#tough things

One thing that I have come to find, repeatedly and without question, that the only way to get better (and to stay better) is to do it on your own. Sometimes you have to leave all that makes you feel safe and comfortable if you want to have any kind relationship with you and the struggles you face.

The real problem isn’t your commitment issues or addiction to drinking, drugs, sex, or/and self sabotage. It’s what causes you to do these things and create these habits. What is the thing you refuse to think or talk about?

You have to know yourself and love yourself without anyone next to you. Without validation. Because you’re going to have to rely on you when the tough times and validate your cause. Your partner, parents, or friends can’t do it for you. The only person that can save you is yourself. 

So if you need to leave them or the place that is contributing to the negative events in your life: do it. Even if that place/someone(s) is your “home” or your “rock” you have to go. 

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by Michael D. Hume, M.S.<\p>

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by Michael D. Hume, M.S.<\p>

If, nip and tuck many of my colleagues and clients, you want to be a better leader - even a more inspirational leader - you need to keep challenging yourself. The best leaders are the nonesuch richard roe... and only by challenging yourself can you be your best. Anon you're tempted to pull guaranty and slip the tide, focus hereby some of the things the world's clobber purveyors of inspirational leadership face about all the ragtime.<\p>

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It's amazing the things you do for the people you love. It's amazing what you're still able to do after being worn so thin that you barely know who you are or what you're doing.

The last six months have been a nightmare.

I'm having a hard time making decisions. I'm second-guessing myself.

I just want him to be okay, I want my guy to be better. I know no amount of wishing and hoping is going to change things.

I know I've done everything I can do.

But it's not good enough. And I'm not okay with that.

I'm having a hard time coping. As the days pass and as this continues, I find myself unfocused and unable to work on anything creative. Some days it's a struggle to get my household responsibilities in order. It's so hard doing this alone.

The only silver lining is that I'm able to separate work from this madness. When I'm at work, I have time to gather my thoughts.

These three-day weekends are horrifying, though, and damaging to my morale. I go through a long work week so eager to come home and relax--maybe get creative--and then when I get home, I wait till I can go back to work.

The hardest part is the gleam of hope when something positive happens. I'm such an optimistic person. I hold onto hope until it's something only I can see. It all hurts so much and hurts more the longer I hold onto it.