Surreality Rests Here

shepard fairey

ernesto yerena

jessica sabogal

If you have suffered trauma and/or abandonment in the past and now have self-destructive patterns of behavior such as addictions or compulsions, this book is a must read. The book is well organized, written in everyday language, and is presented in easy-to-understand building blocks. 

A main concept is essentially how a non-empathic parent causes a child to split their sense of self into “good” and “bad” to hide the bad part and preserve the good part. Both become repressed, severely limiting the child’s consciousness and numbing their life-experience.

 What is repressed shows up as addictions. 

The “healing” part of the book covers psychosynthesis, and re-uniting and accepting both the good and bad senses of self that were repressed; this targets the underlying cause for addictions.

 It also addresses healing the feelings for the parent/adult who caused the trauma through basically the same process – the child had separated their feelings of parent into good and bad (e.g. idealization and rage); to heal, both sides must be acknowledged and accepted.

What Is Not Yours Is Not Yours  (2016)

“Playful, ambitious, and exquisitely imagined, What Is Not Yours Is Not Yours is cleverly built around the idea of keys, literal and metaphorical. The key to a house, the key to a heart, the key to a secret—Oyeyemi’s keys not only unlock elements of her characters’ lives, they promise further labyrinths on the other side. 

In “Books and Roses” one special key opens a library, a garden, and clues to at least two lovers’ fates. In “Is Your Blood as Red as This?” an unlikely key opens the heart of a student at a puppeteering school. “‘Sorry’ Doesn’t Sweeten Her Tea” involves a “house of locks,” where doors can be closed only with a key—with surprising, unobservable developments. And in “If a Book Is Locked There’s Probably a Good Reason for That Don’t You Think,” a key keeps a mystical diary locked (for good reason).

Oyeyemi’s tales span multiple times and landscapes as they tease boundaries between coexisting realities. Is a key a gate, a gift, or an invitation? What Is Not Yours Is Not Yours captivates as it explores the many possible answers.“

By Helen Oyeyemi

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Helen Oyeyemi is the author of various novels, most recently What Is Not Yours Is Not Yours and Boy, Snow, Bird, which was a finalist for the 2014 Los Angeles Times Book Prize. She received a 2010 Somerset Maugham Award and a 2012 Hurston/Wright Legacy Award. In 2013, she was named one of Granta’s Best Young British Novelists. Helen lives in Prague with an ever-increasing number of teapots.

I’m not endorsing anything but software here. Just providing some lazy tech support. Feel free to ask if you need any help.

Reduce the amount your browser tells servers about you:

https://www.privacytools.io/

Tor:

https://www.torproject.org/

Secure chat:

Signal (Android)

Signal (iOS)

Tox (pretty much every platform)

VPN: Both of these accept paypal, prepaid credit cards and bitcoin:

NordVPN (My choice)

Windscribe

Others

2FA (two factor authentication):

Noble but worthless, if the government wants to read your email, they will. They don’t log in like you or me, they get access to the server or put a box in the rack that server lives in and listen to everything it sends and receives.

:edit: A great addition about securing the contents of your mail. 

Self destructing email: 10minutemail (recieve only) GuerrillaMail (allows send)

What the fuck are these things?

Maybe a masterpost would be useful? So there you have it!

The weekdays tarot spreads

The Book of Isabel (2016)

“Louis Ortiz is an aspiring author finishing his debut novel. Before applying the final touches, he gives the manuscript to his longtime friend, Naomi, on the eve of her life-threatening operation. The manuscript, entitled “The Book of Isabel,” is an autobiographical story set in 1999, where Louis first learns to come to grips with lost loves and strained friendships. 

Taking place in Syracuse and New York City, this story within a story is a continuation of “Hanging Upside Down,” that explains Isabel’s role in Louis’ life and asks the question, do friends really last forever?”

 By Anthony Otero

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Anthony Otero, a Bronx native, Syracuse University alum, Afro-Latino blogger, and frequent contributor to the Huffington Post. His blog called Volume 2 chronicles his journey toward self publishing his first book, Hanging Upside Down and his second novel, The Book of Isabel. His first book, Hanging Upside Down, is a fiction novel that explores the pressures men face after divorce, the consequences of letting good intentions go astray, and how a single turn of events can change the world as they know it. The Book of Isabel is a follow up story that explores Louis’ past while examining his present situation which is filled with questions about friendships and lost loves.