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@phereinnike Fuck off, all the things you’re mentioning are signs that LGBTQ+ individuals are being positively integrated into society, it’s actually a really good thing. Stop unknowingly stigmatising being LGBTQ+ by making it seem like the community shouldn’t be interacted with in social settings, that’s just stupid!

Ok, first of all, that was quite a rude way of wording your response. I hope it's just the way it came off in the moment. 

You're of course entitled to your opinion as I'm to mine and I don't pretend to change your stance with this, but I think there's a difference between ostracizing the lgbt community and pretending there's no social difference between someone who is lgbt+ and someone who is cisgender and heterosexual. 

The point of lgbt spaces is not to have a private club and not let straight people join, or being special snowflakes that have special bars. Lgbt people can interact with people in clubs, the work place, the beach or a damn bakery. We exist in society and participate in it. I’m as bisexual at the office as I am in a gay bar. The point is, for example, to be able to flirt with someone of your own gender knowing that there's a good chance if that person is in that space that they like people of their own gender. The point is being able to kiss your partner without getting weird looks from anyone around. The point is being able to wear what you want and present how you want and not have anyone ask if you're wearing a costume or it's a joke or something.

In the particular case I was talking about, a straight girl went to a gay club and, when a girl there asked her out, she was grossed out. She made a scene about how she was Not Gay, and it was Not Ok to ask her out to dance like that. The point of a gay club is exactly avoiding that kind of thing.

It’s not about separating anyone from the rest of society, it’s simply about catering to a need/want. Cis-het people can meet a potential partner anywhere. The work place, a café, the beach.... But not only is homosexuality/etc statistically less common, there’s also still enough people in the world that frown upon it. So creating a particular place where lgbt people can meet other lgbt people makes sense.

It’s like hijabi hair saloons. It’s not that their hair is special or that they can’t get their hair cut in another place; but how is it bad offering a specific UNCOMMON place that’ll make them feel safer and more comfortable?