#xenity

Stellarity: The act of rejecting gender alignment, strict gendered categories, and unnecessarily gendered aspects of oneself - sex, orientation, presentation, and others. It rejects these things in favor of using unconventional or uncommon means to describe one's gender, or using entirely neutral language to discuss one's gender, specifically as a way to avoid giving away too much information.

For example, someone who is engaging in stellarity might refuse gendered categories like transmasculine or transfeminine, even if that person has a gender and even if none of them are neutral. Someone else might reject concepts such as alignment, binarity, AGAB, or sex labels, opting to instead describe them in ways such as "My sex is nonbinary", "My AGAB is nonexistent", "My gender is aligned with stars", etc. It is a rejection of conformity as well as an act of keeping the gendered self internal by using vague concepts to get the idea across.

Someone who exhibits stellarity is known as Gender Stellar. The word "Stellar" might even be used as a placeholder for other labels, so the individual might say "My gender is Stellar", "My sex is Stellar", "My presentation is Stellar", etc. - the capitalization here helps distinguish the identity. This is similar to a Stellar Nonbinary Person, or stellarian.

A Gender Stellar person may experience aspects of genderfuckery, xenity, and autonomy. This way of navigating gender is meant to keep gendered aspects as something internal and personal to the individual. Gender Stellar people might want to keep their genders private for whatever reason, or they may want to avoid having to explain their genders to people who might not understand.

Since stellarian was originally a way to describe a person using an ungendered concept such as stars, stellarity is inspired in quite the same way to describe someone who has a "stellarian-like" disposition. It is a stellarian identity expanded to encompass many other aspects of identity. The symbol in the center of the flag is the Milky Way Galaxy, representing innumerable ungendered concepts found in space - stars, star systems, planets, asteroids, moons, all of it. The colors are somewhat reminiscent of the stellarian flag, being green and yellow for part of it, but the overall palette uses traditionally ungendered colors with no further meaning.

So, what is the overall perspective on maverinity in relation to xenity? How do I discuss maverinities with xenity in mind? Can maverine be more inclusive of xenity because of its unorthodox nature, while outherine is more anthrine in nature?

Xenangi: xenoic/xenine androgyne; a term for those who identify as xenogender/xenic/xenine and androgyne; the combination of xin (xingender) and lin (lingender) or xiagender (xiaty) and liagender (liaty) [xliagender/xliaspec, lxiagender/lxiaspec, xlingender/xlin, or lxin/lxigender].

Xeninoichood (xeninoicity or xeninoixity): an umbrella term for any xenic (xeno-aligned), xenine, xin(gender), xenogenital and xeno(gender) experience. 

Can you imagine a gender experience that is not feminine, masculine, neutral, epicene, outherine, or even genderless? What if, instead of any of those categories, you used far more unconventional ways to explain your gender? The concept of atrinary identities was explained in a previous essay, but I also briefly mentioned the experience of being xenine - that is, any gender quality outside of the human scope of genderedness. Instead of using human concepts to explain gender, xenity exists in the realm of the abstract and the other. Xenine identities may also be called  xenic.

Xenity can be experienced in a number of ways - through concepts based on emotions, colors, textures, plants, animals, media, sensations, and so much more. Some xenine identities might feel like a cool early morning while some might be related to a specific character from a TV show or movie. Others might be more like the deep dark ocean. And others might be best described as something eldritch and unknowable. Like any other gender experience, it really depends on the individual who uses the label. Genders that are inherently xenine are typically called xenogenders.

While these experiences don’t use human categorizations of gender, they do not inherently indicate a nonhuman experience such as otherkinity or therianthropy either. However, that may actually be the experience for some members of those communities. If someone is more animalistic, they may view their own gender as something an animal might experience - or, at least, an animal in a human’s body. It gets even more complex when that person isn’t human or animal, or even anything of this world. If they’re some sort of mythical creature, a spirit, an alien, or even the embodiment of an abstract concept, their xenine experience might be more suited to that form of nonhumanity.

Other folks - not otherkin or therian - may feel a connection to music or other forms of media, which means their xenic experience will reflect that. Xenogenders based on specific songs or albums, on video game characters, on physical pieces of technology, or even the nostalgic feeling of interacting with these types of media exist to fit this type of gendered experience.

Another way someone may experience xenity is through -coric identities, which are based on specific core aesthetics. Goblincore, cottagecore, horrorcore, and fairycore can all be xenogenders - goblincoric, cottagecoric, horrorcoric, and fairycoric respectively. While an aesthetic-based identity sounds like it may play into one’s gender expression more than anything, these are actually more often literal genders. Xenogenders may also be based on other types of aesthetics, anywhere from lolita to gothic to pastel to neon. Aesthetics can be just as flexible as genders.

Xenity doesn't just have to relate to xenogenders. Since it's a gender quality, it can be applied to any other existing gender or lack thereof. You can be a xenic man, a xeno-aligned agender person, or someone who is demixenogender with a connection to other genders. Your presentation or expression can also be xenic. What does that look like? Like any other type of gender expression, it is variable and individualistic - it depends on how that person chooses to express themselves! There are no rules for gender expression or how a gender quality might affect our gendered experiences.

Do you have a favorite xenogender blog or artist that you want to share? What about specific types of media that represent the xenic experience? Feel free to share whatever you know!

Today's Gender of the Day is: Infinixenic! (coined by me)

Infinixenic is the experience of having every single existing xenogender as well as xenogenders not yet discovered. This can be an infinitely shifting and expanding experience, or the feeling of being each individual xenogender statically. It is an extension of panxenic.

An infinixenic experience may also include an infinite number of xenic presentations, expressions, or alignments that either fluctuate, flow, or remain static depending on the individual.