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When Changyu is receiving Son Yan in her study, her is a bittle scrouched, her legs are open, she is drinking her tea and she does not care about the person that is in front of her.

Thats the same way that Xie Zheng behaved when the Eunuch came in his tent to discuss the marriage. He is sipping on his tea, his body a little bit scrouched and away from the person he is talking to.

Changyu acted the same way as her husband. That scene is meant to make us understand that she is copying the mimicks/behavior of Xie Zheng. She was not in the room when it happened but she still acted the same way as him when presented to a foe.

At the same time the lightning is also telling us something. Look at those two screencaps of their respectives scenes

Yes they are taking almost the same position when talking to the foe, but look at the colours, which we can also see in the previous screencaps.

Changyu is still in more warm colors than Xie Zheng. They are behaving the same way but her colors are warmer, why ? Because Changyu is not as prone to anger and violence as Xie Zheng, there is a more darker side to him that Changyu does not possess.

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