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@talking-bigender
Hey guys! Just felt like making a comic talking about being bigender/ clearing up some misconceptions. Hope it helps!
Bigender ask blog- @talking-bigender
More detailed bigen masterpost I based this comic on-> link
More information on the bigender flag controversy-> link
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Perisex allies: stop this shit
CW: intersexism
Came across this infographic during some google image searching and I'm still kind of a state of despair about it because it's not just offensively wrong about what intersex is, it was used to teach university students about queer issues:
Alt text: LGBTQIA+ are defined one by one. Intersex is defined erroneously as "These are people who were born with genital organs of both sexes (male and female). It is a genetic condition."
It's one thing for your rando perisex person to be getting this wrong on social media. It's another thing entirely when it's professionals getting this wrong in an educational setting. 😩 And that this infographic appears in a peer-reviewed publication. 😩
It's even worse to know the students that were taught with this infographic were medical students, who will be the ones traumatizing intersex people for decades to come 😩
It's so wrong in so many different ways:
Intersex is not limited to people with genital differences. Most intersex people have intersex variations that are not apparent at birth, with puberty being the most common time of life for variations to present. Many people find out in adulthood having no outward physical differences.
Of the intersex people with genital differences, they do not have two sets of genitals. Most genital differences are still recognizably female or male (e.g. spadias), and those who have ambiguous genitals have one set.
Intersex is not "male parts + female parts" or even "intermediate male/female parts", it is an umbrella term for anybody whose primary/secondary sex characteristics don't line up with what is expected for male and female bodies. Some intersex variations make women look more feminine, or make men look more masculine.
Defining intersex by genital differences doesn't just exclude most intersex people, it also sets the tone that we are defined by our genitals. To be publicly intersex is to have non-stop DMs about your genitals. This sort of framing sets up openly intersex people for invasive questions and harassment, and it keeps large numbers of intersex people from coming out.
Many intersex variations do not have a known genetic basis. Many intersex variations are caused by exposure to certain hormonal levels in the womb. Certain medications when taken during pregnancy can trigger intersex variations.
While bodily variation is necessary for being intersex, the social experience of stigma, discrimination, isolation, hyper-medicalization, and hyper-sexualization are all just as much a part of being intersex.
📣 Perisex allies: this is shit you can stop. When you see other perisex people parrot this sort of misinformation, correct them. Direct them to look up resources written by actually intersex people.
Here are some starter resources to give:
Intersex explained by Hans Lindahl
Media and style guide by IHRA
FAQ by intersex-support
A recent post I did compiling information for trans people who want to be better intersex allies
Is it normal to be female and male bi-gender and still want ftm or mtf surgery?…
Sure it is! People of the same identity can want different things for their bodies, and there's nothing wrong with that.
Hi
So ive been thinking about it for ages and i think im bigender. Pretty sure about it, feels nice, female and male bigender. The problem is i want to come out to my friends but for some reason im super nervous about it.
Like, i know they will understand, one is non binary and the other is trans, ive seen how my non binary friend reacted when my trans friend came out, so i know they will be supportive, so i kinda feel a little stupid for keeping it to myself even though i wanna tell them.
Do you have any advise or ways or anything for coming out?
It's valid to feel nervous or hesitant to come out to even the most trusted of people in your life, so I definetly don't fault you for that. If the task seems too daunting, then usually my advice is to break it down into smaller steps and try tackling each one at a slower pace- in this case, it can be coming out to one person at first in private, building up your confidence to come out to others as you go along - or, you can come out with stages of information, such as saying you want to test out new pronouns, then lightly suggesting you may not be cis, then confirming you're nonbinary, then specifics, etc. But sometimes it can also feel hetter to go the other way, and figuratively "rip off the bandaid" by diving in head first and coming out before you can think too hard about it. I learned that at times, all my overthinking is what's stopping me so harnessing my impulsivity can help me jump that hurdle. Whichever way you choose to address it, also think about what you want your friends to understand from this information- whether you want this to come with a name change or pronoun change, a change to the way they refer to you, or maybe you just wanted to confide them this info because they're your friends and you like their support. I like to think that good friends always want to give you the best experience possible and give you the comfort you deserve, so they'd want to know of any changes so they can support them and your identity. Hope that helps!
