Hey! It's me, the girl who don't want to love. =S Thank you, thank you for your response. <3 You kinda said what I already knew, but... u know, hope is the last one stading haha And about the guy, he's not the wrong guy. I mean, he's nice and super cool, funny and correct... I could list lots of good things haha The true problem here is me ('it's me not you' feelings hhaha)
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As someone who has dated guys who were WAY hotter, cooler, whatever than I (seriously, Iâve dated a prince, two heirs to multi-million dollar fortunes, an NFL player, and a âcelebrityâ, so this isnât my being bashful), lemme tell you: the problem is only you if you make it you. If youâre like âOh no, Iâm not [x] enough for this guy,â youâll be weird and not you and he probably wonât be that into it. But if youâre like âYo, I am awesome. You are awesome. We should be awesome together,â heâll be like âYou are totally right.â
And if heâs not? Then the problem still isnât with you. Itâs with him, or with yall. If heâs not in a place to be with you, or doesnât want to date or whatever, thatâs on him and thatâs okay (unless heâs a jerk â then itâs not okay. But itâs still on him). And if something about yall as a couple isnât compatible, and thatâs super okay, too! But it doesnât mean anything is wrong with you.
Hereâs when you are the problem: you donât want to date someone (totally okay! but it is on you); you are mean; you are pretending to be someone other than yourself.Â
Thatâs pretty much it! So he may not want to date you, but as long as youâre yourself and nice and want to date him, youâre not the problem. <3