the secret cheat code for women is realizing you dont have to date men

this doesnt just go for lesbians it goes for bi women and straight women too. i cant even count how many times straight women have told me “i wish i was a lesbian so i didnt have to date men” but guess what … u Dont have to date men 

to be clear this also isnt necessarily saying ‘go date women instead!!’ its just saying…. u dont have to date men. u dont have to be dating women in order to not date men! in fact if ur not attracted to women at all please dont date women just as a substitute for men. but if dating men isnt making u happy… u dont have to do that. u dont have to make a space in ur life for men

the idea of constant accessibility through texting feels like a genuine infringement of my autonomy to me like it’s hard for me because i am a dope conversationalist and enjoy really engaged, long, wandering chats but mostly over the phone or in person instead of text. texts feel… depleting to me, exhausting. it’s shallow but it’s constant, at once both understimulating and overstimulating for me. it’s fucking wack being a face to face girl in a phone world. i’m sorry i never text back—it is actually because i love you too much to send you some bullshit just for the sake of it.

he’s my side hoe and I’m my main hoe

so this didn’t end up working out… #friendzoned