#zitamute

I may try to stick around in a more censored manner, depending on if tumblr makes that possible, practical, or worthwhile. Failing that, I may try out one of the alternative platforms being banded around. In the meantime, here’s where you can already find me (and by extension, @zitamute too):

http://instagram.com/mistertorn

http://fetlife.com/mistertorn

http://twitter.com/mistertorn

I am so over this shit. 

And yet when you see evidence of me having other partners you don’t make the same sort of assumptions, I’m guessing?

We’re as close and loved up as ever. Actually, honestly, more loved up than ever. As cheesy as it may sound, our relationship is still getting better all the time. She’s the best.

Zita’s had a small handful of other partners that she goes to hang out and play with on her lonesome without me ever since we first got together. It’s something I actively encourage. @secretshelf is the first proper domly dom among them though, and I’m really pleased for her that they seem to be enjoying each other and it’s become a regular ongoing thing. As I know that this will baffle some people, here’s some of my reasons:

She’s way younger and way less experienced than me. I owe much of my personal development in many areas to what I’ve learned from my many awesome partners, and I don’t want to deny her those opportunities for growth.

I fully accept and understand that there are things I might not be able to offer her, that she can enjoy getting from someone else. The more satisfied she is with her love life, the happier she will be. The happier she is, the more fun she’s gonna be to be around.

As a submissive that hadn’t really had a seriously kinky partner before me, she’s only starting to come into her own. Just the simple acts of having to negotiate with another partner, and say “okay this is what I’m into and what I want” are important steps that are helping her to take ownership of her sexuality (which can be tough for people that prefer a passive role).

I am a big old slut that likes to get around, and I’m pretty big on not being a fucking hypocrite.

I’m an actual grown up that doesn’t let what scant jealousy I may feel about this kind of thing govern my world. I find that kind of emotional immaturity inexcusable. 

Honestly @secretshelf and @petitedeviant and their whole little crew seem kinda cool and I’m generally just down with our spheres starting to overlap more.