The Anxiety Demon

by 9 pm:

look….full offense but I’m fucking done with this “the person you’re meant to be with will make you angry/be a nuisance/fight with you/etc. etc. because that’s REAL™ and being happy/content/generally satisfied/happy with the person you’re with is FAKE and NEVER HAPPENS!!” mentality that everyone keeps pushing because you know this is just a gross mentality that convinces people to stay with someone they’re unhappy/who isn’t good for them because they’ve been convinced that being sick of or exhausted by their partner more often than not is normal and even the goal in a relationship….

like we all criticize the “we don’t wanna get married/I’m forcing myself/them to marry me” wedding cake toppers but nobody ever calls out the “we can’t stand each other most of the time but that means it’s Real Love™ :))))” stuff when that’s exactly the same thing.

My mom “accepts me”, but she “knows I only chose to be bisexual so I didn’t have to break up with my girlfriend when she started transition.”

My dad “accepts me” but often reminds me that “monogamy is important no matter who you’re attracted to” because bi girls are more likely to cheat.

My girlfriend’s mom “accepts her” but won’t use her chosen name and only uses the right pronouns half the time.

My pan friend’s mom “accepts her” but still calls her girlfriend her “best friend” because she “knows my friend will find the right boy someday”

A gay guy I met in class has parents that “accept him” but when he said he was being bullied for his sexuality said that “he should just be less public about it.”

None of us have been kicked out. We still talk to our parents. They give us food and clothes and help pay college tuition. They haven’t threatened to kill us. They haven’t actually killed us.

They “accept us”

But no they don’t.

Not kicking your kid out/not murdering them cannot be the standard of acceptance. It’s not accepting. It’s almost nothing.

If you want to be a wonderful accepting parent to a LGBTQ+ kid, you have to listen to what they say and trust them. You have to do your research and understand that this is who they are and it’s not up to them. You have to do anything you can to make their lives easier because the rest of the world is already going to make them go through hell.

And if you’re not ready to trust your kid and love them no matter what, don’t call yourself progressive or accepting.

People in wheelchairs designing living and working spaces for people with mobility issues?

Autistic people actually trying to help other autistic people?

OMG, just thing – wouldn’t ti be awful if people who are now in remission actually helped manage the pain and other symptoms that come with having and treating cancer?

I mean seriously, what on Earth do any of those people really have to add to the discussion? What could they possibly know that an able-bodied neurotypical wouldn’t already know? I mean, experience doesn’t teach all that much!

me: do what?

my body: …

my body: …

my body: …

brain: dont do it then