you still don't get it, do you?

it has never truly been about grouping us back with our assigned gender. that's an excuse.

it's about defining gender really narrowly based on bodies and presentation in a way that disproportionately affects transgender people.

"go to the bathroom of your AGAB" is a slightly more acceptable way to say "if you don't look exactly like we expect men or women to look, we're coming for you". it's absolutely what they mean, but if they say that out loud they know they're gonna sound absolutely dangerous.

they have never wanted transgender men and nonbinary people in women's bathrooms. chances are we go in there and get accused of being "biologically male" if we don't look "right".

it has never been about grouping us in with our AGAB. it's always been about excluding us from public life altogether, making sure we're not safe anywhere, always scrutinised.

they didn't "forget" that transgender men and nonbinary people exist. they just don't want us to exist either.

Nonbinary people can be mostly men, mostly women, both, neither, fluid, half and half, xenic, many or all

Nonbinary means not in the binary, which also includes those who identify with binary genders + more, have unique connections to a binary gender, only identify partially as a binary gender, those who see their binary gender as inherently non conforming to the binary

Nonbinary comes in so many different forms of experience

We aren't all gender neutral

whatever we do, we can't win. we can't be seen as actually nonbinary. people binarize us and often mock us or get aggressive or dismiss and ignore our nonbinaryhood or something else.

if we don't medically transition, we are "just cis trenders."

if we do medically transition, we are "just [binary trans] eggs."

we are "technically transmasc or transfem anyways" if we don't use these terms.

we are lumped together with binary trans men and trans women if we do use these terms. our nonbinaryhood is ignored or seen as some kind of "gender-lite."

we are aggressively pressured to disclose if we're AFAB or AMAB, TMA or TME, transmasc or transfem, "boy nonbinary" or "girl nonbinary." and if we refuse to answer, people get double mad at us and pick something for us anyways.

if we show the slightest hint of something that could be interpreted as binary gendered, we are immediately binarised.

if we put a lot of effort into looking the most ambiguous or androgynous or neutral, people still try to find something. and they become aggressive. people often EXPLODE [PT: explode] when they can't gender someone by glance.

our ways of expression are constantly mocked and ignored (like neopronouns, nonbinary-centering labels for gender and orientation, basically all things that are associated with nonbinary people).

but if we choose more typical ways of expression (for example, use "he/him" or "she/her" pronouns), people use it to ignore and dismiss our nonbinaryhood.