The Boarding School

Lately I’ve been seeing post on my dash like this one and this about Black people or non-white people being misrepresented or lack of us in the TUMBLR WORLD OF BDSM. If you get specific in your search #Black BDSM. Looks like it my be changing.

 To my followers know it’s ok to step away from your devices and get out there. There are many places for you to experience this with other Kinksters of Color like in this post.

 I guess it’s time to update this list POC BDSM/FETISH Blogs or Tumblrs that I ceated on a side blog.

*Note: Not all theses blogs post/reblog POC images or only talk about the lifestyle exclusively but they do represent and to the best of my knowledge are run by POCs. BE RESPECTFUL 

Kinky People of Color in Adult Industry(Indie Too)

nikkidarlingxo, skin-diamond, jessicacreepshow, mickeymod, papi-coxxx, feistymasochist, therealvanessablue

Kinksters of Color Blogs here on Tumblr

@Damagictouch (Me), @theboardingschool (Side Blog), pervertsofcolor, @pain-puppy, kinkyblackgirl, subbieblackgrl, jezebelphoenix,  kinkybutterfly, orpheusblack, nawi-xxx,  blackcat514, mzmonicajade blackonblack-bdsm, westrange, paperfag, badlittlekitten, badass-lilgirl,  theropemistress, theemperorvince, theemperorsrighthand, ethicalslutt, llulahhumphrey, getmexx, nerdgirlextraordinaire, kinkedoutsiren, ask4permission1st, charliieecoxx, artistickacchi, eroticwadewisdom, dulcedaddi,  jessdidit, kawaiijamaican, theshinobiarmy, laceandleatherkisses,  weekendreunion, blackpervertdoc, blackdomesticdiscipline, black-curvy-foxxx, thadisciplinarian, h-i-m-100, thelilsqueak, lilmissgoodgirl @bratsub, @renderingprincess, thenoirsextherapist, hiscumslut,  glitter–babygirl, neon-taco,  littleblackholes, blackbdsmmarriage, @thesublimeasylum, @freqdaddy, dirtymindofchaosghost,  portlandpuppygirl, big-sugar, blvck–ice, marzipan-fawn, girl-vs-sex, kinkyblackjanedoe, rositademuerte, our-erotic-behavior, mrandmrsdoesdirtylilsecret, complicatedbutlovable, atticusthegreat, thedreaminginsomniac, afro-orgasm, kinkygirl2014, missesprettyp,  apronsheelsandcollars, littlemiss-viper, liquoricebiatch, lilbrownfox, @thegreat-sexini,  @ronin730, blackgirlpornblog, preciousblackpearl,  mysubmissivekisses, littlenaga, goth-schoolgirl-diaries, gogomiamiixxx, the-house-of-darcsong, zorrabelle, kcoops3, thecompatibles, reallymoments,  choklatecoveredcherry, scatteredimperfections, justanothersub, redbottomedharlot, catherinewheeeel, thekittymeows, @puppypussy, sheobeyshim, shamelessbabydoll, originalfluffydomme, coffeepussy, sexykitten0326, @sexyfoodkittenn, keesy-bunny, sex4thesoul,  drgoodesremedies, thenudestoner,   dominantblackgentleman, daddysbunnii, dawkness,  deebott,@myegotiscticleindulgences, princesshanahoney, honeycoatedprincess, zeezeezee123, babykajira, etherealnymphette, kittensplaypin, imablackbarbiedoll, shortielittle,  sluttybbw, sexiestmoan, whateveryourfantasyis, kinkysunnybunny, @chokesngags, daddybearthings, itzpkbaybee, iamapaperuniverse, darlingmaxi, @thedarlinglittlenikky, trashytwotimes, ouijavvhore, unfrightthere, lookatprincessasha, @cocostix, suitntiedom, blackgirlpornblog, blackerotica, theprincessandtheperv, this-is-getting-old, plotprincessss, ourpornstory, teaseme-fvckme, such-a-nerdy-slut, restrainlove, myhiddencuriosities, abbywill12, beautifullysubmissive, foxys-cub, akinkykitsune, chocolate-desires, chocolateandroughsex, chocobabydolly, fuckbarbiehard, littledaisyluv, lustybbwlove, clitplayxx, blackfuckdoll, blackchocolategirlwonder, xonaughtyminx, naked-sophisticated, notafreakjustafan, thesluttiestqueen, girlsloveitroughtoo, ecchi-princess-sophie, holycin3, princesshoneycunt, his-ethical-slut, princesspussyonapedestal, @daddynoooo, poopypwincess, brightswitch, purnima-slut,  peanutbuttersmackbiznitch, yourbadgrrl, delicatelyadorned, 757daddy, @Daddysgirl757, @mykinkysexsecrets, ohainaomi,  thegirlwiththeforbiddentattoo, justmeandmylittleself, trrripled,  justanotherhornyblackgirl, girlwiththeskullkneesocks, @ariaonthefloor, naughtyballerina1821, @minx-y, @magicalsubgirl, @godivaeva, @lordalphablacharem, papabearandlittleone, cel3stialnymph, dirrtykitty, prvybbgrl, kinkymilf4u, yungsadistic, @dandhisbabybear, barbieexotica, electricpastelpapi, @submissivedreamer, cum-minx1005, dontforgettheclit, ktabi, itsbabigirl, thethickchickacademy, thizjourney, cheshireskitt3n, sexntemptation, daddysgirrlll, daddygetsmewetter, daddygetsmesoaked, kittenblanco, masters-prodigy, caram3l-princess, caritialove, cartoonsandorgasms, @black-rapunxel, alittlegirlandhersquishy, taco-brat, yourpleasureisallmine, softcollarswitches, @please-and-thankyouus, blackspankogirl, thekinkyismutual, rightondaddysdick, myfreakydesires, @afatrabbit, @the-house-of-iii, nubianhippiegoddess, lilglitter, @kinkykarter,  villainrewardprogram, sweeetwet, caram3l-princess, anotherwalkingscandal, @4ublackbeauty, journeysofcevi, akinaamelie, @highguyandgirl, @misswett, wezakani, sleek-siren, lamunecamala, @evolution-ofagirl, youngxlady, thelittledarlingnikky, @cutehotchocolate, @pwincessbunny, @littlechocolatekittie, scandalouslilprincess, ephsea, kittyisabellaloves, queensunflowers