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I’ve been so sure for so long that I’m bigender (guy + maverique), but now I’m starting to doubt. it felt right for years starting when I realized that was a Thing I Could Be, but lately I’ve been wondering if my male gender is… well, fully male. as male as my dad or my cis guy friends. I thought that maybe my gender was actually maverique and butch, but considering it makes me dysphoric - my immediate reaction is no, I’m a guy, I’m a man. and yet, I can’t relate my gender to any of the men I’ve met irl. I guess it’s a combination of not knowing any other trans men irl and maybe some internalized transphobia. to me, my experience of manhood as a trans man is different from any cis man I know of - still a man, just a different kind of man. I think I might also feel a connection to androgyny, but not that I am an androgyne, so I’m considering calling myself calypsian as well. but basically, describing my gender to the best of my ability: I am maverique. I am a man. how in touch with each of my genders I feel varies, but I am always both. it’s like shifting my weight from one foot to the other (except that it’s involuntary). I also identify heavily with butchness and particularly the term pansybutch, but not as a gender.
phew! talking that out in your inbox really helped me figure some things out. hope you find this at least mildly interesting lol
I'm sos orry for the late response but, I'm really glad you were able to figure stuff out :] things can always shift or you can always realize u've felt something different than what you thought, etc- most important is to stay flexible with yourself and not stress about settling on one thing forever. Best of luck with your journey!!
It makes me uncomfortable when people use they/them to refer to me in person (I prefer he/she, and I don’t mind it online because that’s common courtesy) but I don’t know how to tell them I dislike it without feeling like I’m putting down other trans people who use they/them. Is there any way I can tell them that without seeming like I hate people who ARE comfortable with using them?
I’m so so glad I found your blog btw :)
Honestly I feel you, I unfortunately get misgendered all the time by my friends who understand I'm nonbinary but always forget that they'them doesn't apply to all of us and that it's not a pronoun set I use. But that's when I remind them by saying, "My pronouns are he/him or she/her, I may be nonbinary but I don't personally go by they/them". Regardless of what you say, I promise you're not putting anyone else down- it would be another story if you went around claiming that they/them shouldn't be used period, but you aren't, and it's ok to simply specify your pronouns and leave it at that. Just going "they/them isn't a pronoun set I use, please use -insert other pronouns-" is good enough!
Heya! I'm in the same boat. They/Them pronouns make me dysphoric and I prefer people not use them for me. But she/her pronouns would also make me dysphoric, and that doesn't belittle anyone who uses those pronouns.
We all have our reasons for identifying or presenting a certain way, and that can vary from person to person!
- 💙💚
It makes me uncomfortable when people use they/them to refer to me in person (I prefer he/she, and I don’t mind it online because that’s common courtesy) but I don’t know how to tell them I dislike it without feeling like I’m putting down other trans people who use they/them. Is there any way I can tell them that without seeming like I hate people who ARE comfortable with using them?
I’m so so glad I found your blog btw :)
Honestly I feel you, I unfortunately get misgendered all the time by my friends who understand I'm nonbinary but always forget that they'them doesn't apply to all of us and that it's not a pronoun set I use. But that's when I remind them by saying, "My pronouns are he/him or she/her, I may be nonbinary but I don't personally go by they/them". Regardless of what you say, I promise you're not putting anyone else down- it would be another story if you went around claiming that they/them shouldn't be used period, but you aren't, and it's ok to simply specify your pronouns and leave it at that. Just going "they/them isn't a pronoun set I use, please use -insert other pronouns-" is good enough!
I refined the bigender symbol I sent you recently and I figured you or your followers would appreciate a nice high-quality version of it! 💙
[ID: Three images using the same symbol on a white background, only varying in color. The symbol mimics the transgender symbol, but instead of merging the gender signs, it has a question mark, an exclimation mark, and an interrobang surrounding a circle. The first image has the symbol be just black, while the other two are colored like the bigender flag, the last one being a gradient. End ID]
HELL YEAAAAAH THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT I WAS TRYING TO DO WITH THE OTHER ONE TY,,, THIS ROCKS!! Followers enjoy :]
Please allow me to suggest something my very much not-trans partner came up with when I explained the interrobang representing the bigender community: A symbol much like the trans symbol that has a question mark, an exclamation point, and an interrobang all in one. I drew this on my phone with my finger so it's rough, but I really like the idea.
