ok so i live in a big city, and it’s tough to find a quiet place for a meditation.

tons of cars driving by, tons of yelling crackheads🤷🏻‍♀️

and this is pretty simple stuff so i’m sure you all know this already BUT i figured i’d share my method of tuning out the sounds of the city and feeling connected to nature.

note: this meditation is only possible if you have a patio!

step 1: gather up some crystals you would like to utilize for your meditation and lay them out next to you or hold them

step 2: take your sage, palo santo, or whatever cleansing method you prefer and cleanse the air around you to try to neutralize the city smell of gasoline lol

step 3: choose your meditation music/sounds! my favorite is to use ocean wave sounds from spotify :)

step 4: put those headphones in and tune out the world🌎

step 5: meditate for as long as you’d like! i do short meditations throughout the day, but you can do long ones too :)

happy meditating!!

I have been feeling kinda down with myself, I didn’t want to work out, look pretty and cloth pretty anymore because i didn’t want to bring attention to myself. It pisses me off, how my mind manages to think that I can’t look pretty. So I want to put end to that. Here we go!

What is self-esteem?

It’s the opinion we have of ourselves. It’s the way we look into the mirror, and say: I look hot! Or : I look ugly. (which is not truth, beautiful)  When we have healthy self-esteem, we tend to feel positive about ourselves and about life in general. It makes us being able to deal with life's ups and downs. And in my case, I want to improve my point of view on ups and downs, being able to deal with them better.

Signs of low self-esteem

1. Difficulty speaking up and prioritizing your own needs, wants, and feelings

2. Saying “I’m sorry” and/or feeling guilty for everyday actions

3. Tendency to follow along with what others are doing, saying, wearing, and going.

4. Not feeling deserving of, or capable of, having “more”

5. Difficulty making your own choices and, after making them, having trouble standing by them.

6. Negative self-perception and self-talk - not thinking people would like or accept you for who you are, telling yourself that you are not enough when you fail.

If you have low self-esteem or confidence, you may hide yourself away from social situations, stop trying new things, and avoid things you find challenging.

In the short term, avoiding challenging and difficult situations might make you feel safe.

you dont need to read this part, its just my personal opninion

I relatively have an okay self-esteem. I don’t see myself as ugly. I want to improve but I feel that when I do so, more random people from the streets will start looking and yelling at me because i look pretty. You know how these men are? Your shorts are too short! when they are just about the right size. Your skirt is too short! You are distracting me! And stuff like that. Fuck dem. I don’t want to look at myself and say “they wouldn’t like that, its too distracting when it’s not. So, raising my self-esteem might be my first step forward, in moving on. 

How to raise your self-esteem

Recognizing the signs of low self-confidence is an important first step in growing confidence; recognizing your own worth is the next one. To boost your self-esteem, you need to identify the negative beliefs you have about yourself, then challenge them.

Start lifting yourself up!

Leave love notes to yourself around your home, office, car or any other space that you spend a lot of time in.

For example, I am beautiful, I am confident, I am successful, I am worthy! (Because you are). Before long, these affirmations will not feel foreign to you – and you will start to feel it and believe it!

You may tell yourself you're "too stupid" to apply for a new job, for example, or that "nobody cares" about you.Start to note these negative thoughts and write them on a piece of paper or in a diary. Ask yourself when you first started to think these thoughts.Next, start to write some evidence that challenges these negative beliefs, such as, "I'm really good at learning languages" or "My sister calls for a chat every week". Write down other positive things about yourself and positive stuff people say about you.

Aim to have at least 5 positive things on your list and add to it regularly. Then put your list somewhere you can see it. That way, you can keep reminding yourself that you're OK.

How to add magic to your self-esteem raising practice?

Ah, yes. My favorite part.

Meditate or do yoga! On youtube are sure a lots of meditations for self-esteem and confidence. Maybe try listening to subliminals? Be careful with them!

Make a self-esteem boosting tea! 

Valerian root, lemon balm, peppermint or red clover are great ones to start with! Charge your tea with some rose quartz, clear quartz or any other crystal you feel connected to. Maybe make a sigil of self-confidence and self-esteem, and write it on your wrist. While stirring your tea clockwise, try chanting these:

I am intelligent and I can succeed at all that I wish, I will speak calmly, I will speak clearly and I will focus only at the positive things around me today. I will not be shaken.

Crystals to meditate with on self-confidence and esteem:

citrine, sunstone, carnelian, clear quartz, rose quartz, blue chalcedony, tiger’s eye, red jasper, moonstone, amazonite. Have them by your side while meditating, or hold them.

Take a shower and imagine all of the self doubt flowing away with the water.