Theorist Podcaster and was just convicted of murdering his girlfriend. The podcast is still running just without him. This is all horrific and I honestly don't know how to feel right now.

IMO the deciding factor is that she was leaving him.

There are a lot of people out there abusing methyl amphetamines, and they don't murder anyone. He created a scenario for himself in his mind where murder was a justifiable response to his Fiancée breaking off the engagement. This is femicide, with notes of conspiracy theory justification, where the murderer was high.

There's a lot of focus on how this murder was "meth fuelled", but I really think there should be more focus on how conspiratorial thinking warps the mind.

I want to write my condolences to the family but I don't know how to contact them.

now why did todd have to freaking "audition"???? when kurt is just allowed in. like yeah sure maybe check hes not with the enemy. but like??????????????????????

i know he might be stealing and smelly but first, Xavier says, "we cant turn our back on people" but the chucks storm at a teenager who is clearly troubled and in need of like genuine help???

Autistic kids and adhders who can't relate to their gifted peers and are constantly alienated by them. Kids who struggled in school due to dealing with a chronic or mental illness or physical/learning/developmental disability. Those of us who have had to drop out of highschool or college. Kids who worked so hard and wanted to be seen as smart, but never were. Who watched as their peers seem to fly by them in school, while they were left behind. Who were bullied and put down by those in the gifted and honors classes. Whose confidence was absolutely destroyed by education.

'i wish I knew what was wrong with me!'

'if I knew I had dyscalculia or autism or anxiety or Crohn's or arthritis I would have been kinder to myself because I'm not stupid I have a learning disability or chronic illness!'

'people would've been nicer if I had a diagnosis!'

Honey no. You grew up in the 90s- autism dyslexia any learning or intellectual or developmental disability were often used interchangeable with the words stupid or retard. Unless you lived in a school with a good special ed program you wouldn't have liked your diagnosis- your self confidence would have been torn to shreds because depending on where you went to school that shit was seen as an objective sign of inferiority-I have seen kids crash out over being put in sped because that's the 'dumb people class' and guess what- it was usually the smart kids who had a late diagnosis of dyslexia or ADHD or autism freaking out because they couldn't be smart and have these issues. Because in their eyes dyscalculia or visual learning disability or brain fog from health issues meant stupid, because in their eyes they had a health diagnosis that was embarrassing or limiting or unsympathetic and saw it as a dream ruiner. Plus if your parents sucked they sucked and that doesn't change cause your in sped or getting bad grades

Also in the 90s special needs children sometimes got used as free labor so that was also bad

I loved sped as a kid but not every school is equipped with the resources needed for special needs students so they either don't get the right accomodations and get shitty therapy and the least helpful accomodations (extra time is not the end all be all of accomodations it doesn't help everyone- I think it just made some of us anxious) or you have to move to get proper services. The closest thing to sped in my middle school were remedial math reading class- which caused problems. They weren't properly equipped for shit. Summer school sucks ass and ruins your vacation and is treated like a punishment which sucks because Jesus Christ the reason a lot of kids are put into Summer school is because they failed because they have depression or health issues or a ADHD/other learning issues all of which make school harder- so it feels like you are getting punished for having issues and for failing. It's also just boring as hella and leaves you in an environment that you probably already considered hell for even longer even though you thought you'd get a break from your burnout. (Maybe we should make school feel less like a boring hellhole of sensory overload/deprivation and stop acting like summer school is a punishment for being lazy or dumb cause ist supposed to be something to help students but I digress) And it's not always traumatic but it's no cakewalk

Gifted kids had it hard but it's so weird when they think people who were more disabled than them or have no gifts or special abilities granted to them by their disability have it easier like bitch what?

Also gifted kid programs are no longer a thing at least in the US so when I hear someone my age talk about being a former gifted kid I get confused- either you had tiger parents/your pressure came from someplace else (sometimes even yourself) or you came from a different country.

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Yes you could have been both sped and gifted. Yes the struggles you had as a gifted or gifted/sped kid are shitty.