[ID: A quick digital sketch on a black background. The drawing features a question mark, an exclamation mark, and an interrobang surrounding a circle, mimicking the transgender symbol. End ID]
Oh fuck yeah that's brilliant,,,,, hope you don't mind me doodling my own take on it your idea rules :]
[ID: A digital sketch of the same concept as described above, this time on a transparent background. The main difference is that the exclamation mark, question mark, and interrobang are merged into the circle. End ID]
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Hello!
I'm making bracelets with pride flags, i am currently making the bigender flag.
I eventually delete the other most popular flag and I was wondering how you chose the colors of the flag you made?
They all remind me both of enby flag (yellow white and purple) but the pink purple and blue remind me of the androgyn flag, that I believe is also used as a kind of bigender masc/fem identity by some people.
Thanks!
Ah, I didn't actually make the flag, and I can't seem to find the original creator listed anywhere :[ Therefore I'm afraid I can't really answer your question, so sorry!
Haha, my time to shine! This post is where it was initially created, and here are the original color meanings listed there:
Pink representing those who are partially female, and is the stereotypical colour of femininity (or being female)
Yellow representing those who are partially identify as a non-binary identity
White for those identifying as partially agender
Purple for those who identify as both male and female
Blue representing those who are partially male, and is the stereotypical colour of masculinity (or being male)
Or as I like to put it, femininity, genders outside the binary, neutrality, androgyny, and masculinity.
Hi
I have a lot of questions about my identity. I'm female but sometimes I wish I feel like I'm not. I don't always feel confident about my body and then I wish it could be more masculine (more muscular and no breasts). I would want to walk more masculine and then I don't feel female at all. On the other side, sometimes I do feel female (doing my hair and interested in designing clothes). Then I don't care about my body and try to accept it as it is. I never feel 100% female or male though.
My feelings about it switch from time to time. Sometimes I feel more masculine and other times I feel more female. I really don't know what this is. I've read a lot about this, but I don't know what suits for me. Demigirl, Bigender, Genderfluid are terms I feel that could be me, but I'm so confused about everything.
I wanna talk about it to someone, but I feel like they wouldn't understand me and be really surprised about it. I feel like I should give reasons why I feel like that, but I don't know why. I also don't know how to bring it up. Do you have any tips that could help me?
Thank you in advance
I totally getcha, this is similar to what I went through when I started questioning and I'm sorry it's so confusing and frustrating, but hopefully you come out of it with a better understanding of yourself and your identity :] My biggest advice is to stop looking for what you are SUPPOSE to be, and dive into the mindset of going for what you WANT to be. A lot of this is gonna make more sense to you the less you treat it like a series of symptoms that need diagnosis, things like labels and presentation are more like decorating your house. You can do it however you want and you can mix and match as you see fit. So those 3 identities you listed, they really are just words for you to use for yourself, not for other people to choose for you. None of them are "more accurate" for your gender than the other, they're there as tools for you, to help you find community and feel happy and comfterablewith yourself. For example, do you like calling yourself a demigirl over bigender or genderfluid? Then call yourself a demigirl. Do you feel like genderfluid would feel better as a label? Call yourself that instead. Can't decide between the three? Use all three interchangeably until you figure which one you like best, or use them all forever, nothing wrong with that! Don't like any of them? Feel free to toss em out and find other identities, invent a new term, or don't call yourself anything at all! Treat these things like accessories for your enjoyment, the way you interpret your own gender is no one's buisness but your own. Let yourself go for what makes you happiest, and you'll feel happy with your identity.
Hello!
I'm making bracelets with pride flags, i am currently making the bigender flag.
I eventually delete the other most popular flag and I was wondering how you chose the colors of the flag you made?
