A Safe Space

I do not support inappropriate relationships with m1n0rs

I am a straight man in my 40s

brown hair and eyes, beard with gray, 6'1, dad bod

I try to be a more positive influence on here than the typical guy

This will be a SFW blog for those looking for someone who will care about them

Not my first blog like this, if the vibe seems familiar than yes it's me!

DMs and asks are always open, also open to chatting on other apps!

I love sending voice notes!

But I realize this is because I'm highly sensetive and empathic. I feel what you feel, so I want you to feel good. I'm selfish like that..

So I struggle when someone wants me to hurt them, but angry, violent, or scary. I want to make them happy, but I would feel all of that very deeply as well and it really upsets me..

Hello,

I know this is a hot take, but... I'm not a big fan of brats...

A little playful bratiness is okay and can be cute/fun for sure, but I don't like when someone acts out or misbehaves because they want to be punished.

If you want it that's not punishment and intentionally trying to annoy your partner is really toxic in my opinion..

If someone wants that sort of impact play stuff, I'd rather just do that without making such a game of it.

In fact I think surprising someone with a bit of that can be more fun for both parties and being prompted for it.

Then again, if they are whiny to be cute because they want attention, I think that's something I'd like, yeah.

Were? I AM a cuddly teddy bear!

I like to lay on my back and let someone use me like a big pillow, putting their head on my chest while I play with their hair and rub their back.

Anyone interested?

Hi sweetheart,

Thank you so much for asking, it's a great question!

Of course there is no specific narrow box of girls that I am interested in. I like to keep an open mind and any relationship is about appreciating each other for your differences and learning from each other. Anyone who gives very narrow criteria for who they want to be with is pretty unserious about having a relationship.

I do tend to avoid people with drug addictions or make drug use the basis of their personality. No offense or judgement to those who use is recreationally and safely, but I don't partake and I've known a few people who have been lead down a sad path by even just the psychological or social addiction of it.

I'm also cautious when talking to someone with severe depression or self harm habits. I think someone like that is better off working with professionals to see them through it and I'm not equipped for that. Please find the help you need and seek out people who care about you and want to help you get better at managing those feelings. Relationships are a partnership and require both people to want to be the best for each other.

I'll add that I'm also concerned when I see girls on here who seem to actively want someone to abuse them, often in extreme ways. I understand that you may have some trauma that you are trying to manage your way through and I hope you can find healthy ways to express yourself without inviting further harm. if you're of age, it's clearly defined consensual play, and you're with a trustworthy partner I feel more comfortable with it, but I'm certain that is not the case in many situations. It also may be the sort of play that I'm not very comfortable with.

In general, I think everyone in the world has some mental trauma or issue they need to be aware of and work on self improvement. Toxic people are those who refuse to acknowledge that and are really beyond help. I'm much more drawn to people with self awareness who wish to keep growing into a better version of themselves regardless of age.

Other qualities I appreciate are kindness, patience, empathy, generosity, creativity, passion, and more that I'm sure I'm forgetting.

I am rather political and am firmly against wars, g3n0c1d3, and any imperialistic acts of oppression towards others. I also believe in helping others have happy, comfortable, and fulfilling lives regardless of who they are. If you have trouble agreeing with those things as universal statements or are uninterested in the nuances that may be inconvenient to your own views in that regard than we are probably a bad fit for anything long term.

Of course physical attraction is also a factor. I appreciate someone with a healthy lifestyle, which also includes not starving yourself to be skinny. Again, please seek help if you struggle with those things.

Lastly of course I appreciate those who like me for my unique qualities and are interested in engaging with me in more serious ways like voice calls and date nights. Someone who trusts me enough to share their thoughts and will listen to my own as well. A partner who makes me feel appreciated as I do for them, with the same energy.

I think that's a long enough answer for now. Thank you if you bothered to read this far!

Hi little one,

Messaging me directly would probably help? chatting is always good for an initial vibe check.

I'd like you to consider what you're looking for and how serious you are about it. I'm happy to chat and figure some of that out, but I do think for something more meaningful it's best to transition to another app.

I do want to prioritize your comfort regardess, so always advocate for yourself.

But yeah, DMs and asks are always open!

Hi sweetie,

I'm not sure who this was, but I do feel bad if you feel I wasn't available for you. I wasn't on much last night.

I think it's important to keep in mind that everyone, hopefully, has a life outside of this site. I certainly try not to spend TOO much of my time here, tempting as it may be.

I do use a handful of other chat apps, which may help stay in touch more and frankly shows me you're a bit more serious about having a caregiver. That could help!

Also if you are in more serious need of care because of depression or self harm, I'd encourage you to seek out professionals who are much more qualified than I am.

Hello!

I have no doubt that you're a cute bunny worthy of lots of love, but ti's hard to say yes when I don't know you..

Hello, thank you for my first ask on this blog!

I don't think so, I try to be selective. I couldn't keep up if there were too many anyhow! Mostly I send a thank you message if someone follows me, but those usually go dry soon enough.

Because I am more of a caregiver I tend to be more drawn to blogs that seem interested in that sort of dynamic. While blogs that repeatedy talk about things like r@pe, p1ss, abuse, drug use, etc tend to be ones I stay away from. And I try to avoid m1n0rs, of course.