#typebplusjourney

How do you identify, @vodkagirls ? Just curious. I'm struggling a bit with my sexuality myself.

@typebplusjourney hey there! basically, i identify as a cis female bisexual. i’ve written about this before so i’ll repost:

dude im gonna give you the realest advice i can when it comes to sexuality. let that shit slide. don’t overthink it. don’t stress to label. feel a particular way? then you feel it. but in my past experience trying to fit a god damn label onto everything i felt only proved to stunt discovering who i was and hid away a lot of internalization i had for my like of girls. i knew i wasn’t straight since i was 12 and it scared the living shit out of me, so i covered it up with a lot of fancy names and convinced myself i didn’t really have sga and all of that only made me feel worse about myself because i couldn’t “find” one that fit me. i thought every feeling needed a label and i would get frustrated when there wasn’t something that worked. i felt broken. it took 4 years for me to finally get through that, and once i stopped labeling and opened my eyes to the fluidness sexuality, i could see i liked girls again. especially queer and question youth please don’t let tumblr trends force you to label yourself! my relationship with the label bisexual is just as complicated as anyone’s and i wish i was told that so i could come to terms with that earlier! no one is a perfect mold of a label ok! don’t change yourself to feel accepted! don’t worry! it’s gonna be alright!

factual/historical side that brought me to that conclusion:

basically what spurned this is that i’ve been reading up on lgbt history a lot in the past months for a fic i’m writing, and the craziest thing is writing the whole thing without any labels. it’s really opened my eyes at how fluid and arbitrary everything is, and writing characters coming to terms with their sexuality without having the labels we use today is just something that made me think a lot, and reminded me how terrible they were for me. we’re attracted to certain people and the likes of gender and it’s so so so complicated.

and then come here and i see people on here get so frustrated and stressed over not having a label (and i know deep down all they're looking for is some kind of acceptance) and i was there once, and it just wasn’t worth it in retrospect. i couldn’t figure who i was until i dropped it and lived my life for a bit, and it came to me finally. i mean hell, it still is. this kind of things a life journey, huh?