10 Deathbed Regrets You Can Avoid by Making Changes Now
By George Mortimer
10 Deathbed Regrets You Can Avoid by Making Changes Now
10 Deathbed Regrets You Can Avoid by Making Changes Now
âWhile I thought that I was learning how to live, I have been learning how to die.â ~Leonardo Da
Itâs terrifying, isnât it?
There you areâdays, hours, maybe minutes remain in your life. You lie there helpless, searching
for the strength to say your last goodbyes.
You look back on your life. All the things you wish youâd done differently.
As you continue to reminisce an overwhelming emotion comes rushing in, an emotion many are
You set the standards high for yourself. But now that itâs all said and done, more was always
Thereâs no greater fear than leaving this world with our most important goals unfinished. Yet,
with never ending hopes and dreams are we destined to live an incomplete life of mediocrity?
Perhaps it doesnât have to be that way.
A New Perspective & Why You Should Burn Your Bucket List
Itâs human nature to desire more. No matter how much we accomplish, weâre wired to create new
For most of my upbringing, I was obsessed with bucket lists. Mine had over 100 things I wanted
to do. Anytime I managed to cross one off the list, Iâd add ten more.
The process was never ending and doomed for failure.
During this time my grandfather passed away. It happened so fast I never got to say goodbye. It
was my first experience of how quickly life comes and goes.
I started thinking about when my time would come. Would it matter what my bucket list looked
So I threw it out. Instead of thinking of what I wanted to do with my life, I started focusing
on things I didnât want to say about myself when it was time for me to go.
That I was greedy, angry, or rude. That I didnât care about others, or even myself.
Death is scary. We canât change that. But we have a chance to live fully right nowâand we can do
that by ensuring we donât have to say these things at the end.
1. I didnât take care of my body.
Your time will come much faster if you donât take care of yourself.
Smoking, excessive drinking, compulsive eating, sitting for too longâall these add up over time.
Continuing bad habits encourages rapid aging and brings you closer to your final days.
You can buy another car, a new house, and find another job, but you only get one body.
If you want an abundance of breathtaking moments, you need a body thatâs ready for the long
haul.
2. I let anger get the best of me.
Anger is a natural emotion. We all experience it, and at times itâs perfectly justifiable. But
we do ourselves a disservice if we let anger control us and sabotage our relationships.
One of the best ways to address anger is to empathize with others and to understand why they did
Being proactive and reflecting on the times youâre angry helps you to get to the root of whatâs
bothering you, allowing you to move on and go back to being happy.
3. I spent my entire life in my comfort zone.
Thereâs no bigger waste of your time than doing the same thing over and over waiting for
something exciting to happen.
Nothing exciting will happen if you donât get out there and make something happen.
Escaping the confinement of comfort is a struggle for anyone at first.
But when youâre looking at your life as a whole, youâll be proud if you donât have to say the
most unease you felt was choosing what to watch on Netflix to waste the night away.
4. I spent too much time around toxic people.
There comes a time when you must face the reality that not everyone you spend your time with is
actually benefitting your well-being.
People change, family members bring you down, and certain people just arenât fun to be around.
If you want to make the most of your time, itâs essential you minimize your time with people who
drain you emotionally, disrespect you, or otherwise treat your poorly.
If you think itâs rude to dismiss someone, look at it this way: When you stop spending time with
people who arenât positive additions to your life, you open yourself up to relationships with
people who will uplift and support you.
5. I didnât stay in touch with family and friends.
The other end of the spectrum is the people we love.
Humans are biologically social creatures. Weâre meant to be around others, especially the ones
we care about most. Thereâs no sense in fighting the nature of humans because youâre too busy at
If this doesnât seem pressing to you now, know that it may one day feel that way, when theyâre
gone and you realize you didnât show them how much you loved them.
6. I didnât give as much as I took.
Itâs easy to forget that nothing tangible comes with us after we die.
Once weâre gone, thatâs it. Whatever you have gets left behind. So why do we spend valuable
years of our lives taking rather than giving?
Money is always the first to come to mind. Iâm not suggesting we give it all away, but Iâve
never met someone who was proud to say that all they did with their life was pad their bank
Life is about giving and sharing experiences. The more you give, the happier youâll be.
7. I thought I knew everything.
People often assume that after graduating from high school or college, they know everything.
But the truth is when you stop learning, you stop growing.
Since the beginning of our existence humans have been explorers, venturing to the corners of the
world and into space to discover more about life.
Constant learning allows us to discover new things about ourselves and the world, and our
experiences teach us things that could never be taught in a classroom.
Looking at the bigger picture, we donât know anything. And thatâs exactly what makes life so
exciting.
8. I never made any mistakes.
It seems counterintuitive to wish for failure, but our mistakes are what allow us to grow.
The point isnât to make as many mistakes as possible, but to learn from our mistakes.
Every great revelation, invention, or revolution started with hundreds of mistakes before it,
until one miracle made it all worth it.
Itâs not so much mistakes that matter, but having the courage to make them.
9. I hated my job.
Accepting the nine to five and secure paycheck. Two weeks vacation for fifty weeks of slavery.
Accumulating debt on house loans, car payments, and credit cards. Add on the responsibility of
supporting your family, and it may seem youâll be trapped forever.
If you donât enjoy your job now, thatâs okay; many feel the same. But if by the time you lay on
your deathbed you still hate it and never left, thatâs a problem.
You wonât want to look back and say you took the easy route and played it safe, accepting that
you were never supposed to do anything meaningful with your life.
Leaving a job is scary, especially when raising a family. It doesnât mean you should quit today,
but implementing an exit plan toward a career you actually do enjoy will relieve yourself from
years of misery.
10. I spent my entire life trying to be someone else.
Itâs become the norm to follow the crowd, adapt to the trends, and accept what everyone else is
By doing this you never encounter the person you really are because youâve been camouflaged by
Taking time to understand yourself is life changing. It allows you to gather a clear picture of
what you want to accomplish during your short time on Earth.
You learn the things you love about yourself and things you might want to change. And most
important, you understand what makes you unique and how your uniqueness can help you leave the
world a better place than you found it.
In the end, youâll likely reflect on the things you didnât do. As I said before, itâs human
But avoiding certain things, such as not taking care of myself and living in my comfort zone,
has brought more happiness to my life than a bucket list ever could.
It doesnât matter if you swim with sharks, travel to every country, and take the first ride of
space tourism; what matters is how you live your life, how well you take care of yourself, and
how well you take care of others.
This is your life, and you only get one. Thereâs no right or wrong way to live it.
What matters is that you do.