But imagine if every time the scapegoat talked about the abuse they went through somebody brought up the preferred golden child- like yes they got hurt too but does the spotlight have to be on their romanticized trauma? And that golden child then acts like the scapegoat had it easier. That crap builds up resentment and then we start playing oppression Olympics back and forth. The intelligent people are more depressed nonsense, the bullshit I mentioned about late diagnosed gifted people acting like the lives of more severely disabled kids who didn't get the initial high of being called gifted. Its not always traumatic but for a lot people it was and seeing others for so long act like they had it easier kind of sucks ass. And for the longest time I kept hearing 'nobody takes my struggles as someone who was gifted seriously' and it's like yeah stop romanticizing it and show off that it was ugly. That kind of pressure and drive for perfect and to compete will fuck with a kid and the realization you weren't actually a genius and were infact average (which when you are a kid whose been a perfectionist their whole life feels like being called a dumbass) is a confidence shatterer- being told your issues are being caused by laziness because there are 'true few idiots' and having to question if your just slacking too much or if you are a true idiot

From many people's perspective you have the struggle of things once being easy and you were successful and didn't get frustrated with a lack of skill or ability because understanding academics came easy to you and being good at stuff isn't some tragedy it's a bonus and fun and everyone complimenting you and then the fall into figuring out reading above grade level doesn't mean your gonna automatically be successful and the realization your actually average or have a disability

It ignores all the traumatic shit gifted kids go through but that's the perspective people keep getting because being a gifted kid had some benefits. Being sped only benefit is an equal education and that isn't always a guarantee

For sped kids or kids who weren't in sped but had undiagnosed disabilities they got called stupid or lazy right out the gate and nobody complimented them. They failed struggled with skills that should've been easy if they were 'smart' and it sucks to suck and had to go through more intense studying to get Cs and got punished until grades would improve by taking away even more free time than studying did.

Being disabled is like being a shitty x man. Being a telepath sucks you hearing other people's voices in your head and having to know exactly what others think of you and the pressure to help others who are struggling might be immense-but hey you know how to most likely win a conversation, and can understand another person perfectly plus there's no physical signs something is off and people compliment you on your emotional intelligence and there is so much versatility it's almost objectively a good power, it's an advantage with downsides- really tragic ones. You still have to deal with the shame of failure but it's hard for others to see that when most of your life you just had a natural talent that made life so much easier and convenient even if you still had problems.

And while I hate how mean the comments are getting toward you gifted kids- it's weird that some of you cannot see why others are telling you to get out- it's cause they want their own space

...some of us are like Beak or Maggot. And yes Beak has a hot wife and has other shit going for him but he's got some pretty obvious fucking issues. Maggots gift doesn't really provide many benefits. You had benefits because you were intelligent/had a natural talent or inclination towards academics and since school prioritizes that shit you got some positive attention even if it was toxic. You don't know what it's like crying over 3rd grade mathematics as all the other kids go to recess and you just can't put it together. You had the work sheet done so fast and I know that sounds small but you don't have that sense of humiliation that's hard to articulate. Even if people were nicer about it- it still sucks because its just harder to get it and that means you have to work harder miss out on fun and be aware that your bad at something easy which is ouch. Idk how to word it.

while certainly not the largest example of a developmental milestone I was also forced to learn to tie my shoes young. unfortunately all the force in the world did not matter because I could not do it (not until much later anyways)

for every single autistic child there is force put into attempting to make us hit developmental milestones on time. being forced to hit a developmental milestone is an experience every autistic person has. the thing is- no matter how much force is applied some of us will never hit those milestones on time (or at all)

when you say stuff about how you were forced to hit a milestone and that's why you hit that milestone on time you imply that people who missed that milestone only missed it because there wasn't force applied. it also implies that people who never hit that milestone could eventually hit it if only they were forced to. this just isn't the case. missing milestones is not an effect of lack of pressure.

