Call me Em

@theonlythingimfuckingisstupid

she/it - aroace agender - i’m here, i’m queer, i wanna disappear

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Intro Post

-I’m agender, aromantic, and asexual

-I use she/it pronouns

-Here are my oc’s please ask about them :D (psst there are more)

-writing blog @em-writes-stuff (writing rules here you can request a fic on this blog too)

current writing challenge (all fics are on my writing blog but you can request here too) oop i have another now

-I post (mostly reblogs but still) A Lot, so if you follow me, be warned. any original posts are tagged with #em rambles but feel free to rb them unless they’re tagged with #don’t rb

-Always willing to talk to someone, I’m just like super awkward and it never stops being like that

-My asks and submissions are almost always open and I love getting random asks from anyone (anon is on)

-If you need me to tag something, please, please, PLEASE message/send an ask/submission and I’ll do my best to remember to tag properly for you

have a lovely day, now go drink some water <3

#pinned post #intro post #em rambles

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kirbyofthestars

> “mannish features”

> look inside

> literally just common physical traits among women of colour

kirbyofthestars

you can’t separate transmisogyny from racism. the radical feminism movement is so overwhelmingly white because their idea of what a woman is is so thoroughly steeped in white supremacy.

isuggestrespecttranspeople

You can’t separate transmisogyny from racism. Very important to remember

Some doodles for my headcanon that Toph attracts animals because she's steady and strong like the Earth and they feel super comfortable and safe around her. Kinda like basking in the sun on a steady mountain top Also a sadder one on how she bonds with Appa over a shared experience :)

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This animal looks like my wife!

THERES MORE TO WHITEWASHING THAN JUST SKIN COLOR THERES MORE TO WHITEWASHING THAN JUST SKIN COLOR THERES MORE TO WHITEWASHING THAN JUST SKIN COLOR THERES MORE TO WHITEWASHING THAN JUST SKIN COLORRRRRRRRRR

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Everyone say thank you sanitation workers we owe you our lives sanitation workers

Imo the best type of system for children to grow up in would be one that assumes the birth parents/primary guardians won't do shit and takes care of every aspect of childcare that's essential for their wellbeing and development, collectively.

But I'm just a guy who only learned how to brush his teeth properly and got glasses as a child because we had both a dentist and a doctor come to school on a regular basis. The dentist would have us all stand in a circle with our little toothbrushes and show us how to brush and correct our technique. The doctors would give us general health assessments and then have the teachers contact our patents and essentially peer pressure them into getting us any health intervention we needed. My parents only reluctantly got me glasses because they knew the teachers would judge them if they kept seeing me sit in the very front row and still squint to see the chalkboard. So I'm biased.

The only times I ever remember seeing a dentist or doctor as a child was at school. I'm quite healthy physically and I'm very grateful for all the care I got from the various professionals who cared about my well-being and development more than my actual parents did.

We had free healthcare including dental, mind you, my parents just couldn't be bothered. When my brother, as a teenager, asked our mother if she could take him to his orthodontist appointments (which he'd already arranged for on his own) she basically told him she didn't feel like it and he had to take the bus.

If I could improve anything about that system, I'd take it even further and make it so kids could see a doctor and get meds, treatments, therapy, tests, disability aids etc. without having to rely on their parents as well. I shouldn't have had to put up with being bullied and guilt-tripped about the family finances and the time investment needed to take me to the optometrist every time I needed new glasses.

Some parents would not take care of their children even if they were given all the time and the resources. Mine are a great example of that — my mother stopped working and became a homemaker when I was in kindergarten, my father worked from the garage and was also always home. They had a car and our village even had a bus that would come once or twice an hour that would take you to the next two bigger cities.

Did that, plus the free healthcare, translate into them actually parenting and caring for us properly? It did not. They only ever did any of that reluctantly when not doing it would make them look bad, and most of the time they did a shitty job because they could never resist the urge to boost their egos by means of bullying literal children.

So I have to wonder: what did they actually contribute to our upbringing? Like they didn't teach us shit and mostly they just endangered our mental and physical health — but hey, at least they gave me cPTSD! That took some work too.

anarchistmemedistro

see also family abolition, and youth liberation .

A knee-jerk response to neglectful parenting I see a lot is “people should have to get licenses and take rigorous tests to PROVE that they should be ALLOWED to have kids” which is eugenics. That’s just the starting line for eugenics.

We are at a point in humanity where there is no meaningful reason why we shouldn’t be structuring our societies around wellbeing for all instead of wellbeing for the “deserving”.

Assume some parents will fail. Build social infrastructure that is designed to support failed kids rather than punish would-be parents.

queer-riot-dragon

Parents do not have to be neglectful to fail!

