I am so happy. Finally, finally. A step. A meaningful step.

And the foreign news just covered that.

And then I made the mistake of scrolling down the comments.

It just hurt so much when instead of celebrating the news with us, the comments were condescending and mocking us even further, for our progress.

Our country is still young. We have not healed completely from the hundreds of years of colonialism and slavery, and then decades of dictatorships. We weren't allowed to shout our voices. We weren't allowed to progress like your almighty-can-never-be-wrong country did. And now we're being ridiculed for taking steps forward.

And I know this is not just about my country.

Every single time a developing country, a healing country, especially non-western country progress through something that seems outdated, old-fashioned, or even considered as 'barbaric' , these types of comments always comes.

Welcome to 2021!

Really? In this century?

Can't believe these things still exists.

Those words, to me, feels like erasing years of struggles that our people faced. We were not lazing around in those years. We were, literally, trying to stay alive.

Just imagine it like this:

You are a kid who is trying to ride a bicycle for the first time, in a track field full of professional cycling athletes.

Being a newbie, you fell. But it didn't stop you. You get back up again, and again. You tried to catch up with the others, but you keep falling. And some of the others are trying to keep you falling, over and over again. Preventing you to catch up. Preventing you to move forward.

And then, when you finally, finally, succeed on not falling, instead of congratulating, the others (including the ones that made you fell purposefully) laughs and mocks you for being so late.

Does that sounds fair to you?

Just use some empathy for once, please.

Virginity testing usually takes the form of a two-finger test, which involves a physician inserting two fingers into a woman’s vagina to check whether her hymen is intact. Although an intact hymen is by no means a reliable indicator of virginity, as T.I. himself pointed out, it is viewed as such in various cultures around the world, such as in India, Turkey, Egypt, and South Africa. Although the test is most frequently associated with determining a woman’s eligibility for marriage, it has been used for other purposes as well; in Indonesia, for instance, the test is used to determine female applicants’ suitability for the police force.

The penalty for “failing” a virginity test can be steep. In Afghanistan, for instance, where premarital sex is a crime, until 2018 the law stated that women and girls could be incarcerated for up to three months for failing virginity tests. In some extreme cases, young women who have failed virginity tests have taken their own lives or been murdered by their own family members for violating their family’s honor.

katykatikate:

virginity

It’s hilarious the way people tell on themselves when they fret about a girl’s virginity.

They seem to think that once a girl’s original packaging is ruptured, her value plummets.

Memo to Pamela, Frederick, Reverend Gary, Sister Mary Temperence, and apparently T.I.:

That concept only holds true for OBJECTS, and is only relevant if you’re trying to SELL THEM.

That’s it.

This is pure nonsense - take a look for yourself at this bs

Church gives Certificate of Virginity to ladies after testing them.

In order to encourage chastity among the ladies in the society, a church, Nazareth Baptist Church located at Ebuhleni, northern part of Durban in South Africa have carried out a free virginity test on ladies who attend their church and are 18 years and above. According to reports, it is an annual event carried out by the church, and at the end of the exercise, Certificate of Virginity is awarded…