Sorry for the late response anon. I do state that we are in 24/7 dynamic. It is as many in our lifestyle call 24/7 PE( Power Exchange). Although we think of it more as Authority Transfer( not my term). Since Violet has given authority over her and I’m technically not exchanging in power.

What do I see as the defining differences is the label. IMO if you’re in TPE or PE dynamic you label yourself a title slave, submissive, etc. In the end you are a S-type which is someone who submits to another. Regardless if you’re naturally submissive or not. But in our lifestyle the difference as seen between Slave and Submissive is the level of submission. So Master and slave are usually in TPE while a Dominant and submissive are in PE dynamics.

Soapbox moment, here.

I recently recieved a message from a follower explaining her love of rope and how she wishes she “were small enough” to be suspended in rope. That pisses me off!

Kinksters! Rope isn’t weight specific! I have suspended a 350+ lb man, damn it! And I’m just above a buck fifty. There are many things to take into account for safety and ability, here. There are certainly those out there who can not work with rope for other medical reasons, but weight would hardly be that deciding factor. Anyone can be at least partially suspended, be that may only a single leg or a hip or a chest, but it is possible. Hell, you can suspend the biggest of humans with the right equipment and the safest rigger. And there is also amazing and intense floor bondage that has sent me so deep into subspace, I yearn to experience again, still.

If you appreciate bondage… If you appreciate the power dynamics involved…If you love rope, then go for it. Get educated. Find a safe rigger and start slow. We all start somewhere. Don’t let body image keep you from the joys in life.

