Undress Me

Hi :)

So I want to tell you that, in part, those quotes are real. The person you’re waiting for is going to appear when you least expect, but I think you should have some ‘action’ on that. Try to meet new people, see if you’re friends can introduce you to other people, and you could try to join some activities, because it helps a lot to meet new people. 

So about a month after my return one of my friends pulls me aside and tells me that he cheated on me (and apperently saw the girl again still while I was away). I was so pissed and did not want to see him again. But we ended up hanging out like we used to. Now it is four months since this happened and I still get sag from time to time. He says that he will never do it again. I do really believe him and i know he love me more than ever. But I can’t get it out of my head. This girl he cheated on me with lives in my town so I am so scared to bump into to her because I know I am gonna slap the f out off her face haha. (I don’t mean that… Maybe a little). I wanna be with my boyfriend when I am happy, which is rare. I don’t love him anymore and I am not in love with him after this incidence. But I still like him and care for him. But somehow I have a feeling in my body that I need to get my revenge. He needs to feel the same kind of pain as me. What do you think I should do?

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Hi dear! First I would like to tell you that you can’t get angry only with the girl. Yes, she did things with your boyfriend, but if you have to blame someone it is him. He was with you and still let that girl do things to him. So get mad at him, not her. If you’re single you can do whatever you want, and you can try to get a guy that has a girlfriend. It’s not a nice thing to do, but you can, and so she did. But the guy, if he is worth it, he won’t let anything happen. Your guy isn’t really worth it. And you’re young, so don’t get attatched to someone who does things like that to you. Value yourself and go find someone better.

You know why he was feeling weird and needed time to think? Because he wanted to full around with other people without feeling guilty. 

Second of all, if you don’t love him, you’re not in love, what’s the point in being in that relationship? If you told me he was a really worth it guy and “perfect” i would understand that you would like to be with him some more time to see if you could feel love for him. This way I don’t really understand. He was very shitty to you, stop wasting your time with this guy.

And third, revenge is never the answer. Believe me. You think that if you get your revenge you’ll feel better. I can tell you right ahead you won’t. Maybe in the moment you’ll feel great, but it won’t last. Stop wasting your time with this guy, because he is not worth a revenge either. A revenge takes time, and you should be giving your time to positive stuff and good people. 

I think you should wait a llittle bit and try to be more certain about what he feels. Eventually, you should tell him about your feelings. You’ll see that you’re going to feel better, even if he doesn’t feel the same way, because at least things get clear. I’m saying this because this happened to me. In my case my friend didnt like me back, but I felt so much better for taking it out of my chest. And then I just moved on with my life, but stayed friends. And if the friendship is strong, it’s not this that will tear it apart.