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Surviving Your Wedding When You Don’t Feel Beautiful

I’m not going to lie to you, I’ve cried too many tears over my weight. I had an eating disorder for ten years and although I was technically recovered by the time I came to walk down the aisle, it was still at the forefront of my mind when planning the wedding.

My thoughts of self-loathing reared their ugliest head when it came to choosing my dress of course. I was worried that I’d never find one that I felt good in. I was worried that I’d be uncomfortable all day. I was worried that I’d look back at my wedding photos and cry because I looked so enormous.

There seems to be two main schools of thought when it comes to body image, weight and weddings. There are those, like me now, that believe you should focus on being healthy and not stress yourself out by trying to lose weight before the wedding. Then there are others that go on a diet or sign up to some kind of sadistic bridal bootcamp torture as soon as that sparkler is slipped onto their finger.

Why I’m Not Very Excited About the New ‘Aerie Real’ Campaign

A week or so ago, American Eagle’s lingerie division, Aerie, launched a new marketing campaign named “Aerie Real.” The campaign is all about Aerie’s new stance on retouching -  the company says they’re no longer airbrushing or editing photos of their models (some of you may recall that Debenhams did something similar last year). I’d actually heard about the campaign through Tumblr a day or so before it launched, and once it was officially live, I checked out Aerie’s site. But I definitely hadn’t planned on writing anything about the campaign. However, I’ve gotten so many messages in the last few days asking about my thoughts on Aerie Real that it just makes sense to address it in a blog post.

If I could describe my reaction to #AerieReal in a single word, it would be ambivalence.

Of course, it is good to see Aerie this campaign. We need more images of unphotoshopped women. It’s a vital step towards having more and varied representations of women in the fashion industry. But I’m not really on the “all photoshop is bad” bandwagon.  I think of photoshop in the same way I think of makeup, only one is applied digitally and the other physically. Can makeup be applied poorly? Yes. Can photoshop be used poorly? Yes. Does the fact that people don’t always know what they’re doing with makeup or photoshop mean those products are evil? No. In the same way I wouldn’t automatically question a model’s “realness” because she’s wearing concealer, foundation, highlighter, eyeshadow, blush, bronzer, and lipstick in a final image, I wouldn’t question her realness because she’s gotten stretch marks smoothed out or scars removed. And I say this as someone who used to have the scars on my arms removed before I posted photos to the blog. The marks on my body (and the presence or absence thereof) do not define my realness. Only I do that. And as Marianne discussed in her stellar piece on photoshopping, cameras and eyeballs don’t work the same way.

Besides all that though, it seems obvious to me that Aerie is going for the easy victory, the “low-hanging fruit,” so to speak. They brag about not using supermodels (I can’t recall ever seeing a supermodel in an Aerie campaign, by the way), yet the women in their campaigns are undeniably young, attractive, professional models. They’re thin. They’re fairly unblemished, at least as far as I can see. They have straight hair. Smooth skin. Toned muscles and a proportional body. In fact, the only “flaws” I can notice are an itty-bitty tattoo here or there and a slight bit of belly softness. Is this really the “brave new world” Aerie is ushering in? A world full of unphotoshopped models…who don’t really need photoshop? Call me cynical, but that’s just not impressive.

Granted, Aerie is doing some great things with this campaign. Regular readers of TLA know that diversity is a huge issue for this blog, and I love that Aerie is using women of color in their current campaign. There is also a little bit (very little, but it’s there) of body diversity, and the more people you can see wearing a brand’s products, the better. Yet if we’re going to talk about body image and self-esteem and body positivity and pushing the boundaries of what’s beautiful, I feel it’s important to remember than a teenager or twenty-something model is still pretty normal by fashion industry standards. There’s nothing radical, free-thinking, or forward-moving about using conventionally attractive people to sell lingerie. I don’t instantaneously become just like your model because she’s unphotoshopped. This campaign sounds good (and it certainly had the marketing hype to push it forward)…but once you dig deeper than the width of a sheet of paper or so, it’s really just more of the same. Only in a slightly different package.