My Third Attempt

Dear fellow Tumblrs :)

I’m in desperate need for new ideas to try out… :o Please reblog and add your own verified challenges and plays that could do the trick. Below a couple of examples of that have really worked for us :p

 Ella

 Challenges that are guaranteed to spark things up:

-Sexual food for the mind every day for two weeks. Half an hour or so, every day, both of you use online for dirty sites, blogs, image galleries, video sites,… Take it as a learning journey. Expand your horizon. Important: you don’t need to be aroused before or after your expedition - you are there to be exposed. Ideas: explore what kind of sex toys are out there, find erotic stories, watch bisexual videos, find out about real life sex parties & life style, etc etc

 (we do this quite often nowdays and it works so well each and every time!)

Kinky plays that are definitely worth trying - they take your sexual encounters to the next level:

 -Masturbation. Use a toy or a finger on yourself and the other watches. Help yourself to climax. Include playing with your anal (him as well).

 (we got this tip from somewhere and the point when both of us got over the embarrassment… Wow, intense experiences..)

 -During a night devoted just for you two: He cums in a condom. Later, when things have heated up again empty the condom on her pussy (or breasts if you cannot do that) and you play that she has just returned from her lover…

 (I would do this every time there is a chance… :p I love it! We have also had this version where he would cum deep in my pussy and I would keep it there for further use…:p)

 -Record a video of you playing with yourself, and better yet, cumming, and send it (or show) to the other. Explicit or not.

 (I haven’t sent anything but have shown him how I’ve pleasured myself watching erotic clips… He sent me the hottest thing ever back… I’ve learned that recording myself alone is very intriguing… :D)

-Get yourself a cock cage. Lock him up for some previously agreed on hours. Better if you are spending some quality time together somewhere, eg. in a hotel.

We spent the weekend celebrating, went to a wedding, went to a bar afterwards, spent a night in a nice hotel room… He would do favors for me… Focus on my pleasure… We played this game where he would need to work for his release… And then finally he was rewarded… ;) Oh boy, we will do this often from now on :p He tried to extend the idea to me wearing a butt plug but I’m not yet sure who will be the one wearing it… :D Damn I’m bad :D

-the other one gives a theme and the other tells a wet fantasy about that. Fully clothed, no touching allowed. (this can be continued for many days and also done in public places. A learning trip to each other’s fantasy world.)

-he helps her put on a strap on. Very slowly, with lots of eye contact. She caresses his face with it when he’s kneeling. He tastes it. She puts it in and out of his mouth slowly. (I feel this is about getting to really feel your emotions and not be embarrassed by them)

-three times helping yourself: Within a week, both of you masturbate three times and the other one gets to decide when. You can decide whether the other can watch or not. Rules:

1st time, you edge yourself as close to orgasm as possible but do not cum. At least 15-20 minutes or longer if needed. You develop a fantasy that you share with your spouse immediately after not cumming.

2nd time, the same but the other gets to decide on how it is done. Maybe some toys, piece of clothing, position, mirror,... Again, no cumming + sharing a little story afterwards.

3rd time. Like 2nd time but now added with actually going over the top. Share what finally triggered the orgasm.

-a week of submission and dominance. For one week, you stick to a more a submissive role, and for one week to a more dominant role.

His week in a dominant role: he uses her as often as he wants, the way he wants. He may tie her up, ask her to entertain him. He may want her mouth or pussy, anal maybe. She wears pretty things for him. She asks if she could give him a blowjob. She makes sure he knows she wants him to use her. She is his slut for the week.