International House of Give No Shits

ao3 doesn't have an app because for it to have an app, appstore will have to approve it first. and if, hypothetically, ao3 needs appstore to approve it, it will also have to abide by appstore's pro-censorship stance and start banning dark and taboo fics, which is against its own core principle of being completely against censorship.

ao3 doesn't need an app. it works more than fine without an app. the reason ao3 can allow dark and taboo fics, the reason it can allow the most disgusting and shockingly vile fics, and be completely against censorship is because it doesn't need appstore's approval. it stands on its own as a non-profit organization with functioning site and a team of lawyers protecting its platform, its users, and every single fanwork on its platform.

everybody say thank you ao3

i find so much therapy talk aimed at humans has too much flowery abstract prose about mindfulness or whatever but for myself I really prefer an approach focused on hard science and what biochemical processes are responsible for me feeling this way, especially anxiety. Also why i prefer listening to lectures given by psychologists or counselors made for other fellow psychs and counselors.

But yeah I feel like there’s lessons anxious humans can take home from anxious dogs

reactiveness is usually the product of fear and unconfidence

when something becomes too overwhelming slow down, add more distance

every time you practice an avoidant behaviour it gets more ingrained and will take more effort to beak the habit once it has been well established.

try refocusing on something else when you feel yourself starting to get worked up over something

progress is slow and if you think you can fix things overnight you are setting yourself up for disappointment

don’t only correct mistakes, actively give praise as well

You see it a lot with people saying "Masculinity is always rewarded" and people expected to be feminine saying "Well, no, actually, no it's not" and then they get hit with "Well MY theory says otherwise!!"

The thing that slapped me in the face is the word theory. Theory is, essentially, a term that means "This is what I think to be the case, based on the data I have available/observations I have made". Theories are meant to be tested, though. Theories are not infallible truths. Theories are just a step towards looking for either support or contradiction for your theory.

You can absolutely have the theory "Masculinity is always rewarded, regardless of gender", but when more and more data is collected that proves that, actually, masculinity is not always rewarded, and there are several hidden variables you have to keep in mind when collecting your data...

Well, then, in science, you would have to readjust your theory or throw it out entirely. You would have to keep testing it, and changing it, to fit what your findings actually show.

The issue with people saying "My feminist theory states that all masculinity is rewarded, so it is" is that this is just piss poor scientific/academic methodology. You are cherry-picking and purposefully skewing your data to fit your hypothesis, you are ignoring the data that contradicts your theory, you are, essentially, poisoning your data pool or purposefully altering it to affirm your theory in a way where it guarantees you will always be proven right.

In an academic setting, this would get you laughed out of the fucking room. In an academic setting, this type of behavior has gotten countless people laughed out of the room and blacklisted for flagrant tampering of results.