On one hand I feel bad because they usually have trauma but they don't see how harmful this mentality is because they survived because they were less disabled and they are also often the people who make fun of a person needing accomodations the most or the ones who hear the words developmental disability and treats them as a separate thing from autism ('your kid isn't autistic they have x yz ' or worse 'hes not autistic hes just a retard' or 'he's not autistic hes a brat! stop coddling him with aac he can speak sometimes!)

I'm not saying coddle developmentally disabled people that's a really bad idea but you don't teach independence the same way you teach a NT child independence and you definitely don't wanna neglect a kid either way (also yes even if you get fed and are clothed and whatever if needs related to your disability are ignored then that's neglect)

We don't learn from observation- I mean we do but not very well. We are slow. That's not an insult but you have to make consistent effort to teach skills repeated daily exposure and practice for long periods of time because our memories are often poor. You can't space these teaching sessions out for long periods of time. teaching these skills takes a lot of time. And it's gonna be frustrating and on both ends and sometimes feel embarrassing. Make fun of us for not being able to figure simple shit out or talk about how you could do that easily and that ist easy and even we could do it if we really tried- your just being a dick and what I said is still true.

It's not coddling to teach us this way because we genuinely need more guidance and guidance is teaching a skill- coddling is never letting us people who are high functioning enough to fold laundry cause we'll do it wrong and just letting others handle chores til we are reliant on others, never giving any sex education because we won't understand and we won't be having sex anyway, and why bother teaching us to drive or cook that's dangerous for slow people. It's leaving us vulnerable to abusers and without skills to be independent meaning if anything happens to a caregiver then we get screwed. It lowers self confidence and makes predators see us as easy targets even even then their is nuance- severe autism can be treated with therapy to help us become higher functioning but sometimes it can't and the best that can be done is teaching them potty training and how to hold a spoon and having 24/7 care for life- and that's still not coddling because they'd die otherwise

And the these fuckers get jealous of people who got coddled and it's infuriating because coddling is legitimately awful and can be abusive

'autistic me get coddled us autistic woman had to act like grownups and they just get to play with toys and be weird because they got diagnosed' or 'Diagnosis is a privilege because accomodations put life on easy mode!' or 'when your level 3 or 2 or just not very good at masking people take care your needs and people don't care that your a creepy weirdo who should have been forced to mask! They get all these services and caregivers You have it so easy'

Yeah people who make these comments disgust me. I am an autistic woman who has known autistic men and was diagnosed very young and I know what different severity levels can look like. Y'all always claim that when you say shit like this that what you mean is that 'if you got diagnosed early then you must have had all the money and gotten resources and help ergo it's a privilege' but not only is that untrue (some places do diagnoses for cheap, just because you had the money for a diagnosis doesn't mean that you automatically get access to services/that the services you get are good- a lot of them suck actually especially as you get older, autistic men are often viewed as incels lolcows or rapists or aggressive, accomodations don't fix all our problems and even when we do that's not easy mode and us needing help isn't a sign of incompetence/lack of integrity its not cheating. And dear God the horrible experiences of being visibly disabled can be tragic especially if it is a more severe disability- you don't know how many people all of a sudden are okay with eugenics when they see developmental disabilities)

Your expected to mask no matter what and if you cant- then have fun dealing with ostracization. Have fun being accused of being a junkie, kicked out, being told you ruined everyone's fun.

Learning to mask is an awful experience and it involves abuse but imagine if you never learned- you'd be worse off- if you didn't swim you sank and drowned or got permanent damage and that's why you learned how to mask and were 'lucky' (cause that's a really shitty experience) but many people in your exact same position won't swim they just drown because they are more disabled than you.

Mask and be miserable, incapable of self expression and constantly questioning yourself attempting to avoid the worst abuse or don't mask and deal with the cruelty.

Sometimes your trauma doesn't make you stronger or a better person. Sometimes someone is more disabled than you are and without help they will suffer or even die and while you probably still need help you won't die if you don't get it. Your trauma doesn't make you smarter or better off. It just sort of sucks ass and makes you depressed and makes you mask even when your alone. It didn't strengthen your character it's just sad and horrible and a part of your past.