Rope is a medium by which I pass on my love. I wish that for all who are out there wanting to experience that kind of satisfaction and thrill and love.

Don’t let the disproportionate images of tiny girls in suspension make you think rope is out for you. You deserve the feel just as much as the next person. Go get it!

My experience with diversity in kink started on Fetlife. I never thought that there were many littles who were PoC or not tiny when I started exploring this side of myself. Diverse littles weren’t as visible to me there and still aren’t to an extent. I felt so uncomfortable. I even got messages on Fetlife pointing out my lack of pale skin and the fact I wasn’t petite. I quickly felt invalidated. Even my first potential Daddy had a problem with my size due to the “standard” some people hold littles too.

Well, fuck those standards. I took this disappointment and decided not to let it affect me negatively. So, I joined Tumblr; well kinky Tumblr 😏 hoping to meet more open-minded kinksters and littles. At first, I saw no diversity and I thought this sucks. But after following @sweetie-peaches she started reblogging littles of PoC and who were all sizes. I was so excited. I quickly started following sooo many people. I can’t tell you how amazing it feels to see so many different people of all shades, genders, sexual orientations and sizes.

Which is why diversity is important. Just like that, she gave me a validation that I didn’t have. I followed all the DD/lg and little tags; I didn’t see the diversity there (which I think is changing now).

I learn so much from you all. You open my eyes. Diversity educates me and makes me better. It makes the world better. Smashes the bubble people live in. Welcome to reality! Everyone is unique and should be praised for their differences.

HOLIDAY BDSM DESIRE CHALLENGE Nov 30 COLLAR ♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡

So.. today is collar. A collar can be a many of things, it does not have to be around your neck. For me a collar is so much more, it is a agreement between the parties involved which can mean so much than a material item. When you move the same way when you have no collar. You know than that no collar is needed, you know than you are marked.

The meaning weighs more… no matter if it is ROPE, LEATHER, or even METAL

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So I’m scrolling through FL and I’m interested in the 24/7 lifestyle (you know TPE shit) and I’m scrolling through the Harem section kcause honestly I’d love to be apart of that too. Like lord yes )

And I just wanted to kow what my mutuals thought of that type of stuff.

So I’ll give most things a go, but we’ve definitely done like 24/7 TPE - is that what you’d call it?

Anyway, Daddy had full control. I thought that it would be ugly, because he likes to fuck with me & I can be stubborn, but it actually goes really well when I give over all power. We don’t fight because I don’t have a choice. Hahaa

He always fucks with my…bathroom time. He thinks it’s funny to make me do the pee-pee dance. 🙄 But beyond that, it goes really well! But we’ve been together for 4evs so it’s super easy to fall into that because I defer to him in general.

Submission for me is something that comes from the heart, I actually love serving my Miss and my happiness comes from her happiness. I believe my happiness from serving comes from me serving in the military and helping people and seeing the smiles on their faces. Before I begin my service as a submissive, even really before I decided I was a switch, I had to go into myself and tackle all the hyper masculine I ideas I had about my self as a Black Man, or at least what I was taught to think about myself. I had to get rid of the Idea that being a Black Male meant trying to be over the top and extra with my masculinity, I also had to learn that submission doesn’t mean weakness. I do believe that as a Black Male in general we are always grasping at control and respect something that America never fully gave us and when get even the slightest taste of it we guard it literally with our lives and refuse to give it up, so when you decide you want to be in BDSM and you have all these Dynamics, even if you do find submission interesting or even being a switch, there is always that brainwashed hyper-masculine part of you that goes straight toward what the patriarchal Idea of what power and control is which can lead to a toxic and harmful relationship if you haven’t checked your Misogyny at the door. 

It can also lead you to look down at male submissive’s or switches which can cause dissension in a already small Black BDSM community. Overall I believe a good starting point for any Black Males that may be interested In the BDSM life style and being a submissive in particular would be to check you hyper masculinity and misogyny at the door, do your research on what being submissive is and the power it can hold also talk to other Black Male submissive’s and get information from them on their journey and last but not least have fun.