They all remind me both of enby flag (yellow white and purple) but the pink purple and blue remind me of the androgyn flag, that I believe is also used as a kind of bigender masc/fem identity by some people.
Thanks!
Ah, I didn't actually make the flag, and I can't seem to find the original creator listed anywhere :[ Therefore I'm afraid I can't really answer your question, so sorry!
Hi, my name is David. I recently came across the definition of Bi-gender. When I was in elementary school I would often fantasize about being a female and lots of times I would wear my mother's cloths when I was alone. I even felt a STRONG connection to a character in an anime called ".Hack Sign" as the main character was a female that identified as a male in the game. I used to STRONGLY wish to change gender. But accepted my male gender. But I still have STRONG feminine traits. What do I do?
Well, gender is less about what traits you have/how you act, and more about discovering what makes you happy. So, I suppose the better question to ask yourself is this- in a perfect world where no one treats you any differently, respects your identity and you can act as you please regardless of gender, would calling yourself both a woman and a man make you happy? Does the bigender label feel good and right to you? I discovered I was both a man and a woman because out of all the genders I came across, this one made me the happiest- yet I don't "act" or "dress" feminine, I'm just a masculine woman and gender-conforming man at the same time. What I do doesn't define my gender and neither does it define yours- and the past isn't nearly as important as what you feel now. Point is, if you like the label bigender, if you enjoy considering yourself both a man and a woman, then you're free to use these identities. If you feel like you're more of a feminine man and prefer it that way, then you're free to use that label instead. If you can't pick a label yet, then don't, just take your time and exist as you already do. The most important thing is to prioritize your enjoyment of your own label- these identities are about finding peace and joy in oneself, not about getting diagnosed based on a series of symptoms.
Hi, I'm a 19 year old girl, I'm sorry if there are typos but I'm using translator since I speak Spanish and I want to know if what I'm feeling could be an identity crisis and I'm bigenero or not.
All my life I listened to extremely homo-transphobic speeches from my family so I only recently accepted that I am a lesbian and only had forced heterosexuality.
But lately I have an identity crisis, I have remembered moments where I take my identity as if I were a boy, for example when I buy clothes I don't care much for "feminine" clothes and I look for the most neutral but when it's "masculine" clothes I want them to fit me the same as men. Most of the clothes I wear are neutral or masculine and I like to feel that way.
I used to call myself "half boy-girl" in high school as a "joke" but something told me that's what I was. I have always worn she/her and feel comfortable being female with my body but I also sometimes feel like my body is male and it bothers me to have a chest.
So I don't know if that counts as an identity crisis or if I just don't want to follow gender stereotypes.
No te preocupes, hablaré en español para que puedes entender mi respuesta, mi padre es de España- perdón por no responder por tanto tiempo :[. Te diré esto- lo más importante es saber cuál preferirías ser, y que te hace más feliz llamarte. Si te sientes más confortable llamando te bigendre/ identificando con dos géneros, entoses hazlo! Tu te preocupes por la posibilidad que estarás "incorrecto" en identificar así, pero no ay respuestas correctas en este caso, todo depende en cómo tu interpretas tus sentimientos. Si te hará feliz tener generos múltiples, entoses eso es la respuesta correcta, los que solo rompen los estereotipos de género están feliz siendo solo eso y nada más. Espero que esto te ayude.
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I was born female. Lately I feel like I'm not fully female. There are parts of my life where I want to male and not female. I don't really feel masculine then but definitely not female. I still consider myself as female, just not 100 procent. Is this called bigender or something else?
Well, it could be! But that's up to you. Labels are a little less about someone else assigning them to you and more about you finding something you feel happy with, in the end I can't decide that for you. But I can give you some other terms you can check out if you'd like, such as demigirl or bigenderflux or genderfluid. You can even use multiple if you can't just pick one! Hope this helps?
Can you be bigender but prefer identifying as one gender? Like i identify as a woman, but i also feel like a guy sometimes, but mostly as a woman
Yeah that's fine! The way we interpret/feel our gender is gonna vary from individual to individual, so there isn't a right way- if you prefer one over the other, there's nothing wrong with that!