They can be busy, tired, stressed about finances, ignorant, etc. They can want to do the best for their kid and Fail Anyways.

The best thing is to support the children and give them the tools they need to succeed even if the parents are already giving them those tools. Because you can never learn something too much.

lessproblematical

Also sometimes parents become disabled or die and family can't always be counted on, and sometimes there isn't other family

Ok, Have you in real life ever seen a bathroom that had its light switch Outside of the bathroom. Not like one of those fancy giant bathrooms where the toilet is in its own little room, but a normal sized bathroom where you could be in there doing your thing and someone Outside could just turn the light off on you?

This is so normal to me

Yeah but it's weird

Maybe? normal though.

Maybe? weird though.

No but I'm pro this being a thing

no and what the fuck why would that be a thing

Other

Button.

Voting ended on13h

In Real life. not in a videogame or movie because I've Only seen it in videogames and a friend has spotted it in a movie.

#that’s how it is in my apartment #there’s a switch outside for the main overhead and one inside for over the mirror

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Eridian Neutral Committee

(My shitty take on JustCakeThanks's amazing template)

made a little wind-up porcelain dragon.

the patterns are paper napkin decoupage again, and this time i took some progress pictures, so a That is incoming, in response to a bunch of asks i got months ago.

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Person in the grocery store had amazon rainforest sounds blasting on their phone as they shopped and I think that's a beautiful use of free will

"people who don't wear headphones in public are a nuisance" except this one. I respect their indomitable human spirit

Just slept for twelve hours. Why am I still tired ?

#was planning on a like 3-4 hour nap and then a few hours of Productivity then sleep again #and I woke up after like four hrs but then went back to sleep #and woke up a few times between then and waking up #but. :/#now I have to shower bc I’m stinky. pretty sure I’ll have to wet my hair too bc it’s probably really tangled :/#em rambles

lord-kitschener

I mean the whole damn point of the Nativity story is that the supposed son of God (interpret Jesus how you fucking want, of course) was born to a couple of poor, exhausted peasants in the stable for the inn, and his first bed was a feeding trough for animals. That would nowadays be like a poor couple where the mother gives birth in a parking garage behind the motel because they couldn’t find a better place and nobody else would take them in. It’s a pretty gritty setting, and the idea is that God was reborn in some of the rock-bottom lowest circumstances. The only thing majestic was all the angels and shit, and of course motherly love

I get that a lot of the art portraying Madonna and Child as fabulously wealthy europeans in splendid robes and golden light was meant to glorify God + whichever nobility was sponsoring the artist, and while of course it’s genuinely beautiful art, it just always struck me as horribly missing the point, which is that the supposed son of God started in incredibly humble circumstances, among the kind of people that everyone else looks down on

‘Massacre des Innocents’ by Leon Cogniét, 1824. Although the Feast of the Holy Innocents is in a couple of days time, this painting is still really relevant in that it portrays Mary as how She really was: a scared refugee mum, so fearful that Her son was going to be one of the Innocents killed by King Herod.

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My new favorite mordern interpretation is this work, José y Maria by Everett Patterson (http://www.everettpatterson.com)

I had to look at this like FIVE TIMES to register all the layers of symbolism going into the piece by Patterson.

The hoodie as a veil.

Weisman cigarettes

Each of them is haloed by an advertisement sticker.

No Vacancy sign on the motel.

Dove sticker over Maria’s head.

Neon sign with a star symbol also over Maria’s head.

The crown over the ‘Dave’s City Motel’ sign. “New Manger.”

The sign behind Jose’s elbow likely says ‘Herod.’

The wee little plant growing through the cracks at their feet.

It’s like a New Testament ‘I Spy.’ I love it!

Ugh.

New favorite interpretation of the nativity.

Ezekiel 34 15-16 on the phone

clockworkvulpine

Good news sticker above José

Maria sitting on a donkey

Shepherd Watches advertisement in the newspaper

Gloria sticker on the payphone

from an exhibit of nativity sets in barcelona (2023), with jesus born next to atm machines (top), in a war-destroyed movie theater (middle), and in an alley (bottom, featuring graffiti saying “coronavirus”, “no human being is illegal”, and the anarchist symbol)

determinedapathy

@apocrypals

Reblogging to share art without inviting “actually it wasn’t a stable” correction discourse

autistic-reptile

sorry I saw a post about AAVE and got fired up and had to make this

angel-fruitcake

i can handle one (1) Event™ per day. whether it be a phone call, an appointment, trip to the grocery store, play date with a friend, etc. only one, that's it. any more than that and i am Stressed

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More black princesses, more black fairies, more black mermaids, more black girls doing all the things, for fucks sake

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